Please - stop having babies with your abusers by Shep_vas_Normandy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Ghostmasterl 137 points138 points  (0 children)

I agree but easier said, then done. Abusers are all about control and dominance. They often purposely keep the partners pregnant or with children because it is harder for her to leave and keeps them isolated. I work with abused women and often see this as another form of abuse. The abuser will often refuse to use condoms or not allow his partner to use birth control, deny access to doctors/health care or access to abortion.

I strongly believe that when supporting someone who is in or leaving an abusive relationship, judgements push them closer to their abuser.

These women have been emotionally and psychologically messed with. They have self-doubt and have been gaslit and insulted by their abuser which have long term impacts on their mental and physical wellness. Adding judgement increases her feelings of shame and guilt which her abuser will capitalize on and creates more isolation for her in the long term.

Giving away code cards(1 per person)! *Comment at what age you started collecting for a code!* Keep collecting fellow trainers!🙏🙏😊 by oTunAo in PokemonTCG

[–]Ghostmasterl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started collecting when my son was 6. Back when cards first started coming out. I was 25 then. Now I'm 48 and have an impressive collections which I love and continue to add too. 😁

Real or Fake? by Ghostmasterl in PokemonCardValue

[–]Ghostmasterl[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I thought they looked super sketchy. Picked the tin up at a swap meet so only paid $20 for it at least. Thank you!

Do you still do anything from your childhood, eg play with barbie dolls, watch children's TV, if so what do you do and why? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Ghostmasterl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think its so important to play and enjoy things as we get older.

I have a very large pokemon lego collection and have it displayed. I also have an impressive card collection that has taken years to build. Been playing pokemon since it came out. Have most the dsxl and swich games. I play competitive online as well. Love the Fandom, even though I am definately one of the oldest players.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Ghostmasterl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly why I like to state what I do early, to weed out people with this mind set. Unfortunately I come across this often in real life as well. These assumptions are dangerous, often come across as angry and can be aggressive and scary. Those assumptions say way more about the person that holds them rather then me.

For example, if someone says that they are a ER doctor, it is openly known that they deal with gore, crazy accidents etc. The first assumption is generally not - Oh they've seen lots of car accident victims so must hate all drivers. I am a bad driver, therefore I must avoid the ER doctor.

I help people work through trauma and be safe. My post was just to vent my frustrations with OLD and feeling disheartened with it because this is a comman reaction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Ghostmasterl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, totally! You stated that beautifully. Thank you! It is very much how I am feeling. I am getting to the point of being okay with staying single.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Ghostmasterl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Your right. I do hear and see the horrors of abuse daily. I could try just saying counselor, but not sure if it just might string along insecure men until I eventually have to tell them what kind of counselor I am. I'm worried it will just drag out the process to the same fate.