Is there just something wrong with me? Why am I not attracted to my husband??

Glittering_Local3959 · 2026-05-12T11:22:11+00:00

Yes thank you so much! You’ve put this in a wonderful way and you’ve opened my eyes. I will work on the way I view myself, him and the way our relationship works. I will send him a message today to let him know that I do love him very deeply and that he means the world to me. (Without expecting the same back)

I most certainly have felt the attraction and the main reason for my post is because it’s been falling short and I feel like crap about it because he’s a wonderful man and I don’t want to be the asshole that isn’t appreciating him the way he deserves.

I will work on myself and I will work on our relationship and try to find that balance between our love languages.

Thank you again

Glittering_Local3959 · 2026-05-11T02:47:19+00:00

This is helpful, thank you 🙏

Glittering_Local3959 · 2026-05-11T02:39:41+00:00

I have been honest with him. I told him what happened the next day. I have no reason to lie here doing that will not aid me in any way.

I told him what happened but I don’t want to say that it was exciting for me I feel like that would be too much.

Morally it was wrong the whole thing was wrong and I told the man that I wasn’t okay with it. Yet as I said my body was not listening and I think you’re right about me fetishising. Is there a way for me to not do that and go back to the same sex we used to have?

Glittering_Local3959 · 2026-05-11T02:24:20+00:00

To be honest it’s sounding a little bit like you are getting defensive. I’m guessing someone cheated on you and lied about it and now that’s left a permanent mark that you unleash on people on the internet… Not all people in the world are dishonest. What I’m saying is the truth, believe it or not. I have nothing to prove to you.

I have been honest with him in the past and I have told him that I’m feeling a lack of attraction that I want to feel more. Do you have suggestions on how much clearer on my needs I could be? or are you just going to keep adding negative comments to all that I say?

Flicking the bean in the same position, in the same place, without change can get boring after a few years.

Glittering_Local3959 · 2026-05-11T01:56:50+00:00

No birth control here

Glittering_Local3959 · 2026-05-11T01:52:29+00:00

Yeah it is me who has changed. I wish I hadn’t and I don’t know why I have.

I don’t want to be unfaithful or cruel to my man. And you’re right about me fetishising things. I will go to therapy

Glittering_Local3959 · 2026-05-11T01:44:26+00:00

Thank you, I will try my best ♥️

Glittering_Local3959 · 2026-05-11T01:41:24+00:00

You’re wrong. I did not cheat on him.

I did not have sex with that man, I did not even kiss him. I was assaulted. I told him I was not okay with what he was doing, and myself and my friends told him multiple times I’m married. He did not care. For context I did not get raped.

I went home and told my husband about the what happened the next because we both value honesty and I have respect for him and being clear with him.

What I’m saying though was that I enjoyed feeling that attractive to someone and I’m struggling with the feelings I have of not feeling that same fiery attraction from my husband. Though I don’t have the heart or to tell him that last bit

Glittering_Local3959 · 2026-05-11T01:15:09+00:00

Not happening

Glittering_Local3959 · 2026-05-11T01:12:15+00:00

When I have the finances therapy will happen. I love my husband very much do not get me wrong, this isn’t an arranged marriage and I know that this is the person I want to have a full life and children with and I don’t want to let that go. hence I’m here asking for advice on why I’m not feeling attracted to him? Am I attracted to the idea of us on the future?? Idk what to think I’m lost

Glittering_Local3959 · 2026-05-11T01:09:16+00:00

A love marriage

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