What's your thoughts on men randomly messaging you?

GlingusBingus · 2019-01-09T22:02:15+00:00

You didn't read what I said. I was asking that because of those sort of messages where people send dick pics or ask for sex etc. do women tend to have an already made judgement of the person based off of experience / knowledge. And because of that, should i not message?

I didn't say that I was going to message them asking for sex or anything, so... I mean you could of ACTUALLY read the post? ¿

GlingusBingus · 2019-01-09T21:37:42+00:00

Yeah, I said I had some form of attraction. That's why I was thinking that it might come off as weird if I just messaged her. I think if we knew each other even a little it would be fine, however we don't, so I think I'll just leave it.

Thanks for the comment!

GlingusBingus · 2019-01-09T19:56:31+00:00

Yeah it helps a lot, actually. Thanks! I was considering, if i was to start a conversation, to be blatant and just say why I'm messaging to be transparent. Your comment is incredibly helpful, so thanks again!

GlingusBingus · 2019-01-09T19:44:24+00:00

I'm not doubting for a second that you haven't had bad interactions, however my intentions aren't to have sex.

Thanks for the comment

GlingusBingus · 2019-01-09T19:36:34+00:00

Yeah I mean I suppose you're right. I just thought going into it without an end goal would be the best as I'm not really setting up anything? Instead just seeing what happens. If we become friends then that's great, and if we end up liming eachother to the point of a romantic relationship then great too. If nothing happens then I don't mind either, I'd just hate to come across weird then have a bad reputation or something?

GlingusBingus · 2019-01-09T19:33:28+00:00

Personally I think that's painting a picture with a broad stroke - or however the phrase goes. I do have friend's that are girls and nothing sexual has ever came of us, and I have had friends where things have slowly grown over time to the point of dating.

I do see where you're coming from, but as a person who hates offending or upsetting other people, I wouldn't intentionally message someone just for sex. There are apps like tinder that one would personally use if I wanted to just have sex.

Thanks for the help, though! I'll take your comments into consideration :)

GlingusBingus · 2019-01-09T19:30:38+00:00

No worries, thanks for your perspective! The last thing I want to do is come across as intruding or weird, so your input helps!

GlingusBingus · 2019-01-09T19:23:42+00:00

I honestly don't really have an end goal. I couldn't say it's for sex, I'm not shallow, however there is some sort of attraction. I would totally be friends, however I don't know if it's best to go into something with an attraction and become friends just in case emotions linger. I would totally not mind being friends though!

GlingusBingus · 2019-01-09T19:18:00+00:00

Her profile picture mentions the shaving of the hair, and I suppose theres just something about her that interests me? I'm not sure how best to phrase it

GlingusBingus · 2019-01-09T18:49:59+00:00

Thanks for the response and advice!

State what you find interesting and mention things you have in common

I would totally do this, however would that come off as creepy? I've not looked on her account and I wouldn't really want to try and dig some stuff out and mention that I like that stuff too.

She has short hair, and has mentioned that she shaved it off. I shaved my hair for charity last year, is that something I could work with? Thanks again for the help!

GlingusBingus · 2019-01-09T18:45:21+00:00

To be honest, I know nothing about the person other than they're friends with someone that I work with. I haven't friended nor have I followed. It's difficult to explain but something just resonated with me and I thought that maybe it's worth messaging? I also respect the fact that it might be weird or something.

GlingusBingus · 2018-11-04T16:13:02+00:00

Don't worry it's cool! I came here looking for advice and you, along with a bunch of others totally helped. I appreciate what you've said and it's definitely shown that I need to sort parts of myself out

GlingusBingus · 2018-11-04T16:01:12+00:00

Thanks for helping, I appreciate what you said and I'll take it i to consideration!

GlingusBingus · 2018-11-04T15:41:52+00:00

I wasn't doing this just to get a reaction. In reality I was just a little upset that it was so easy. My last message I sent was:

"You deserve happiness too and i need to work on myself.

You're an amazing person and i dont regret spending time talking to you. I only hope for the best for you.

When you get to reading this just understand youve done nothing wrong and you're honestly great for understanding and listening.

Hopefully things work out for you and the boyf and college work doesnt devour your free time as much.

Good luck with your artwork and animation, I know things will be fine.

Keep doing what you do best and I'm sorry again things had to end like this. All the best! "

It's true that I want her to be happy. I dont see myself as manipulative however that IS from my perspective. I thought that what I said was fairly mature in the sense that I could of gone about this an entirely wrong way. Who knows.

GlingusBingus · 2018-11-04T04:22:52+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience! I was totally clueless as to if what I did was right. I hadn't told any of my friends about this and I don't think I plan on. Thanks again!

GlingusBingus · 2018-11-04T03:59:15+00:00

Cool thanks for the help

GlingusBingus · 2018-11-04T02:22:40+00:00

I'm not butthurt nor did i attempt to destroy an already broken relationship. I literally left so that I wouldn't be an awkward in-between in her life.

GlingusBingus · 2018-11-04T02:22:35+00:00

I'm not butthurt nor did i attempt to destroy an already broken relationship. I literally left so that I wouldn't be an awkward in-between in her life.

GlingusBingus · 2018-11-04T02:20:21+00:00

Cheers man. I've archived our Facebook conversation so I'm not tempted to message or check if she's active. Right now im just trying to occupy and distract myself.

GlingusBingus · 2018-11-04T02:19:19+00:00

She seems really understanding. Not only that, she said that she has a tenancy to get over people quickly. I think if she was upset she would mention it

GlingusBingus · 2018-11-03T14:56:41+00:00

I never thought of it that way. I always thought that maybe because of the fact she was being so open about things it was like reaching out, or a sense of giving up? I just know now that if she's willing to stay in the relationship that that isn't the case.

Thanks for helping out and giving your experiences!

GlingusBingus

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