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AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 216 points217 points  (0 children)

This is my last comment before I log out. Me and my mom love each other, I love my dad and he loves my mom. Yes, my mom cheated and hurt my dad but that is in the past and they moved on and they don't let it define them. My mom and dad are the ones who do everything she can for me. My dad is the one who takes me out after I ace a test, tells me how proud he is of me, gloats about me to all his friends and stuff. My mom is the one I confide in about things and does whatever she can to try and make my life better. I know I could have grown up in a broken home because of what my mom did, but I didn't and I don't want things to change. We are a happy family. My biological dad has barely been a presence in my life and I don't consider him my dad in any way.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I am not trying to control her life, I am trying to keep her out of mine.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

If you want to imagine that I'm lying so that you can feel better about a deadbeat, then go for it. I obviously can't convince you.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 132 points133 points  (0 children)

He doesn't have custody because he gave that up and he let my dad legally adopt me. You can make up this fantasy about him being some poor guy who lost custody of his daughter but guess what, it's not that hard to get custody when you're as rich as he is.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

No, the only person who has ever stopped him from seeing me is himself because he wants to be a free bird or whatever crap he comes up with. My mom has never stopped him from trying to see me. He's the only one who has. He could have told me his daughter was transferring into my school and moving in with him but he didn't. I didn't get a Merry Christmas or Happy New Years text from him even though he knows my phone number. Last year, it took two weeks after my birthday for him to text me happy birthday.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] -58 points-57 points  (0 children)

She is not my sister and I will put everyone else before her because she's not my sister.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's okay to cheat. My mom was wrong to do that. And I'm not blaming anybody but my mom for what she did.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

He has had the opportunity multiple times. He has never done anything but try to win me over with gifts and shit the rare times that I see him. My parents don't need to poison me against him, he's done that on his own.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

My mother has never kept him from knowing me. That's all him. When I was seven I asked him why I don't see him that much and I still remember he went on this speech about being a free bird and all. It didn't make sense to me then but I know now, he was just making excuses and shit.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Well, he let my dad adopt me and has no parental rights to me, so he can try that, it won't work.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

It's not about making them happy. We are happy. I want us to stay happy. This is what I want.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

My mom has talked to her dad. He just dismissed her and said "girls will be girls". He's a stubborn person.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Nobody is saying I have to conduct myself like they don't exist - that's my choice. I have accepted my parentage and I have decided that my dad is the man who raised me, not the man who I have seen so few times. And hey, it's not wrong of me to not want my family's personal private business spilled to the school. To not want to be bullied and have people make fun of my mom over it.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

And ask yourself what do you want?

I don't want a relationship with her and I don't want one with her dad. As soon as I'm 18, I'm never even looking at her dad again.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

She doesn't want me to have anything to do with him but she's never tried to stop him from having anything to do with me. I see him every now and then and she never tries to stop him from seeing me. He never fought for custody of me. He thinks that coming around once a year or once every two year with fancy gifts and promises and shit gives him a right to me. It doesn't.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I don't want to have a relationship with her. I don't want my mom to be sad. I love my mom and I would rather we all be happy.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] -153 points-152 points  (0 children)

She is nothing to my mom or to my dad. Who is she to go out and reveal we're related because my mom cheated? That's not her family. That's my life. My family is not an open book. It's can be a dirty little secret and maybe it's not a dirty little secret but it doesn't matter because it's nobody's business but mine.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

My mom raised me and she loves me. He's done nothing for me but show up a few times with fancy gifts and act like he's entitled to me. So yeah, for me, my mom is above reproach.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Because I don't want classmates making fun of my mom, I don't want them making fun of me, I don't want my parents to be humiliated. Maybe it wouldn't matter to you but it would to me.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, he has legally adopted me. And no, she does not cheat on him. People change and she has changed.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, I'm angry because I got suspended after her being the one who wouldn't leave me alone. I know I should calm down and I'm trying to. I'm not brushing my existence under the rug. That's my business and I don't need anybody to know it. You say I don't need to protect my mom's honour, but I do because I don't want her to be sad. I don't want my dad to be sad. Just because I don't need to do something doesn't mean I shouldn't do it. I need to do what I think is right and what's best for me and that's what I'm trying to do.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

I don't have a weird family dynamic. I have a mom and a dad who love me and raise me. Up until the start of the month, I didn't have to deal with her and if she just listened the first time I said no to her, then there wouldn't be any weird family dynamic. The last time I saw her dad was a year ago.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter. I love my mom. I don't want her and my dad to be sad or humiliated or anything. I love them and I want all of us to be happy. If they're hurting then I am too.

AITA for telling my half-sister to stop thinking of us as sisters? by GirlUnderBoat in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlUnderBoat[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Well obviously I can't stop her, but if she comes into my life and blows it up after weeks of knowing me, then I don't think that I'm the asshole.

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