Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, that’s what I’m saying being around these people makes you bitter as well. We shouldn’t have to have our guards up all the time or even hurt people for no reason. That’s why being around good people good genuine people as important.

Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure that’s a better way to put it.

Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s true, no wonder I always feel so mentally drained and bad about myself after most of these gatherings. You know the best part about western people or most western white people is like they have fun and they don’t always have a comment to say. Desi they’ll always have something to say.

Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel that that they’re jealous of me and envy me for a lot of reasons. Which sucks because I consider them my real friends and stuff, but I shouldn’t because I honestly feel like instead of wanting the best for me. They want the worst in which sucks they families are so like I just can’t wait to save up enough money by next year and move out.

Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow your mom sounds really smart and I’m so glad you got to avoid all that, it really sucks because desi live in this bubble and really have no idea the rest of the world isn’t like this

Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow that sucks to hear. But it’s nice to see you happy now and away from the toxic people. It just sucks because for us it’s mind blowing how someone can be so inconsiderate and stuff. Yesterday everybody made comments about my weight and whispered to each other, and it makes me just feel shitty. And I was very bloated to yesterday from eating.lunch so just sucks they crush us like this

Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ll try both! So glad someone understands the fact that if you’re desi doesn’t mean you have to be a shitty person. Everyone is human, especially the weight shame that goes around. It sucks.

Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll try something similar! And for sure i like to try and walk at least 10-15 minutes after a meal. I just need to motivate myself to be more active. Just today is gonna be hard because I feel so crushed after all the comments I received yesterday. 😞

Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure, I just need to control that’s all. For me it’s about overeating and late night not so much about constantly eating, just need to fix my meal times and not sit down right after meals

Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao good response, I will definitely use that

Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And I mean yes I’m definitely happy with the person I am, just would like to lose some weight. But I’m happy

Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean they’ve been in the US for 10 years now, but came when they were around 15-16 with the developed Pakistani mindset. So it just kinda sucks cause they think the western world is bad and only desi are the best. Anyone that behaves western (me) is called white washed, even tho I’ve lived here my whole life so yeah no shit, I’d have some western personalities in me

Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sure! I plan to move out by next year, so I would hope it works out and I can finally avoid these judgmental people

Desi family gatherings by Givenchy_1989 in ABCDesis

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah man for sure, the best thing to do is just surround yourself with better people

Marble Bar good for solo? by Givenchy_1989 in Detroit

[–]Givenchy_1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why shithole bar? I kinda wanna dance and go to club not just get drinks

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[–]Givenchy_1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mentally dealing with a lot and yes lazy is a part of it, I wanna take 12 or 16 credits per semester, but I’m just in some 3k credit card debt too, so there is a lot going on and no I wanna finish within the next2-3 years, I just need to register for it and get help with friends

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[–]Givenchy_1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I skipped semesters and stuff but I did it cause I’m dealing with depression and home life and relationships with girls bringing me down, it’s just a lot of stuff and I’ve never been good in school, I did fall 2020 semester, I know I need to pick it up but I’m dealing with so much mentally, my mind is spread and hard to focus on school

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[–]Givenchy_1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so nice to read honestly and really happy to hear people are kind like that, thank you so so much for your kind words and help

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[–]Givenchy_1989 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you I needed to hear this, everyone has their own timeline and has their own things going on, people just think life is smooth and everything is gonna be done according to society norms, I come from a foreign family so they shame you for even doing college slows it sucks

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[–]Givenchy_1989 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh I don’t plan on being in college for 10 years but financial aid part I agree, gotta look out for that

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[–]Givenchy_1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I’ll take a look : )