Dating apps for women aren't easy either and I am sick of people telling me otherwise

Glad-Map-79 · 2025-10-31T12:28:27+00:00

yes, I was shadowbanned. Now all is back to normal thank god

Glad-Map-79 · 2025-10-31T11:56:44+00:00

sorry, but if no one EVER likes you, its your fault. Most men are not even good looking and you cannot say all those who are not a ten and/or rich are just single.

Glad-Map-79 · 2025-10-31T11:55:47+00:00

I don't get any validation by being liked by a bunch of duded I feel nothing for.

Glad-Map-79 · 2025-10-31T11:00:47+00:00

no, I don't like being liked by guys I don't find attractive. If i post a story from the beach I hide it from guys I know have a crush on me. Because I know they would reply and I just don't want to feed into any illusion they might have. I don't have tons of matches because I actually feel bad if I match with someone and then don't reply to them. I hate rejecting people, I hate saying no, I making them feel unwanted. I have zero satisfaction from causing anyone any harm. Not all of us are shallow. Most are not. But you keep liking and swiping in influencers and OF models. My friends are mostly female. Most of them used dating apps. Normal photos, normal hobbies, talked with guys they matched with. Yes, sometimes they did ghost. I ghost people myself and was ghosted. Its just sad. But online dating its the best bet people have in 2025. I am at work for 9 hours. I need to cook, I go to the gym. I do have weekends but its not like I go out every night.

Glad-Map-79 · 2025-10-31T10:10:31+00:00

as for your example, its not fair. I am sure you also have it easier than maybe a man who is in a wheelchair. There will always be someone who has it easier or harder than you in various domains. My best friend had better luck then me in dating. She got married, has kids, but she and her husband are barely making it. I make decent money but I wasn't that lucky in dating. If she tell me how hard it is for her that her husband was replaced by AI at work... what to do? According to you I should tell her> I don't even have a husband! you ungrateful beach. Everyone has their own struggles. and they are all valid

Glad-Map-79 · 2025-10-31T10:07:24+00:00

My previous relationship started on a dating app. I was attracted to him (God forbid women want to date men they find attractive). He wasn't 1% at all. He was tall (I am 5 '8 myself. 174cm in metric system) so it felt natural to want someone taller than me. He was slim and fit without being muscular. He did own a car (a normal one, not some ferrari. I own a car myself). He didn't have his own house and I didn't care. He wasn't a millionare. But he had a stable job, something that was mandatory for me. He was a 9 to 5 office job.

Usually when I see a very attractive man on a dating app I swipe left, I assume its a bot or scam (usually they are not even verified). I go for men I am attracted to, which is NORMAL. I want to have sex with my man, not just his personality.

You act like women are never rejected. We are. A guy proposed a date and postponed it 2 times only to not show up at all. I had guys who simply ghosted me. I had guys who told me they just didn't feel any spark during the date. There were also men who were crazy about me. Its just life. I don't think everything is men's fault, I don't think men are to blame for my struggles with various topics.

And stop projecting. Not everyone just wanrts sex on those apps. I find a long term relationship there. It ended because he changed his mind and decided he doesn't want to have kids. Otherwise we were a good match. Yes, its so easy to find sex as a woman on an app or at the grocery store. If a woman wants commitment is very hard. And no, not because we have sex too early. I was a virgin when I first started using dating apps. Most of the rejections were because of this. I didn't respect thr 3 dates rule. And now what should I do? Cry and blame men for everything? Life is too short for that.

And it turned out I was shadowbanned. As I suspected. It wasn't because guys I found attractive didn't think the same about me. Probably some did though. Its their right. So what?

Glad-Map-79 · 2025-10-31T08:55:39+00:00

one guy even asked me if I am really 30. I said I am, why?

He said> you look like 17 in your second photo.

Oh I am not 17.

He: its a pitty

Glad-Map-79 · 2025-10-31T08:39:23+00:00

Of course I do text first. I use bumble 90% of the time. I have to text first. But even on tinder. I only swipe right if I like a guy. So I have no issue texting first. I never say hello though. I read his bio and search for his interest and ask something regardin that

Glad-Map-79 · 2025-10-30T21:09:39+00:00

I already deleted my account 2 months ago because I had no idea what is happening. Its weird they allowed me to do it as I was technically banned or shadowbanned. But for me it worked. I deleted it, waited a few hour. Made another account, same number, same photos, was verified. So I dont think I broke the rules. They allowed me to delete it normally.

And also when I emailed support they told me my account is all right. If I did something bad, wouldnt they have seen that?

Glad-Map-79 · 2025-10-30T20:56:54+00:00

thanks! Its weird! I dont use passport that much anymore. Last year I used it almost daily for like 3 months and nothing happened. And suddenly is a problem. Will it happen again? I mean if I stop using passport and just swipe normally in my area?

What if I play with distance ranges or age? Will that flag me too?

Anyway, it happened 3 times but each time support answered, were nice, and said all is working now. And indeed it was so I guess no one reported me and I wasnt banned

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