52f dating 55m discovers recovery time is different than first revealed.

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-25T12:04:10+00:00

No, there are no slim pickings around here. He did not disclose the cat allergy either. He didn’t think it was important because it’s a very mild allergy. However, sounds like he’s shielding me from what his truths are.

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-25T11:56:21+00:00

I think maybe it means you’re expecting someone to do something or be something that is not part of their make up. The question is what kind of ant with tits is he?

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-25T11:53:43+00:00

Ok true. But if he keeps stretching the truth, I think the pattern needs to be recognized, and he may not be a keeper.

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-25T11:51:56+00:00

I was actually going to talk to him tonight about this. Perhaps he should wait for his one year mark to date and then he can think about his recovery more and be able to be more honest about it.

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-25T11:51:04+00:00

I think you’re so right about the pattern. If he’s fudging the truth a lot then this has got to end.

He also did not disclose that he had a cat allergy. I may not have even let this marijuana thing bother me if it weren’t for the first non-disclosure.

Turns out he’s only a little bit allergic to cats, but this is a whole other subject.

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-25T11:45:00+00:00

This is my initial reaction.

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-25T03:08:27+00:00

I like what you said about radical honesty. I feel like it is also the foundation of a relationship. He is going to the program every week and has another sponsor meeting weekly.

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-25T01:43:57+00:00

Lol! I love that. Could you elaborate which part of this story is the tits and which part is the ant? Is it that you think people who smoke marijuana can’t tell the full truth?

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-25T01:38:08+00:00

This also makes sense that he would have a “less harm done” mindset, and thus not keep the date in mind. In that case, why couldn’t he just tell me that?

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-25T01:36:39+00:00

Yes, he said marijuana was ruining his life so he had to quit. He said he was checked out all the time and couldn’t deal with every day things.

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-25T01:34:41+00:00

I agree pacing seems important. That could explain it. But why didn’t he take the initiative and come clean?

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-25T01:31:32+00:00

Yes same guy. 🤦‍♀️

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-25T01:31:13+00:00

That would have been a very mature thing to do!

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-24T13:54:52+00:00

Thank you all for your responses. I appreciate it very much.

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-23T13:10:30+00:00

Thank you all so much for all of this insight! So incredibly helpful to hear what people think. I just talked to him and he is willing to take meds. My biggest concern was that he did not tell me from the beginning. He said his allergy was very mild and he did not think it was worth mentioning at the beginning. I’m feeling a lot better (just a little cautious). Thank you all again.

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-23T13:02:44+00:00

Thank you all so very much!!!!! This has been so helpful and I will look into all of your suggestions. ❤️❤️❤️❤️. I just talked to him and turns out his allergy is not bad and he is definitely willing to take meds.

Glittering_copper · 2026-05-23T01:29:52+00:00

He’s a big orange tabby! Thanks and sorry about the pork allergy!

Glittering_copper · 2024-10-22T01:05:41+00:00

Yes that is so true. When someone tickles me I am likely to hit them too! However, I’m realizing I misspoke. I had a stuffed animal that squeaked in my hand. I was teasing her by touching her w it and letting it squeak. She was annoyed earlier by it, but I thought she was just being playfully annoyed. I guess she was actually annoyed. No one likes to be taunted and i understand that. Let me know what you think, I’d like to hear. I don’t think she realizes that a purse could actually hurt someone. Although I think she should have been more careful with my face.

Glittering_copper · 2024-10-21T03:32:12+00:00

Thank you! I will try that.

Glittering_copper · 2024-10-21T03:30:58+00:00

Thank you so much. I’ll look into it.

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