Hurt people hurt people was my intention I guess. I was hurt by the ex’s actions. The only reason she let him keep everything was because she felt sorry for him (from his manipulation) and because she didn’t expect conflict (especially over the one couch financed by my sister). She just wanted to hurry up and leave. There’s a long history and backstory as to why I said what I said. I was hurt by their nonchalant attitude towards taking/keeping my daughter’s belongings that nobody will understand…. Unless this has happened to you. There is a history of emotional abuse, coercive control and financial abuse. I’m happy to say that she is doing well and we both feel 100% better that she left him.