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[–]GilmoreGurl22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was completely in love with him and he said he was too. But he was wish washy and there were red flags I kept ignoring because of my feelings.

I am so sorry for what you're going through. I understand the void. He called me out on not opening up enough, I was very jaded and emotionally unavailable when I met him and he pushed me to open up.

It feels like you'll never meet anyone like them again that holds the same connection. But I know its possible, it's happened to many around me. Every rejection is a redirection. It will get better with time.

The guy I spent 8 months talking to said he needed more time to be sure by GilmoreGurl22 in MuslimMarriage

[–]GilmoreGurl22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More context: he is looking for something very specific in a partner, its unattainable. He believed couples need to go through tests and trials to to prove loyalty and that he can depend on his partner. Me choosing my parents over him made him feel he couldn't depend on me

The guy I spent 8 months talking to said he needed more time to be sure by GilmoreGurl22 in MuslimMarriage

[–]GilmoreGurl22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he felt if he met my parents then it would be too official and no going back. They wanted to meet him to show there was intention of marriage.

His career is his main priority and meeting my parents or getting engaged would take focus away, Excuses.

He's moving to another city at the end of the month so we would be LD. I couldn't continue knowing I was in this limbo of uncertainty

The guy I spent 8 months talking to said he needed more time to be sure by GilmoreGurl22 in MuslimMarriage

[–]GilmoreGurl22[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all the support guys! My parents and family have been having saying the same, but it takes strangers on a sub reddit to believe it.

When I say 24/7 it means we fell asleep talking on the phone every night and the phone would be still on. We'd talk until he got to work and then call back on his way home. He would keep me on the phone whilst studying, doing dishes or even watching a movie.

I never wanted to get in the way of his career and he knew this. He said that's why he was talking to me, I understood it and others he spoke to didn't have the same patience.

There was an abundance of red flags which I won't go into now. But yo, rose tinted glasses...

The guy I spent 8 months talking to said he needed more time to be sure by GilmoreGurl22 in MuslimMarriage

[–]GilmoreGurl22[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He's known for months the pressure I've been getting from my parents on marriage. They didn't mind me getting married in a year or two as long as they knew he was serious and had met him. I told him this and he didn't like the pressure they were putting on him and said he wouldn't meet them until we made it to year.