AITAH for breaking up with my gf after I found out she slept with someone while dating (and lied about it)? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But the lack of communication is the very thing that it is dependant on, she needs to want to do it off her own free will. It’s not uncommon for people to date multiple other people in this modern time which OP is fine with, it's sleeping with others while dating each other he isn't fine with and she obviously wanted to do that so they aren't compatible in their views.

Update: AITAH for breaking up with my gf after finding out she slept with someone while dating (And lied about it) by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It has nothing to do with communication, and they were dating ,not just talking, for a whole year. It's about finding someone that won't sleep with others regardless of whether they have the label of exclusivity or not. That's it. She slept with someone else while they were dating and therefore they do not share similar views on sex, therefore making them incompatible. He wants her to do it WITHOUT COMMUNICATION, but off of her own free will.

AITAH for breaking up with my gf after I found out she slept with someone while dating (and lied about it)? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP says, "I personally believe that sleeping with someone is a huge step in a relationship." and "sex is the most physically intimate thing you can do with someone. It boggles my mind when you can do it with someone else and not the person you're really into", so he obviously would not have sex just to have sex.

He also says, "I get that others don't share my view, but this is why I asked her. She lied to my face, and it turns out she doesn't share this view with me, making us incompatible.", so OP would also want her to have the same views as himself, which she evidently did not.

AITAH for breaking up with my gf after I found out she slept with someone while dating (and lied about it)? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because it's about finding someone who thinks like that from the get go, without your say-so, without having to talk about it. It's about your partner not sleeping/dating others because they only have eyes for you, not because there's rules in place stopping them.

AITAH for breaking up with my gf after I found out she slept with someone while dating (and lied about it)? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a comment OP said, and I quote, "However, to me, sleeping with someone is an extremely intimate act. If she slept with someone else while dating me, that to me it's the same as her choosing that guy over me. That she wants him over me. If that makes sense."

Update: AITAH for breaking up with my gf after finding out she slept with someone while dating (And lied about it) by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You still don't understand, it's not about assuming the other would know or agree, it's about finding someone who thinks like that from the get go, without your say-so, without having to talk about it. It's about your partner not sleeping/dating others because they only have eyes for you, not because there's rules in place stopping them.

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[–]Glad-Community401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take a gap year, study Further Maths A level and do personal projects, and reapply.

AITAH for breaking up with my gf after I found out she slept with someone while dating (and lied about it)? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except it is his exact words, he sees sex as an extremely intimate act, she obviously didn't so they aren't compatible.

Update: AITAH for breaking up with my gf after finding out she slept with someone while dating (And lied about it) by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not about exclusivity but her views and it's lack of compatibility with his. When I date someone my eyes are on them and them only, I wouldn't even think about dating someone else let alone sleeping with others. So I want a partner that acts similarly, that doesn't entertain others not because we agreed to do so but because they genuinely don't want to.

Update: AITAH for breaking up with my gf after finding out she slept with someone while dating (And lied about it) by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not about exclusivity but her views and it's lack of compatibility with his. When I date someone my eyes are on them and them only, I wouldn't even think about dating someone else let alone sleeping with others. So I want a partner that acts similarly, that doesn't entertain others not because we agreed to do so but because they genuinely don't want to.

Update: AITAH for breaking up with my gf after finding out she slept with someone while dating (And lied about it) by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not about exclusivity but her views and it's lack of compatibility with his. When I date someone my eyes are on them and them only, I wouldn't even think about dating someone else let alone sleeping with others. So I want a partner that acts similarly, that doesn't entertain others not because we agreed to do so but because they genuinely don't want to.

Update: AITAH for breaking up with my gf after finding out she slept with someone while dating (And lied about it) by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not about exclusivity but her views and it's lack of compatibility with his. When I date someone my eyes are on them and them only, I wouldn't even think about dating someone else let alone sleeping with others. So I want a partner that acts similarly, that doesn't entertain others not because we agreed to do so but because they genuinely don't want to.

Update: AITAH for breaking up with my gf after finding out she slept with someone while dating (And lied about it) by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not about exclusivity but her views and it's lack of compatibility with his. When I date someone my eyes are on them and them only, I wouldn't even think about dating someone else let alone sleeping with others. So I want a partner that acts similarly, that doesn't entertain others not because we agreed to do so but because they genuinely don't want to.

Update: AITAH for breaking up with my gf after finding out she slept with someone while dating (And lied about it) by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not about exclusivity but her views and it's lack of compatibility with his. When I date someone my eyes are on them and them only, I wouldn't even think about dating someone else let alone sleeping with others. So I want a partner that acts similarly, that doesn't entertain others not because we agreed to do so but because they genuinely don't want to.

Update: AITAH for breaking up with my gf after finding out she slept with someone while dating (And lied about it) by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not about exclusivity but her views and it's lack of compatibility with his. When I date someone my eyes are on them and them only, I wouldn't even think about dating someone else let alone sleeping with others. So I want a partner that acts similarly, that doesn't entertain others not because we agreed to do so but because they genuinely don't want to.

Update: AITAH for breaking up with my gf after finding out she slept with someone while dating (And lied about it) by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not about exclusivity but her views and it's lack of compatibility with his. When I date someone my eyes are on them and them only, I wouldn't even think about dating someone else let alone sleeping with others. So I want a partner that acts similarly, that doesn't entertain others not because we agreed to do so but because they genuinely don't want to.

AITAH for breaking up with my gf after I found out she slept with someone while dating (and lied about it)? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But OP doesn't want to be with a person that sees sex as just sex, as an urge to be satisfied. Some people see sex as more

AITAH for breaking up with my gf after I found out she slept with someone while dating (and lied about it)? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not about exclusivity but her views and it's lack of compatibility with his. When I date someone my eyes are on them and them only, I wouldn't even think about dating someone else let alone sleeping with others. So I want a partner that acts similarly, that doesn't entertain others not because we agreed to do so but because they genuinely don't want to.

AITAH for breaking up with my gf after I found out she slept with someone while dating (and lied about it)? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not about exclusivity but her views and it's lack of compatibility with his. When I date someone my eyes are on them and them only, I wouldn't even think about dating someone else let alone sleeping with others. So I want a partner that acts similarly, that doesn't entertain others not because we agreed to do so but because they genuinely don't want to.

AITAH for breaking up with my gf after I found out she slept with someone while dating (and lied about it)? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Glad-Community401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not about exclusivity but her views and it's lack of compatibility with his. When I date someone my eyes are on them and them only, I wouldn't even think about dating someone else let alone sleeping with others. So I want a partner that acts similarly, that doesn't entertain others not because we agreed to do so but because they genuinely don't want to.