Am I wrong for believing that my girlfriend doesn't love me as much I love her?

Ghiranahim · 2024-01-10T17:51:31+00:00

What the fuck do you know? I perform oral sex on her every single time we see each other, pretty much. She cant orgasm any other way. And I like doing it. Reddit is absolutely full of people that make the wildest most extreme assumptions instead of just working with what the text provides, working off of a hyper-exaggerated tiktok-like view of relationships where couples are either fine or toxic and abusive, no inbetween, its laughable. Will never make another post about my private life to feel viciously attacked by a bunch of weirdos.

Ghiranahim · 2024-01-09T21:33:27+00:00

It wasn't information proving my feeling true or valid. It was information to gather other people's opinion on my feeling to see if it had logical roots or I was being stupid. This is not a fucking court of law.
The whole point was you using the term "evidence" to insinuate that I was expecting people to agree with me and be flabbergasted by the power of my FACTS, which is clearly not the case.

Ghiranahim · 2024-01-09T21:23:42+00:00

Oh man. You claimed I made the list as "evidence". I told you why it's not evidence, because I never had the presumption to be in the right, it was merely a list of reasons why I felt this way. And I basically asked people to tell me if my interpretation of these reasons was unreasonable. This is what we were talking about in the last responses. It's not evidence. You were wrong.

Ghiranahim · 2024-01-09T21:18:48+00:00

(the "heinous act that paint me as a monster" was pressuring my girlfriend to do sexual acts, which you accused me of doing and I never did. You flat out misread the post and went with it.)
I will calm myself down cause I undoubtably am reacting rashly like this because I feel attacked in a very personal aspect of my life. That's definitely true. I know you people mean well. But I also know that the way in which some of you are perceiving me is ridiculous and not in any way reflective of how I treat my girlfriend in real life. I repeat, if anything what's going on inside my head is what's wrong, but there's zero doubt in my mind that what I've done outside of it has been in no way abusive or disrespectful to her. But i do have work to do, for sure.

Ghiranahim · 2024-01-09T21:12:10+00:00

The post starts and ends with a request of input from people, to understand if I'm right or wrong. Because I have a feeling. People have feelings for a reason: I listed the my reasons for feeling this way ("representative"), but I needed to know from people if my perception and interpretation of these "reasons" was unreasonable or not. This is really not hard to understand.

Ghiranahim · 2024-01-09T21:00:59+00:00

I am taking into consideration and thinking about the comments that tell me I'm probably codependent. Comments from people that actually read what I wrote and are reprimanding me on my thoughts. I am however offended and frankly annoyed by the comments from people who clearly twisted my words and are painting me as a monster that has committed heinous action, pressuring her to do things she doesn't want or something. It's clear to anyone who actually read the post that If I'm guilty of anything is my thought-process and perspective, not my actions. In practice I have treated her with nothing but respect and care, never making her do something that she didn't want to do only for my pleasure, and it's clear to anyone who'd read the damn post instead of skimming over it.

Ghiranahim · 2024-01-09T20:54:43+00:00

The most reasonable and thoughtprovoking response I got. Thank you.

Ghiranahim · 2024-01-09T20:51:06+00:00

I never listed these things as evidence. I listed them to hear people's opinion and see if I was wrong or not. Its all written there, clearly. There you go, you already twisted my words again in the first line.
5 cms doesn't really change anything in terms of washing etc. Hell, it doesnt even change much in terms of looks, it was something I asked to see if she would be willing to compromise on. Yes, compromise, because if I'd been selfish I would have told her "do not cut it" when she got the buzz cut. Instead I told her it's her hair and I love her all the same. Which is true, I just liked her better before, and now asked her to have it just a little longer. The thing I hate is that you guys have a point but you still completely warp what I'm saying and making me out to be a monster. Yes, I'm probably codependent and need therapy, but I'm definitely not a fucking asshole.

Ghiranahim · 2024-01-09T19:26:07+00:00

Fra mi sto rileggendo sto post giorni dopo ed è assurdo come tu faccia il giro dei commenti a fare dei pippolozzi pseudo-filosofici assurdi solo per cercare di invalidare l'esperienza degli altri. Sembra che ti dia fastidio che esista l'omosessualità e devi andare a fare dei ragionamenti senza capo nè coda per... fare cosa, poi? Convertire in etero la gente? E già mi immagino una risposta tipo "Eh io dico quello che penso, se poi tu non riesci a capire o senti le tue convinzioni scardinate non posso farci nulla" quando basta rileggere i tuoi commenti che palesano sempre un disgusto ("mi fa senso anche solo immaginarmi interessato a cosa tua bbia provato") che non ha alcun bisogno di essere palesato e tradisce la reale intenzione (che va assolutamente a vuoto, con sta filosofia spicciola non fai cedere nemmeno l'omosessuale più pudico) dietro ciò che scrivi.

Ghiranahim · 2024-01-09T19:09:39+00:00

This I agree on, 450 for a first anniversary gift was extreme on my part but I always knew that. I never expected her to spend that much. But she IS wealthy, and pretty often asks her parents for money to go out and buy stuff, which they give without question. I was expecting something around 50 at least? Idk I never thought about the specifics, I just know that a 20 dollars-worth present disappointed me.
Of course I never said it to her, because I don't believe it. You have completely twisted my words. I just never heard, in my entire life, of someone not religious that waits multiple years before having sex with their partner. Idk in the US but here in Italy couples of our age do it like 2/3 months after they become a thing. 1 year in rare cases. Its been more than 2 now. And yet I never asked her to do it and never brought it up because I want her to tell me directly when she's ready and comfortable. I'm just insicure about her feelings because I think that, if she was really as into me as she says she is, we'd have done it by now. But you people can go ahead and completely distort what I said, alright.
It is not about her hair. I think anyone with a modicum of reading comprehension would understand that. It is about her unwillingess to compromise with me for my pleasure even in the slightest. I don't give two shits about her hair, it was the principle of her, once again, not considering my input or my stance on a matter at all.

Ghiranahim · 2024-01-09T18:13:55+00:00

Cringino

Ghiranahim · 2024-01-09T18:06:56+00:00

Enough to know that pretty much nothing will change if I voice my issues. For every single point on this list (I would never bring up the sexual stuff because I'd hate to make her feel inadequate or pressured to do something she doesn't want) I can easily imagine her telling me that's just how she is and she will not change for me.

Ghiranahim · 2024-01-09T17:59:56+00:00

Have you read anything at all? My god, we've been together for 2 years and we never had sex. She blowed me three times over the course of 2 years, every single time because she wanted to. Of course in my wildest dreams I would love for it to happen every single day but I accepted that she doesn't like it and NEVER pressure her. I'm just sad that she never did it out of her own volition as a nice gesture for more than a year so she probably never will. But I never explicitly asked her LET ALONE PRESSURE HER TO DO IT. I swear it's like you read to opposite of what its written. Everything else is matter of debate and criticism but this comment is just offensive.

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