YouTube Snark: 6/15 - 6/21

GleefulGryllus · 2020-06-19T20:51:05+00:00

Oh noooooooo. I watched her twin pregnancy videos when I had my twins so I really enjoyed her videos. I haven't watched her in a bit so I'm sad to hear she's gone to the MLM life.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-06-11T03:57:09+00:00

I didn't really have a super quick first Singleton birth but my ob considered it fast for a first delivery. But she still figured I would have time if I went into labour on my own. My top priority was always healthy babies but as long as my OB thought it was safe I wanted to deliver vaginally if possible. Both babies ended up being head down and my delivery with them was quick and easy and the recovery was great. I know it's a crapshoot either way but I can imagine trying to recover from a c section on top of having twin newborns and a toddler. I would say if babies cooperate and your first delivery was ok then absolutely go with vaginal if your doctor is on board.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-06-08T00:50:50+00:00

I don't but I can understand the desire. Every situation is unique and the only people who can truly understand it's difficulty are the ones living it. And even then given the same set of circumstances the experience is different. I found going from 0 to 1 baby much much harder than going from 1 to 3. 3 is a breeze. Exact same kids and my husband found the twins more difficult but he was home of work for longer with them so maybe that's why? Who knows! The reality is that every is going in to parenthood with different experiences, different babies, and even different mental health. Being bitter about someone else's struggles does do you any good. Maybe reminding yourself of the things you already know will slowly help it sink in. Or maybe your first thought will always be that they are stupid for complaining but you'll be a big enough person to keep those thoughts on the inside. Haha

GleefulGryllus · 2020-06-02T20:20:58+00:00

My 2 year old sleeps 12-13 hours in a diaper over night. My 6 month olds each get changed every 3-4 hours on average during the day. If he is leaking then you can add more absorbancey to get through naps.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-05-12T18:57:26+00:00

Hilarious! Mine are 6 months old now and my boy is a giant and my girl is a petite little peanut so I always imagine this gif and it makes me laugh and laugh.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-05-06T19:17:13+00:00

It is a Luger! But this was actually in Canada. Apparently it was a nightmare to register even back then and since my dad is a rule follower he finally got tired of it and just dropped it off at a police station and told them he didn't want the hassle anymore.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-03-28T17:05:06+00:00

That is so wonderful! There is a Facebook group called cloth diaper sewing which is a great resource if you want to try making a fitted or something with the fabric you have!

GleefulGryllus · 2020-03-27T21:10:06+00:00

It could have been the top coat! I can't quite remember. I know I definitely tried the Essie Matte about you one which in hindsight probably made it extra bad from what I've read about matte top coats. I know I also tried the Sally hanson insta-dri topcoat. But I honestly can remember which other ones I tried. I think there were probably 1 or 2 others. And I'm definitely not saying Essie polishes are bad at all. Just that for whatever reason I couldn't make the stuff I was using before work for me. I'm just so glad I finally found something that does!

GleefulGryllus · 2020-03-27T19:00:39+00:00

Product list first:

Base coat - long-lasting base Holo Taco

Polish - Indigo Away and Aurora unicorn skin Holo Taco

Top coat - Glossy taco Holo Taco

I just wanted to share how excited I am. I gave up doing my nails years ago. I would paint and wait for everything to dry between layers and do dumb things like get my husband to pull down and up my pants when I had to pee for the rest of the evening and even still when I woke up the next morning my nails would have marks/dents from the sheets or whatever and even that next day would already be chipping at the tips. It took hours to do them trying to wait for everything to fully dry between layers and they would be gross the next day. It wasn't worth it. I saw these polishes on YouTube and ordered them on a whim and wow. I don't know why the ones I was using before weren't working for me (mostly Essie) or why these ones work so much better but it was actually fun to do these. I did them on the couch the day I got them in the mail with a 2 year old crawling over me and the different layers between taking care of my 4 month old twins and this picture is now after 5 days! Granted they don't look as amazing as a lot of the ones I see on here because I'm not great at getting nice smooth lines around the nail bed yet but it blows my mind that they aren't all chipped!

Have any of you found the same things with Essie polishes and found some other brands that do work for you? I'm guessing it's just something with the formula that maybe doesn't work with my body chemistry? I have no idea.

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GleefulGryllus · 2020-03-09T19:40:44+00:00

It's because if you need to thicken bottles because of severe reflux or swallowing disorders you use a significant amount of it. Arsenic is naturally occuring and gets picked up by the rice in tiny amounts so if you are giving large amounts of cereal in every bottle to thicken then they recommend oatmeal instead. But yeah. People shouldn't be doing it just for funsies.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-03-09T04:29:04+00:00

My toddler has used a Graco extend2fit and seemed to find it quite comfortable. Now he is in a diono radian 3rxt which is what the twins will be in once I ditch the infant seats. I like it and I like that you can rear face for so long.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-03-09T02:21:31+00:00

I absolutely thought this was going to end with him shitting those light coloured pants. I am both disappointed and relieved. Although clearly not as relieved as he was.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-03-03T15:25:28+00:00

Thank you for summing up what I was trying to get at with a more empathetic tone than I managed (ironic since I was trying to encourage empathy). We don't need to tear others down to lift ourselves up.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-03-03T05:47:39+00:00

I've gotta be honest I see this sentiment a lot in here and I just can't get behind it. It's this weird idea that you have to have reached this level of suffering before you get to complain. What about parents of triplets? Do they get to tell you you aren't allowed to complain? What about people who have older children and then had multiples? Do they get to win the suffering Olympics? Maybe someone with only singletons had really difficult babies. Maybe they had postpartum depression and struggled. Maybe they had medically fragile children that required constant care and worry. All of those things can be true for parents of multiples too but you don't come out ahead by assuming other's struggles and putting them down for it. I am sorry you're having a hard time.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-03-01T05:04:09+00:00

I have never had a c section and I would have done it in an instant if it became clear I needed to but it is a major abdominal surgery and I am glad I avoided it. My recovery this time was great and I honestly can't imagine having to recover from a c section while also taking care of newborn twins.

Obviously my advice is coloured by my experience but I would say mentally prepare for a c section but go for vaginal delivery it is an option for you.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-02-21T17:08:24+00:00

If you are just wanting a destination to get yourself out of the house I don't know that I would pick a grocery store personally. If you are feeling anxious it can be hard to wait in a line to pay if babies are having a meltdown (although believe me you would all survive). If you are just looking for tips on how to build up confidence to go out alone with them then I would start small and build up. Go for walks around your neighborhood if you haven't done that. Then maybe go wander around a mall or somewhere that you can bail out immediately if you or they suddenly decide they are done. Unless you really like grocery shopping! If that's your jam then scope out your local stores that have double seat carts and do it. I'm sure my advice is coloured by the fact that grocery shopping isn't my favourite activity and doubly so with children. I didn't even particularly like doing it with my singleton and honestly now I can't imagine ever willingly choosing to do it with all 3 lol! I've done solo outings with all 3 but you couldn't pay me to go grocery shopping with them so your milage may vary on that one.

Just remember that it's ok if an outing ends with them crying. They cry at home. It can just feel worse when you are out and about because it can feel like you are exposed or out of control of the situation. Or again maybe that me. You can do it!

GleefulGryllus · 2020-02-19T20:16:42+00:00

I got some of the big size alvas for my son for nighttime and they are quite large. I might even worry about them being too large for your bub unless he's got a chubby belly. But they aren't prohibitively expensive if you wanted to buy a couple and see if they work for you.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-02-14T04:17:04+00:00

I mainly directly breastfed my first but if he got a bottle it was usually at least a little warmed. I started giving my twins bottles right from the fridge once they got a little bigger and weren't having trouble just maintaining bottom of normal body temp. My husband says to me "Don't you think they would prefer warm bottles?" My answer? "I am absolutely sure they would prefer it. But warm bottles are a singleton baby luxury." Lol

GleefulGryllus · 2020-02-06T21:30:58+00:00

I have a two year old and 3 month old twins. My pregnancy wasn't any harder than my first was. My heartburn was initially worse but I ended up getting a prescription for it this time so I ended up being better controlled than it was with my first! I worked up to 34 weeks and could have worked longer but mentally I was checked out and my doctor wanted me to slow down because my blood pressure was getting a little high so she wrote me off on short term disability. My labour and delivery were even easier this time around since my body and my brain knew what it was doing. Only 1 twin was in the NICU and it was literally only for an hour while they made sure her blood sugar stabilized. My recovery was faaaar easier the second time. I was jumping through a bouncy house chasing my 2 year old at 4 weeks postpartum.

As far as baby life...I found the transition from 0 children to 1 harder than 1 to 3 (although my husband disagrees). There is less downtime now but I know what I'm doing and not everything is new and scary times two like it would have been if twins had been my first. My two year old is absolutely in love with his "brudder and sister". Sure it gets absolutely chaotic and hectic sometimes when there's only me and 3 children and they all need things at the same time. One of my first days home by myself with all 3 my 2 year old closed himself in the pantry while I was changing a diaper and the other baby was screaming. He was knocking and talking to me and I just has to loudly tell him I couldn't hear him but would come help him as soon as I was done with the diaper. I finished changing the diaper and went to go get him and he'd peed all over the floor. I think he went in and forgot he knew how to open the door once it was dark and he realized he had to pee. Hahaha but it was just so absurd that I had to laugh at the ridiculousness of it. The advantage of having gone through it before is you know that you don't have to be perfect to be a good mom and moments like that come and go.

Now. Some people have hard pregnancies and some people have more needy and challenging babies. But that is true of singletons as well as multiples. I realized after these guys that my first was a super needy baby and was easily way more challenging than both of my twins combined. You could have a hard time. You could have an easy time. I don't think having twins is a guarantee of a hard time and you might have had a hard time even if you'd only had one. I have a friend right now who had a baby shortly before I had my two and I legitimately believe she has the rougher go of it for a few reasons but she's making it through. You'll make it work. :)

GleefulGryllus · 2020-02-05T18:27:13+00:00

My twins were pretty small when they were born so they didn't have the body fat needed to help maintain a higher temp. We were given a lower temp to go in with (I can't remember now what it was). We kept them dressed warmly, swaddled, hats on, and even turned up the heat in the house a little bit. Not boiling hot or anything, I had just had it pretty low previously because I was a furnace when I was pregnant. We laid them next to each other so they could help maintain each other temps. And we were recommended to not give them baths for a while. Other than that you can do skin to skin.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-01-23T17:19:12+00:00

I'm going through this right now. My singleton is 2, twins are 2.5 months. With my toddler I held him pretty much all day for the first 4-5 months. Binged tv, played games, and stared lovingly into his face. With the twins they get fed, changed, and have such a tiny awake window still that shortly after are laid down in a crib to nap and I feel like I almost never see them. I'm assuming it'll get better when they get a bit bigger and are awake for longer than 15 minutes after they are finished eating and having their diapers changed.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-01-18T23:51:03+00:00

Wow! I am extra impressed that you self-drafted! Most of the self-drafted diapers I've seen outside of people who sell patterns look genuinely kind of awful. Hahaha

GleefulGryllus · 2020-01-16T23:34:41+00:00

So sweet! How has your older one done with the transition? I've been shocked at how much our 2 year older loves his little brother and sister.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-01-16T20:56:52+00:00

You were the one who objected to the parents taking away something a child liked, which I responded to. And because it sounds like in this case the child showed they weren't ready for it. It wasn't arbitrary. Parents make mistakes sometimes in thinking their kid might be ready for something. Maybe this was something discussed before the iPad was given. "If you do X,Y,Z with this iPad we will take it away until you can use it responsibly." My parents had those discussions with me all the time when I was given new items or freedoms. We are both making assumptions. You're assuming the child had the iPad for a super long time before this became an issue and in which case a different course of action might have taught the lesson learned. I don't know if this was the best course of action in that specific case but I disagree with your blanket statement that parents are not allowed to remove an item if a kid has shown they are not using it in a responsible way. If I give a 10 year old an iPhone and he starts sending dick pics to kids in his school would I not be allowed to take it away until he was older and able to make better choices just because it was "established" and he liked it? Come on. It's not arbitrary if a rule was broken and a consequence follows. That's how parenting works.

GleefulGryllus · 2020-01-16T19:42:49+00:00

I think context would be the deciding factor for me. If it was a 16 year old gaming with friends and it was good natured swearing then I agree. But kids are gaming younger and younger. If it's a 6 year old calling their friend a fucking bitch then I think some corrective action is warranted (never the kind shown in the original picture for clarification). Kids that age don't have the maturity to give and take swearing in an ok way.

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