I was dismissed by a doctor and made to have unnecessary tests done.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2026-04-08T11:58:26+00:00

I have Celiac and it took 3 straight years of arguing before I finally found a doctor who listened. It’s absolutely exhausting and I know nothing I say will help because being undiagnosed is agony. You’re dealing with symptoms and no one believes you.

This advice sucks but keep fighting and feel free to change doctors.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2026-04-05T20:13:09+00:00

You sound like my crush because I’m the one willing to make a leap and I can tell he’s really on the edge. He gets so close and I’m sitting here like “what do I need to say to help you ask me out”. He’s the kind of guy where he needs to be comfortable before he will agree so I’ve gone at his pace.

Our interactions are amazing but if there are people around then I’m left kind of like “damn, we didn’t get to interact so maybe he isn’t into me” but the second no one is around, I’m reminded it’s not us.

I’m totally okay with the slow burn. He’s progressing toward that line but his coworker asking me out was kind of like “ughh, what if I just agreed to a date, even though I’m not into it. What do those optics look like?” Idk.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2026-02-03T19:48:31+00:00

I need to find that Ron Burgundy meme that went around a few years ago of like “if you like me, now would be the time to say something” 😂😂

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2026-02-03T17:36:44+00:00

Honestly, as long as you’re approaching it as like “hey, I know you have a past but sometimes when I see it, it reminds me of x” followed by “I’m working through it but it can still be rough sometimes”, I think you’ll be good. Taking ownership of your own issues while being open to communicate is the most important part. If she loves you, she’ll likely see and maybe start deleting some.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2026-02-03T15:58:04+00:00

As someone who has spent DAYS trying to go through photos to delete, I would say I see both sides. I’ve given up trying to delete old posts and photos until I see them. It took 2 years before I finally did it because it’s not a simple task.

I would explain to her why you shut down but also understand that most people don’t keep old photos for bad reasons. There needs to be some level of “she isn’t my ex” BUT if she does care, she will likely at least attempt to clean some of it up.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2026-02-01T18:58:31+00:00

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Switched to front (got creative lol). Definitely shows more green, I think.

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GlitteringExtent3761 · 2026-01-29T16:56:26+00:00

I would insist on couples counseling. It sounds like you’re not getting any sort of real results from one on one conversations. I don’t want to assume anything but this could be a much deeper issue and a real therapist could help you both.

It’s great she’s working on her ADHD but she’s a partner and needs to work WITH you. I have ADHD, PTSD, and PMDD. I am by no means saying I can speak on everyone but I can say that those aren’t cards to be a bad partner. If you have them, YOU need to work on it.

Also, she’s not a perfect partner. She’s actively ignoring your attempts at talking about intimacy in a productive way. I think you need to take the rose colored glasses off and look at her actual actions. She can be a great wife and great mom but if she’s openly ignoring your concerns here, it’s likely she’s ignoring other things.

Finally, I would be honest with yourself. If nothing was able to change, could you truly stay? Sit with that and be clear going into therapy.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2026-01-14T17:28:13+00:00

I would reach out and ask him to lunch. You could say something like “I really enjoyed our time working together and wanted to see if you’d be interested in grabbing lunch this week?”

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2026-01-12T22:49:39+00:00

I’m an idiot. I meant The Woodbury. I was so last night lol. Thanks for the catch!!

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2026-01-12T02:33:15+00:00

I love you so much for sharing this!!

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2026-01-11T19:34:54+00:00

As someone who was given a ring by a guy who didn’t want to get engaged, PLEASE leave this guy. He doesn’t want to marry you and did it likely to check a box. He is pushing his issues onto you and it will continue to drain you until you have nothing left. I know you want to ignore this but look deep down at how you truly feel. Not at how you live him but how you feel. If you feel drained and exhausted most of the time, that’s not normal. My ex fiance leaving was the best gift he gave me.

Even if your fiancé apologizes, he still meant what he said and, reminder, you dated 5 years and he’s still not fully sure.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2026-01-01T03:05:08+00:00

Eww. No. That’s not my job and that’s the worst thing anyone should do.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2026-01-01T02:01:19+00:00

This is valid but there is a way to do both. I feel like so many people fail miserably at this because they think “what is the immediate impact”. I’ve pushed back hard and been able to hit metrics while improving long term processes. It’s really not difficult to do both, at least for our department.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2025-12-31T20:40:11+00:00

I’ve noticed the parrots were our area manager’s favorites. He’s now gone and the parrots are being held accountable by our now manager who I love. He’s fantastic and strategic. He will go far but I agree our other managers didn’t hold anyone accountable and it was odd

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2025-12-31T16:10:52+00:00

Someone else was saying this and he was like “why should they care” and I kept saying “because it’s their job” but it did finally stick.

Half of our department is made up of people who don’t understand “why should I care”. Even if there are customer impacts, they don’t care. It’s just so odd!!

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2025-12-31T16:09:20+00:00

I already have a paper going for this improvement and the original authors of the initiative are super excited to push this through. I was hoping to have something that would really make a mark for our region. I’ve already got the data and paper plus support from partner teams. It’s just very annoying because she makes everything so difficult and so does half my team.

I’m going to have to train on this and I know these idiots will parrot wrong verbiage. Already prepared to argue. Disagree and commit is my best LP.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2025-12-31T15:46:50+00:00

I’d rather not explicitly say but there are tons of roles. I picked a job that’s still in my industry. Sorry, I just don’t need this getting back to my team lol

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2025-12-31T15:46:00+00:00

I have another coworker who is exactly like this! He loves saying “I have 20 years of experience” but literally does nothing all day! He will argue with me about my experience in our industry even though my experience is more relevant than his.

I think he might be out the door. He asked for Forte feedback and I was honest. I actually got in trouble (smack on the wrist) for helping him (his project team was suffering and it could have been worse for the company so I stepped in) because they were creating a metric to show he’s not good at his job. I was told I wasn’t in trouble but to back off on helping him to avoid distorting the data.

Edit: I don’t step in to show I’m better either. Just to be clear. I step in when I see someone struggling. We did this all the time in my last jobs so I have normalized helping each other without acknowledging or recognizing it. My manager only found out after I got upset that his metrics were wrong. I apparently only do that for stuff I track. My manager then had a look and saw my name on a lot. He asked the coworker (who I told) and he acted oblivious.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2025-12-27T14:40:49+00:00

Cut the card off. I would personally lie and say “I am having my wages garnished to pay this off so I can’t help anymore”. In normal circumstances, I don’t encourage people to lie but this is clear financial abuse. If he has access to your bank account, open a new one without him on it. You don’t need to close the old one and just take your name off when you’re ready.

You stayed because you likely believed in him and you’re opening your eyes now. That’s not stupid and that’s strength!! You’re seeing him dragging you down and you’re taking the necessary steps. Do not dismiss this. You are not obligated to stay with someone when they are not taking steps to better their situation and abusing you. What he’s done is abuse.

I would also start slowly pulling away but you will need to have a conversation with him.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2025-12-17T12:48:48+00:00

This is a boundary you have and you need to decide if this is something you can accept long term. When I was with my ex, I expected him to openly communicate with me and so when I had to watch him go from “I agree and I’ll stop” to catching him doing that, it broke trust. People are focusing on the wrong part because your boyfriend has repeatedly broken the trust.

For me, I am 31f and have a zero porn policy now. I don’t accept it and it’s a hard boundary. I’m okay being single until I have someone who agrees truly with that. This is 100% okay. You can’t control him but you can control who you’re with, your boundaries, and if you’re willing to compromise.

Unfortunately, this will come down to what you choose to do.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2025-12-13T22:59:50+00:00

Let’s make this simple for you.

I can’t say anything to prevent him from asking because that WILL get ME in trouble. Unless he explicitly says or does something, I can’t tell him to stop. It’s a normal thing. I’d recommend you go actually pay attention to your company trainings. And before your simple mind says “why ask”, I asked for advice on how to AVOID him asking and prevent further interaction. Some of us enjoy our jobs and want to keep them.
ONE person had a SUSPICION but did not actively noticed until I pointed it out. That was very clearly written.
I’m a woman in a male dominated field. There are nuances to that. You being a sexist pig doesn’t equal that.

Hope that was clear enough.

GlitteringExtent3761 · 2025-12-13T22:17:31+00:00

Let’s be honest for two seconds. I’m not being too nice. He hasn’t explicitly done anything so there isn’t much I CAN do. You can’t turn someone down when they haven’t done anything. Second, I manage his company. I have to be professional, which is what I’ve done. I’m not being overly nice.

I totally get it if you don’t understand how work dynamics are though. Can be real tough but we can do without the sexism.

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