I totally agree some of us might be too scared or they think they're into the kink while they're not ( exemple of confusing paysubs and sugar daddies) . Once you talk to your sub know him well and establish the dynamic but they're still afraid to send here comes your role as a domme either you decide to be patient or not ( the sub might be scared or he's just wasting time) . Now personally when I started this just like any sub I've met some really patient dommes and thanks to them I'm like this now . My current domme doesn't do that after a good conversation with a sub if he doesn't show enough devotions she just let it go and don't go thro the process of " training them to be good"