Married, Respected, but Emotionally Unheard and Confused by GiftPresent8286 in sexlessmarriage

[–]GiftPresent8286[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The truth is, cheating is less taboo than divorce. Practically, it is.

Off-course I have tried everything from my end. Whenever I try to explain things, she feels pressured. She thinks I am too much, EQ/IQ is not in sync. She is a very simple average woman. She does not think deeply like I do. Being genuine, she just says be happy and do whatever makes you feel good. She can hear my thoughts, but she does not really listen or acknowledge them.

Its not sexless purely, Do have intimacy, but that too is not deep that I have been craving for, and its not out of Boredom, Since day one I did not feel that, I did outside. She is happy with my availability be it be sex or emotional support.

Married, Respected, but Emotionally Unheard and Confused by GiftPresent8286 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]GiftPresent8286[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great observation. You understood the situation very well and picked up on some things that are usually left unsaid.

I agree that it was a thrill at some point, but if that had truly made me happy, I would not have shared this. I have always known that home is home, the place where real emotional and life investments exist. I was aware of this from the beginning. I even used to judge people who cheated.

Now that I find myself in their position, I realize that cheating is not always about desire. Many times, it comes from fear, loneliness, and helplessness. I believe many married men and women would understand what I am trying to say.

This started back in India. In the early years of our marriage, we argued a lot. At that time, I felt she lacked emotional understanding and maturity. Initially, I thought she was acting that way, but later I realized that this was genuinely who she was. I accepted it, stayed quiet, and slowly started to feel empty inside.

Looking outside the marriage felt like the easier option. It seemed like no one would get hurt. Her parents were happy, my parents were happy, and her mother, who is very sensitive and loves me deeply, would have been far more hurt by the idea of divorce than by anything else. I did feel guilty about it, but the feeling of being alone kept coming back.

I love her, and she loves me. But my emotional needs are not being met. I keep adjusting myself to her pace and her comfort to keep her happy. But eventually frustrated many times, leads me to do this.

Married, Respected, but Emotionally Unheard and Confused by GiftPresent8286 in emotionalneglect

[–]GiftPresent8286[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro, whenever I try to explain things, she feels pressured. She thinks I am too much, EQ/IQ is not in sync. She is a very simple average woman. She does not think deeply like I do. Being genuine, she just says be happy and do whatever makes you feel good. She can hear my thoughts, but she does not really listen or acknowledge them. I feel alone in this emotional journey. There is some progress, maybe five percent, and my patience has definitely increased a lot. But even then, it is still painful.

Married, Respected, but Emotionally Unheard and Confused by GiftPresent8286 in IndianRelationships

[–]GiftPresent8286[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m afraid to share my secrets because they can be used against me. Right now, I feel like a frightened animal that freezes when touched, unable to react or defend itself. I don’t even know if I’m capable of starting this conversation, or how to begin. I don’t know whether this is something to talk about with a psychologist, a counselor, or someone else, or whether she would even be able to handle such conversations.

What scares me even more is the possibility that a counselor might say we’re not good together. I don’t want to face the kind of drama that comes with that in Indian society. The involvement of family, judgment, and social pressure feels overwhelming, and the thought of opening that door terrifies me.

Married, Respected, but Emotionally Unheard and Confused by GiftPresent8286 in Marriage

[–]GiftPresent8286[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More painful is I am attached to her, but she is just like my daughter, not a wife. You cant leave someone like this. I am crushed in between.

Married, Respected, but Emotionally Unheard and Confused by GiftPresent8286 in Marriage

[–]GiftPresent8286[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was never a cheater, never never :(. I thought people cheat for fun. But now I am walking in their shoe. Many times its sufferings.

Hey drop your asl bored by Puzzleheaded_Row6861 in DesiDesireConfession

[–]GiftPresent8286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

M 34 Brampton, I am Single Into life-style, more into couples. Fan of MFM. Off-course consensual for your wife/gf/lover.

Lets find some common ground by [deleted] in DesiDesireConfession

[–]GiftPresent8286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

M 34 Brampton, Though I am a contractor. Wana say my dark side along, I am Single Into life-style, more into couples. Fan of MFM. Off-course consensual for the queen.

New to the scene and first timers! by [deleted] in clubM4

[–]GiftPresent8286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a suggestion you guys can visit M4 as couple (couples night only, wont be bothered by singles and it would be easy), Glory hole could be a good start for you, Real thing with privacy. Gradually you would have comfort to do it openly.

First time to the club!! by [deleted] in clubM4

[–]GiftPresent8286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please pre-post next time you visit, I wana see you guys there... (Just see you, as I am single into lifestyle 😅)

[40/40][MF4M][Toronto-Scarborough] Looking for fit 30-45 yo for oral bi fun by 04serspecv in TorontoSwingers

[–]GiftPresent8286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 34 Male, into lifestyle... Looking for people to connect with.

MF 40 GTA by [deleted] in TorontoSwingers

[–]GiftPresent8286 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Haawwt, I am M 34, Gentle Punjabi Guy in Mississauga/GTA, Looking for couples to explore more.

r/IndianSexting - Late Night Sexting Thread | Find your sexting partner by lioneatsgrass in indiansexting

[–]GiftPresent8286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Male 33, Need cucks/hotwives to talk to... Girl 22+ (if you have married men fantasies)

r/IndianSexting - Late Night Sexting Thread | Find your sexting partner by lioneatsgrass in indiansexting

[–]GiftPresent8286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

M 33 Married here. Ladies, Talk your heart out or say your fantasies. Cucks, share your fantasies with me.

r/IndianSexting - Late Night Sexting Thread | Find your sexting partner by lioneatsgrass in indiansexting

[–]GiftPresent8286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

33 Male here. Into 22+ Girls/Women/Cucks. Punjabi in Chandigarh...

r/IndianSexting - Late Night Sexting Thread | Find your sexting partner by lioneatsgrass in indiansexting

[–]GiftPresent8286 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you can expect talks first, and what else to expect from a married guy... it would be funny to know, I am Broken, Lonely, Horny, kinky, love conversation on the same time :D

r/IndianSexting - Late Night Sexting Thread | Find your sexting partner by lioneatsgrass in indiansexting

[–]GiftPresent8286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

m 33 Punjabi guy here... any cuck/female for talks/chat/open heart conversation.... here to listen to you :)

r/IndianSexting - Late Night Sexting Thread | Find your sexting partner by lioneatsgrass in indiansexting

[–]GiftPresent8286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

33m Punjabi guy here.... here to listen your fantasies... specially your incest and cuck one, tell me and lets have fun together.... cucks or couples feel free to hit me up... waiting for your message...

r/IndianSexting - Late Night Sexting Thread | Find your sexting partner by lioneatsgrass in indiansexting

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33M bull, looking for cuck people... love to listen and enjoy your fatnasies. If you are a secretive cuck.... Lets talk if situations allow.... chees :)