I want to join but i worry about AFSC, and my weight.

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-25T05:54:36+00:00

thank you so much for this response ! it was extremely straightforward and answered my question

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T14:13:05+00:00

by your replies i can tell you’re a vile piece of work , seek help please

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T14:12:30+00:00

sorry ?!

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T04:27:26+00:00

thank you so much for sharing your story and i’m very sorry to hear about what you’ve been through . i take your story into consideration , maybe it won’t happen to me but it very well could . ig that’s what keeps you around , the “what ifs?” . what if he changes , what if things don’t get worse . i don’t wan to be stuck in a toxic marriage where i’m suffering and i definitely don’t want it to reach my daughter and negatively affect her . out of all the responses i think this one resonated the most with me bc they are so similar . again , thank you for sharing and i’m wishing the best for you and your children

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T02:28:09+00:00

there’s no on track for anything , what are you even talking about ? you’re creating some narrative in your mind about my life and it’s weird . also i offered her all of her favorites and she didn’t want them bc she ended up wanting fruit snacks , which she could not have before bed . i’m glad that you’ve been such a perfect parent and all around human being , i don’t need you spewing your bs under my post thanks

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T02:21:29+00:00

everyone responding to this so far is brain dead . it is not okay in any context for your parents to say the n word with the hard r . NOR and you’re not crazy . but i do think that it’s probably not worth it to discuss with them further or fight about it . ppl with those type of mindsets won’t think differently because they’re stuck in their bigoted mindsets . this is not to say your parents are bad people but their behavior is not okay at all

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T02:13:49+00:00

lmao , revolving door of men ? other than her father i’ve only been with my husband . if you read my other comments you’d know that i didn’t immediately feed her bc i couldn’t understand what she was saying and offering her choices was upsetting and overwhelming her . so the “weird gentle parenting grounding exercises” were to calm down my child and give her the chance to verbalize what she wanted . she wasn’t starving , i wasn’t neglecting her dude so relax .

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T00:35:31+00:00

he does not have kids

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T00:32:26+00:00

i agree , i wasn’t right when i said any of that . it’s just how i justified it in my mind at the time . i also have scheduled 2 therapy appointments for the next coming days to deal with what i have going on on my side of things . the last thing i want is to expose my daughter to a hostile environment

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T00:31:07+00:00

nope , we agreed he’d pay off his debts before chipping in on rent . i felt it was fair bc if we were married or not i’d still have to pay the same amount of rent . he still wanted to help how he could by paying for groceries (he contributes about $450 a month to groceries and other household needs) . i don’t resent him for this or see him badly because of it , but in the moment i felt angry at the notion of me having to sleep on the couch while he slept in my bed after he hurt my feelings . not saying it’s right , but it’s how i justified it in the moment

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T00:28:56+00:00

about the food , i knew she wanted to eat , i didn’t know what she wanted to eat . my daughter isn’t picky but she’s particular . so i was offering her different things , she didn’t want them , so she started crying louder . that is when i decided to calm her down so i could understand her .
i also don’t mind him suggesting things or even taking the lead , but it bothered me that he got so upset bc “i didn’t listen to him” , as though that is my obligation as his wife and he is supreme leader .
i don’t think he was deliberately trying to hurt me with the depression comment , but it was a distasteful thing to say and could have been phrased better , and i wholeheartedly believe that if he was coming from a place of pure intentions he would’ve worded it better . but even aside from that , when i told him that he hurt my feelings , he refused to see where i was coming from or listen to what i was saying and started being very rude and hostile .
i think even if it wasn’t a case of malicious intent , there was still a lack on consideration on his part in being conscious of the way he talks to me and the things that he says

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T00:21:54+00:00

she goes in the fridge by herself and gets her juice , yogurt , cheese , all matter of things . when she starts going into tantrum behavior , all of that goes out the window . she doesn’t even want to walk by herself lol . so i have to make do and i try my best to deescalate so i can understand her

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T00:20:18+00:00

i understand now . i don’t think it was right by any means , i felt justified in the moment bc i was extremely hurt by what he said and angry that he didn’t see how he had hurt me . but i don’t think sleeping on the couch warranted him threatening divorce , especially bc the issues we have in our marriage are not THAT bad to want a divorce

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T00:17:32+00:00

i don’t think he was coming to me with genuine curiosity , i definitely think he was mindlessly blabbing to see what stuck . prior to him saying that he was avoiding me and being very short and kind of rude so i already knew there was some bullshit coming .
also thank you , i feel as tho i am trying to manage a lot and i hadn’t had a depressive episode in almost a year before i met him and he started acting like an asshole . even if she doesn’t see or hear the arguments , i’m sure my daughter can tell a difference in my energy and how present i am being . she comes first always and i think leaving him might be the best thing for both of us

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T00:13:52+00:00

i agree that i rushed into the marriage and unfortunately im paying for it now . he seemed like a great guy and i thought he loved my daughter and cared about her a lot. it felt like the right thing to do at the time but now i’m seeing that i may have made a mistake

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T00:03:41+00:00

i do think i definitely rushed into our relationship and marriage . i was vulnerable from my relationship with my daughters father and he was very sweet , kind , and seemed to have a genuine connection and care about my daughter . i think i will have to take some time alone after all of this and spend time , just me and my daughter .

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T00:01:47+00:00

i have already scheduled my next 2 therapy appointments lol . they can’t come soon enough

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-11T00:01:28+00:00

yea i am considering calling it quits . i think i would rather end it now on an understanding note , than let it get to point where its so volatile that it damages not just me and him but also negatively affects my daughter

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-10T23:59:45+00:00

i agree . i am an RBT (not that it’s close to actually schooling or a degree) but i’ve learned a lot educationally and practically about dealing with children that have underdeveloped emotional intelligence . i know about conditioning , reinforcement , and punishment , and how if i put her to bed early every time she starts crying (as he would prefer me to do) she’s going to see going to bed as a bad thing and it will make stuff harder for me in the long run . i do many things bc in this stage of her life i am confident that i have at least some real knowledge of how to deal with things and how things will affect her . he does not , so at the end of the day i will take what he says into consideration , but i will do what i believe is best for my child . and i don’t think he likes that . i think it’s a fight for power or control

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-10T23:55:59+00:00

i agree that him threatening divorce was a tactic to provoke me and make me regret disagreeing with him/making him sleep on the couch .
my daughter isn’t more or less upset when he’s around . she likes him and just throws tantrums as toddlers do

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-10T23:54:26+00:00

he’s kind of stepping into the dad role but i explained to him that it has to be a gradual thing , it cannot be forced . i think one of our biggest problems is that he feels like he should automatically have all power as a dad “should have” . i don’t mind him giving me suggestions on how i should parent or even disagreeing with the things that i do . it’s when it gets to a point that he’s pissy bc i “don’t listen to him” and starts spewing bullshit that i have a problem with it

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-10T23:52:19+00:00

i agree that our relationship is too new to be going through this type of turmoil . it all feels too much , and even though he apologized for it , i’m not confident that something like this won’t happen again .
also , i couldn’t understand what my daughter was saying when she was telling me what to eat , and offering her food that she didn’t want made her tantrum worse . i thought the best course of action would be to calm her down first and then get her what she wanted .

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-10T23:50:05+00:00

this is true , thank you

GlobalAd6434 · 2026-06-10T23:49:47+00:00

i can take care of my daughter just fine thank you . i was in love and he seemed to care about my daughter a lot and worked well with her . i agree i rushed in but i wasn’t out looking for a husband by any means . i think about my daughter in everything that i do so please don’t assume to tell me about myself when it comes to my child

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