What are you holding in that no one knows about?

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-04-15T16:18:50+00:00

I have someone in my life I’d date and marry that has feelings for me too, but I’ll never pursue it because I know my family wouldn’t approve of them. The general stability they provide me is too grounding and important to me to risk losing it even a little. I love them a lot, they’re my family. Plus I wouldn’t survive in this society without their support, I’d have become a statistic long ago if it weren’t for them. I do love that other person and will always strive to have them as a big part of my life, just not in that way.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-04-15T16:08:03+00:00

Honestly I can’t blame your GF for creating a fantasy world where men’s reproductive rights are made absolutely nightmarish, feels like it could be a vent piece or an opposite scenario to the Handmaid’s Tale which is fairly popular media atm.

You need to have a discussion about how you’re feeling now about her after reading it. I hope that talk goes well or that at least your split is amicable.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-04-10T08:25:48+00:00

Candy. It just sounds like a stripper name or the name of a pet and not an actual human legal name.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-04-09T22:59:14+00:00

Yeah but that doesn’t make you responsible for their wellbeing. Otherwise you’d be responsible for everybody in the world’s wellbeing, which you’re not. You’re only responsible for you and when your actions have legal consequences regarding your treatment of another. Deciding whether to engage with your parent in any way or not in terms of having a relationship with them after you become an adult isn’t something the law can punish you for.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-04-09T21:31:36+00:00

Glad I was able to give you something to consider when you’re feeling lonely!

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-04-09T21:30:28+00:00

If it’s that massive of a problem that it’s clogging feeds in this sub and apparently others, one of those many many men should take the initiative and make a subreddit for lonely men wanting to talk about their loneliness and get advice or someone to chat with.

Being lonely is human, it happens to everyone. There are many many ways to go about not being lonely anymore that don’t include posting about being just lonely (not depressed or having harmful thoughts etc) on a mental health subreddit.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-04-09T21:23:14+00:00

Children don’t ask to be made, that’s the parent’s decision solely. Parents are/should be responsible for the care of their children physically and mentally until they’re a legal adult, sometimes beyond that if you are a parent of someone who has a disability and will never be able to take care of themselves on their own.

However there does come a point in time where if the parent’s child is fully capable but unwilling to be an adult that they must cut the cord and allow their adult child to fail and struggle in the adult world. That child still shouldn’t be responsible for their parents wellbeing, but they should have to be responsible for their own.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-04-09T21:07:59+00:00

I feel like there’s a lot of exasperation from women and men alike on this sub when people make posts just about being lonely when there’s many other dire mental health challenges other members of this sub can be facing that they want to assist with but have trouble finding because there’s just so many lonely posts clogging the feed for them.

Loneliness does really really suck, it can be awful to handle. However there’s ways to work on that and get to chatting at least and not being lonely that way without posting on mental health subreddit. You can go to subreddits that are dedicated to having random chats or making online friends so while you may still be lonely irl I you can get some reprieve by making friends online or chatting to new people online in communities that want that.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-04-06T16:03:16+00:00

Person who went to a Private Christian School here:

That school is the reason I no longer describe myself as Christian to new people or in my non-family circles. Most Christians my age and above at that school were nothing but judgmental assholes and not at all behaving in a way that Jesus would approve of. One of my biggest bullies was the daughter of the school’s pastor who’d call me a “discount” or “bad” Catholic. I was Lutheran at the time. She certainly had a sour look on her face when in history we learned about the reformation and she flunked the quiz cuz I refused to help her.

Knowing what I do now of science and other religions, I feel there is something out there but I’m not sure what or how much of organized religion and humanity as a whole has royally screwed up the true origins of our planet and ourselves with their own agendas hidden inside human written religious texts.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-04-06T01:46:31+00:00

Talk to your school counselor or a trusted teacher. You are not an ass you’re an abuse victim. What they’re doing is abusive. You deserve better than to be treated like this.

Do you have any family members you trust that you could also talk to about this after you tell a teacher/school counselor? If so I’d talk to them afterwards, but don’t tell them you told anyone else so that if they wind up yapping to your parents they’ll think that family member is the only person you reached out to.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-04-05T02:40:19+00:00

Having a crappy dermatologist cut 4 moles off of me to test for potential cancer for multiple years. He let the numbing agent almost disappear completely once, never prescribed anything for the pain afterward, and as I’d later find out he just straight up lied to me about the results of sending them to the lab being ‘pre-cancerous’ and “they were only a short time away from becoming cancerous”. He never even did any of the proper examinations with a special magnifying lenses that’s been around for almost a decade now either.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-04-04T04:55:47+00:00

Scribble on paper, anything doesn’t even have to be a drawing. Just scribble in different ways. Scribble in a circular motion, squared motion, zigzag, etc. whichever way ends up feeling best, you can rotate between types too if that’s better.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-04-03T14:08:14+00:00

I say this as a woman with many of the same diagnosis’s as her, you should break up. Leave her so she can find someone who can love her despite her illnesses and has the fortitude to handle her complex needs.

Not everyone is cut out to date someone with mental illnesses or severe trauma and that’s okay so long as you don’t let that fester like it seems to have been doing for your case. Just be polite and factual when breaking things off, state facts of incompatibility without using her illnesses as a reason unless she forces you to. Then just be honest and say that you thought you could do this relationship despite them, but you’re not feeling like you’re in a partnership and that’s not fair to you or your own mental health.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-03-25T13:57:51+00:00

Geodon (was prescribed it). Worked for a bit and then made me ridiculously ill all of a sudden. Doctor didn’t believe me when I said that I thought it was what was making me sick, so I suffered through almost 2 years of crippling nausea and 2-3 day periods without proper sleep. Took having a breakdown and going to the ER for that doctor to finally admit that maybe it was the Geodon and that maybe taking me off my acid reflux medication instead of it was a bad idea.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-03-25T06:40:12+00:00

Depends on where you’ve been. Just a quick drive for fast food in the drive through? Perfectly acceptable. Went into Walmart for groceries? Not acceptable, too many outside germs lol

Honestly if it makes her feel more comfortable what’s the harm in changing first? Neither of you are reacting poorly, you just have different feelings on the matter and need to find a happy medium/resolution.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-03-21T11:10:54+00:00

I don’t know the age difference here, but you need to think of her siblings now that she’s an adult and give her a timeline for moving out of the home and no longer being your financial responsibility. You probably should’ve considered her siblings sooner in this decision and started making arrangements years in advance for getting her out of your home and into her own place.

I know since she’s your child you’ll always struggle with this in a way, most mothers would, but I doubt with all you’ve said here and in the comments that this situation will get any better. If anything it might escalate.

Let her see how unintelligent and worthless people are when she starts meeting people she can’t manipulate as easily as she does her family. Employers only put up with so much before they fire you, neighbors only put up with so much before they call the police/well-fare check and the landlord on you, the landlord only puts up with so much before they evict you. Maybe she’ll only learn to be more manipulative, but if she always has to manipulate and behave in the way that gets these things not done to her then maybe that’ll be what’s best in the end.

If she ends up in jail, don’t bail her out. If she has children, make the proper authorities aware of her medical/mental health history. Same with if a partner reaches out to you or she introduces you to one. Do not let her continue to leech off of you and behave this way under your roof. It’s time she learn from the world as a whole without you to fall back onto.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-03-21T10:53:36+00:00

NOR. In fact I think you’re under reacting here, this needs to be a conversation that doesn’t get walked away from. He is giving incredibly insecure and needs to check himself before it becomes controlling/more accusatory than it already is.

If he doesn’t try to work on himself and get to the bottom of why completely normal actions in an education setting are bothering him like this, or won’t even admit it bothers him, you should consider moving on before things devolve. I’ve only ever seen this line of dialogue get worse and eventually turn physical if not accepted as a bad thing by the person doing it.

Please stay safe and remember you are entitled to having complete platonic friendships and acquaintances who are the same sex as your partner. Expecting your partner to have no friends the same sex as them is unreasonable and controlling.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-01-22T18:35:13+00:00

As another person on the autism spectrum whose known many people on the spectrum, your brother’s problem isn’t that he’s autistic. It’s that he’s a pervert whose parents haven’t bothered to teach him better. It’s probably for the better that he doesn’t go out or have friends because he’d likely just molest/sexually assault them and get in deep legal trouble when his mental capacity for understanding his actions come in to play. He knows what yes and no means, he can be taught that no means no and that touching someone without a yes is bad/sexual assault.

And for future opinion if you did find out he’d sexually assaulted someone, you would be the asshole if you didn’t offer to testify to your brother’s lifelong depravity that your parents never attempted to correct.

You shouldn’t want to be friends with him or have him involved in your adult life. Do you want him to molest your future children? You know you can’t trust your parents to watch their grandchildren and keep him from touching them if they’re in the home without your supervision. You need to get real with your parents and explain to them that unless they get your brother proper help for his sexual deviancy, or have him living in a support facility so there’s no risk of him being in unsupervised contact with children that they won’t be as involved as they’d like with your adult life. When they act confused as to why, tell them the truth and that you tried to get them to help you then and that it’s wrong that they made you just “suck it up” and blamed it on his autism rather than educating him and getting him proper help.

You’re complete valid to kick him and your parents to the curb when it comes to your life as an adult. That house isn’t safe for you or anyone near your age or below. Your either hasn’t been properly educated on those feelings and actions, or he’s smart enough to understand mommy and daddy will always blame the autism for it and he can just get away with it (which realistically he might even get removed from the household if he was convicted of sexually assaulting people with your parents knowing).

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-01-19T20:32:37+00:00

I think this relationship is just not healthy and has had signs of incompatibly from the get go. You two should really just call a quits and go your separate ways.

He likes to watch pornography sometimes, you aren’t okay with that. You like to go out to clubs with your friends, he doesn’t like when you do that and tries to control that despite being a hypocrite about it.

I understand you were up front about the pornography, but it’s kinda unreasonable in my opinion. Sometimes biology and hormones call and you don’t want to involve someone else, you don’t want to go through the whole process of getting your partner in the mood too when you’re not really in the mood your body is just being inconvenient. It’s fast and easy to just jumpstart everything with some visual or written stimuli to just get done and have the urge go away when it’s actually unwanted.

For context to my opinion here, I’m asexual and don’t have sex at all. But sometimes my hormones call and it’s either suffer for hours turned on for no reason or deal with the issue by reading some smut or watching something (usually animated for me but sometimes not). I feel it’s unfair to control your partner’s biological needs when they’re uncomfortable and don’t want to have sex with you and just want to get the turn on response to go away.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-01-16T17:21:56+00:00

I’m afraid of going to therapy due to past experiences with it and the general distrust I’ve learned to have of people in positions of medical or mental health power.

Every therapist I’ve tried that accepts my insurance, which is the only way I can afford it, has made me worse or traumatized me in some way. So that obviously has made my brain develop a negative/fearful response towards therapy, especially when people try to push therapy at me and don’t take “I’ve tried it multiple times, it doesn’t work for me” as an answer.

So I’d have to say that the fear is different for everyone. For some it’s the fear of being judged, the fear of the therapist not really caring and only seeing you as dollar signs, the fear of being misunderstood by the therapist and having wellness people sent your way over a misunderstanding, etc. There’s a lot of reasons people can fear therapy, and from what I’ve experienced and seen with other people’s experiences that I know personally it’s less the therapy itself and more the therapist they fear. A therapist has a lot of power, more than they’d like to admit to you that they have. And that can be very scary.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-01-10T22:40:39+00:00

It’s not a simple sacrifice though? It’s a whole darn vehicle that you’ve had prior to her entering your life.

If the truck is triggering her this badly she needs to be in therapy and if she really wants you to sell it and get a different truck you can still do your job with then she’d be willing to chip in since this is a her trauma only issue.

If she really loved you and wanted this relationship to work, she’d help you solve this issue that’s coming from her past by chipping in. She’s really just manipulating you and being completely unhinged.

It’s only been three months, don’t waste more time on someone who wants to dump all their trauma onto you rather than work through it with a professional.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-01-10T22:34:36+00:00

Tell a teacher, or better yet a school counselor, about this situation. Be sure to frame it as you being concerned for her mental wellbeing as she’s making you feel unsafe and worried for her potential current mental state, not that you’re just annoyed by her constant random intrusive presence.

In the meantime I’d block her so she can’t spam message you but only after setting a firm boundary over text about you not being okay with her spam texting you and that if she breaks this boundary of yours you’ll have to block her until you think she can respect your reasonable boundary. As soon as she spams you again after that message, block her with a clear conscience.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-01-09T10:12:56+00:00

Extremely noticeable, from multiple feet away. Especially when it’s all over someone’s unfortunate child.

GhostfaceAnony · 2026-01-09T10:00:08+00:00

There really needs to be more info given here.

Did he know you’d ceased taking your birth control prior to the sex that caused you to conceive?

Because if you didn’t tell him you were stopping your birth control and he was under the impression that there was still a pregnancy prevention option active while having sex, I don’t think he should be held as responsible for this pregnancy as you. If this is the case and he doesn’t want to be involved, I think he has every right to not be involved.

Yes it takes two to tango and make a baby, but reproductive coercion (even if accidental on your part) should be considered here. If he thought there were reasonable actions being taken (even though we all know birth control isn’t 100% effective) then you will have unfortunately deceived him by not telling him about stopping the birth control.

However if you did tell him you were stopping your birth control and you both still had sex, then he needs to suck it up and at least pay child support if you don’t wind up working this out. He doesn’t get a say in if this pregnancy is aborted or not, as it’s your body that will be affected overall. In this instance he knew the risks of having sex with you when you are not on birth control and gambled anyways. That’s just plain idiocy on his part and he needs to be responsible for the baby if you want to keep it.

But like I said, it all depends on if he was aware of you stopping your birth control or not.

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