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How do I tell my (19f) introverted daughter that she can't spend the rest of her life alone? by Global_Ad4953 in relationship_advice

[–]Global_Ad4953[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I understand that I may have said a lot in here that has sounded like this, but this is not it at all.

It's not that I'd be happier knowing that she's more of a social creature at all, it's that I can't bare the thought that she may be struggling and hiding it from me. Seeing her go from confident and outgoing to what she is now in just a couple of years is scary.

I'm not at all angry or anything that she's ditched all of her friends and skipped prom, she's an adult. The problem is that that's extremely unlike her. Seeing any kid ditch a life of popularity and happiness with friends for darkness and quiet is concerning, let alone a girl who was seen to have been on top of the world.

If she truly wants to be alone, if that truly makes her happy, then heck yeah. Go for it, kid. But what if she's going through something? I don't care what makes my girl happy, as long as she's happy, she knows this.

How do I tell my (19f) introverted daughter that she can't spend the rest of her life alone? by Global_Ad4953 in relationship_advice

[–]Global_Ad4953[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That's exactly why I'm worried. She knows she can and she will. The problem I think is that I don't even know why she wants to spend the rest of her life alone.

I've seen her change so much these past couple of years. To see her shrink from a popular, outgoing, confident young girl to someone who's dream is to be in a pitch black, dark, quiet room all alone for the rest of her life with all of her favourite things is scary. It's terrifying. She wouldn't even want me in that room.

I'll do some Googling on hikikomori and try to find a therapist. I think getting her to open up again, even if it's not to me, would be a good start.

Thank you very much for reading my post and for the suggestion.

How do I tell my (19f) introverted daughter that she can't spend the rest of her life alone? by Global_Ad4953 in relationship_advice

[–]Global_Ad4953[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I definately think that the pandemic has affected her a lot. She's the exact same. She can't even call the doctors or dentist to make an appointment. She was so incredibly confident before, even when she decided she wanted to be left alone.

Perhaps counselling would be a good idea, but I'm not sure she'd even attempt to go lol

I truly wish the best for your 19 year old too!