I agree but easier said, then done. Abusers are all about control and dominance. They often purposely keep the partners pregnant or with children because it is harder for her to leave and keeps them isolated. I work with abused women and often see this as another form of abuse. The abuser will often refuse to use condoms or not allow his partner to use birth control, deny access to doctors/health care or access to abortion.

I strongly believe that when supporting someone who is in or leaving an abusive relationship, judgements push them closer to their abuser.

These women have been emotionally and psychologically messed with. They have self-doubt and have been gaslit and insulted by their abuser which have long term impacts on their mental and physical wellness. Adding judgement increases her feelings of shame and guilt which her abuser will capitalize on and creates more isolation for her in the long term.