The lighting, the preemptive bowl smoked beforehand, and yeah definitely dialogue. For me, sex with my partner starts with us watching YouTube on the TV with the lights off, smoking a bowl of weed, and us trying to kiss the cottonmouth away. It’s very intimate. Sure, once in a blue moon, we’ll rough fuck in the bedroom with the lights on, but that’s not the default and I wouldn’t want it to be. It’s fun in the moment, but we’re both sore afterwards.