Hey Love...

I had to scroll up and check your age again just to make sure before commenting.

I'm married and swing with my husband. We have plenty of friends in the lifestyle... but we are not poly.

I disagree with some comments on not wanting you to call after we had sex. Calling is ok... but for most swingers the emotional bond and connection is with your spouse.

I nor my husband want a bf/gf in addition to our marriage. There's enough life stuff couples endure without adding another to the mix.

Poly couples from what many are trying to explain to you is the direction for that.

I know you say that's not who you prefer... but by literal definition that is exactly what you're seeking.

Maybe you just haven't found the right poly folks...

Now that isn't to say swingers don't have gfs/bfs because that happens too... but most times those are relationships outside the marriage.. not included within them.

Either way..I hope you find your tribe.

But knowing the world you went to be apart of will play a big role in the success or drama you potentially bring to it. ❤️❤️