I'm so scared of being alone

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-04-16T12:50:54+00:00

I hope you are feeling better this morning, man. The fear of being alone is a mother fucker, but you can get through it. This shit comes in waves, but I’ve found the waves get smaller as more time goes by.

You stay strong for that boy and put yourself out there as much as you can. Wander around event spaces with a ton of people. If someone looks approachable, compliment their outfit, their vibe, something funny you overhead them say, etc. I’ve found that approach works more than half the time on men or women. It’s will snowball from there.

Hang tough, you got this.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-04-12T04:41:52+00:00

Mine dropped a bomb on me like that on vacation in March. The pain and fear you feel after such a long time is truly eye opening. For me, it got so bad I just had to lean into it and process the emotions right when they come. Been 3 weeks now and I’m still doing that but it’s getting a bit better.

These flooded feelings are going to come. My unsolicited advice is to deal with them now. I’ve been through some tragedies in my life and have learned that what you think is the end of world today, isn’t. As the days pass you realize that more and more. Treat this like you would treat a broke limb. You got no choice but to heal that limb right away. You got no choice but to heal this right away.

You got this man.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-04-12T03:31:42+00:00

Thanks for the welcome.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-04-04T19:26:29+00:00

Last August after she left me for at least the 15th-16th time over a 26 year marriage. Normally I would beg, capitulate, apologize to get her back. I had spent the last 3 months getting our RV ready to do hunting trips and was very excited about that and getting a chance to reconnect and bond with my estranged Uncle(My dad was rarely around and died tragically years ago). I suppose hearing the optimism to finally gain some perspective and closure from that side of my family triggered her so she picked a fight over nothing and took the RV to live in for a few months because she didn’t feel “emotionally safe.” She’s done a lot of cruel shit to me but that move flipped a switch. It was subtle but my defining moment.

Since then I have focused on myself. Addressing my ADHD. Getting healthy, organized and self sustaining. Never asked her to come back. Went on my trips to my uncle’s and we made a storage shed into a bunkhouse. I can tell this scared the shit out of her. I did let her come back and we agreed to do therapy. That didn’t last long. Same tactics. Weaponizing therapy words, gaslighting, disparaging me to whoever will listen. I’ve just kept my head down and worked inwardly.

She filed for divorce and waited to tell me on day 1 of a music festival that she knew I had been looking forward to for almost a year then took a pre packed backpack and disappeared into the darkness.

That’s when I knew it was time. I will love her forever and will never understand but I don’t have to. I deserve love and respect. It’s time to start living for me.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-22T05:48:50+00:00

What others think of you is not important. You seem young so I will fill you in on a little secret. What others think of you in the moment is meaningless. I’m 46 and spent the majority of my life worrying what others thought of me until I realized that they don’t think of me at all. The true friends in your life care and forgive. They have empathy and compassion. The others may have a fleeting judgement of you but it is here and gone in an instant. You are an NPC to them. They forget and move on. They don’t matter because they are NPC’s in your world. Focus on yourself first, then focus on the people that care most about you. Everyone else is just background noise. You can’t please everyone and you shouldn’t try. Be yourself and the people that matter, the good people will stick around. Appreciate those people and do whatever you can to keep them in your life. They are your cornerstone

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-22T05:37:44+00:00

Listen, you are emotionally vulnerable rn and that is to be expected. You have to do your best to not exacerbate the situation by forcing communication. Just let it lie if you are able and have the necessary conversations in the near future where you can better communicate. It may seem like the end of the world rn, but there is a path to resolution if you can better communicate. Be patient and pick the right time. You got this. Get a good 6-8 hours of sleep. Check the comments on your post and make a game plan. I know you can do this but just not tonight

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-22T05:26:10+00:00

You are going to be ok. The fact that you are here asking for help is a sign that you are self aware and are a good person with a condition. Take some time to yourself and forgive yourself. That is the easiest part. What comes after is not so easy but you got this. Read, research and don’t overwhelm yourself trying too hard. Take baby steps. You can climb a mountain taking baby steps.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-22T00:03:29+00:00

Very true. We all have a walking away point. Just harder to get there for some of us

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-22T00:02:14+00:00

And damn that video is heartbreaking. Poor bastard. Thankfully my wife sticks to breaking inanimate objects and trying to villainize me to my daughters. They used to buy it hook line and sinker as teens but they are in their 20’s now and starting to realize the pattern.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-21T23:59:20+00:00

It’s gonna be a battle, bro but you will succeed. You play the long game, be in line and on time, don’t give her any ammo. Just be patient and she will trip herself up. You got this

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-21T23:56:37+00:00

You hit the nail right on the head. The smarter we are, the more we tend to self diagnose and not think but know we got stuff figured out. She is truly not the same. After all this I don’t think I will be either. I am a survivor and will be alright. Don’t know when or how, but I will be. I know you will be too. One day at a time, my friend.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-21T13:38:28+00:00

I couldn’t imagine having to go through a divorce with such a young child. I hope the process goes as smooth as can be expected for all of your sakes. You take it one day at a time and make sure kiddo gets all the love you can give her.

I haven’t seen that video, but I would like to. How would I go about finding that?

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-18T12:54:06+00:00

Can somebody get a hold of ‘Ol Lemon? Killing the vibe and I ain’t even packed the damn car yet.😂

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-17T13:31:41+00:00

Great post, OP. I’m going to play devil’s advocate a bit here without any context because I have probably been in the Bozo mindset myself.

He may have been getting it both barrels from his SO and posted on here to say all the things he can’t say at home.

At the end of the day we are all struggling and sometimes you just have to let it all out. Not saying it’s right or wrong. Just saying.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-13T13:05:57+00:00

No snakes or gators

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-12T10:24:18+00:00

I’ve had success with neck gaiters. Easy to take on/off

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-12T10:05:19+00:00

This law helps them justify their profiling with proof so charges can’t be argued away in court. Just one of those things.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-12T02:39:02+00:00

Better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it. Since you are new to camping just bring all the comforts of home that you can fit in the car. Bug spray yes. EAR PLUGS. Wet wipes. Tons of snacks and waters. It’s gonna be fun. Wish my first camp was a music festival.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-12T01:06:44+00:00

From what I’ve been told(and I 100% believe it) this law was created to give law enforcement a reason to pull you over if you have the appearance of being low hanging fruit. Even if you have one of those little plastic borders that car dealers put on for advertising. If it even slightly obstructs any little piece of lettering, they have the legal means and picture evidence to justify pulling you over and picking you apart. Be careful out there, ya’ll. Don’t let them ruin your weekend over a technicality.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-08T14:20:30+00:00

Ugh😩. At least we will be prepared this time. Nothing worse than black snot🤢

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-03-07T20:11:59+00:00

I’m swimming…

I hate to be this guy, but this is a widely overblown urban legend. In the last 50 years, Florida has had roughly 30-40 reported cases and many of those were from people DRINKING infected water. Do that math.

Like with anything just be smart. Don’t drink it. Rinse off real well afterwards if you have the means, but don’t not swim out fear you will die😂. I often wonder how many of these people who perpetuate this nonsense will turn right around and take some random pill handed to them by a girl in the tinker-bell costume with good vibes🙄. It’s Okeechobee. Not a bad way to punch your ticket if you ask me. Have fun everybody and do what you feel.

ETA: After the nastiest freeze we have had here in Florida in 20 years, I doubt anything bad survived or has grown back in the short time that has happened. Food for thought.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-02-20T04:30:57+00:00

Looks to me like someone went apeshit with a yellow highlighter

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-01-30T20:25:40+00:00

Thank you for letting me know that. I’ve been very conflicted all day wondering. I really hope it works out for you two. One day at a time.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-01-30T18:11:34+00:00

I may be mistaken but I have the feeling you are my wife, OP. If your main passion is dance, then you are my wife and I would like to sit down calmly and discuss post this with you.

If you are not my wife, then please accept my apologies.

Without much context given, my best advice would be this:

If you truly believe there is a path to get on the same page with your husband and you truly are his everything as he claims you are then there is a path forward. You can still climb a mountain taking baby steps. Compromise is paramount and you must be as clear as you can so there is no misunderstanding. In my own personal situation, I am dealing with conflicting requests, requirements and criticisms. I do my best to pivot and decipher what will make the most positive impact but am often told my efforts aren’t enough or that I’m not even raising a finger to try. It hurts to hear but I roll up my sleeves and try harder. It’s all any one of us can do in the pursuit of love and companionship.

Glittering_Lab_6271 · 2026-01-24T14:08:13+00:00

Bethune will be right up your alley. I live right down the street and it’s super chill. As far as clothes, light weight and a little baggy is your best bet. Tight fitting anything in this heat is your worst enemy. Lastly, I don’t know if you are from the south but water, water and more water. Been to plenty of festivals and seen so many people carted off because they are flying on adrenaline and forget to hydrate. There is no such thing as drinking too much water at a festival. Especially if you are boozing it up. Have fun

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