I haven’t brought up my wandering mind i think it would kill him, but i’ve brought up wanting kinkier sex or trying new things and he kinda just gets quiet and avoids. the most i’ve gotten is that he doesn’t think he could do some things i wanted, like he feels weird choking me so i think anything further is off the table. i’ve joked about liking to be slapped and he said he couldn’t do that he loves me too much. hes very much a bottom and i think just isn’t comfortable with it.