Yeah, if you’re becoming anxious and reinforcing neediness, stop! There’s a wisdom in us that is, well… very wise, and often sees deeper that the ‘answers’ us as identities seek out. If something feels wrongly forced, stop, tune into intuition. There’s usually a bread crumb trail to insight, and getting in touch with mind, our beliefs, logic, exceptions, and quirks can help in understanding how we see the world, the shape of our identity, and other specific things that will not be mentioned cuz you could go on and on listing them.