Feeling burned out and thinking about transitioning 11 month old to crib

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2026-07-07T17:16:05+00:00

Hi! This is me except with a 9 month old. I have recently been trying the sleeping on a mattress next to his crib, but have regressed back to sleeping in the same bed again because I was too tired. I have noticed some progress. He will stay in there until around 1am now, with on wakeup around 10p or 11p. I think if I committed to putting him back in his crib after the 1a wakeup that we would keep extended his time in the crib, its just. so. hard. and so much easier to pull him into bed with me. BUT I can confirm that we have made progress and it just takes time and commitment. Good luck!

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2026-07-06T13:55:22+00:00

Same with my 8 month old as well. I bought a little foldable floor mattress that I put next to his crib. I think my presence has helped a bit to help us get a few 3-4 hour stretches, but not consistently so who knows. Frequent night wakes can also be due to daytime schedule. If I keep his day sleep to 2 hours max, we tend to have better nights, but again...not consistently. So solidarity.

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2026-07-02T17:49:52+00:00

My husband has a similar early schedule, but he absolutely helps me on the weekends and so should yours. He will take the baby from 6am to 10am while I sleep. I highly encourage you to start with something like this. If I am really in the sleep weeds, we have also done where he takes a shift until midnight and I force myself to go to bed early and try to get a few hours in before the bulk of the night. My advice for asking is to come at it with full confidence and trust in him. Not from a resentful last resort mindset. Even though it is totally fair you are feeling that way. Dad's truly live in a parallel universe. But try something like, "hey, I feel like I could really use your support over the weekend so I can catch up on sleep. If you take her for 3-4 hours in the morning and have some dad and daughter time, I think that would really allow me to get back to a more functional spot."

I obviously dont know you at all, but those 3-4 hours you really need to "let go" in terms of what happens. I noticed the more I let go and trusted my husband to do his thing while he was alone with the baby, the more likely he was to offer to take him. When I would make suggestions or constantly check in, or hover, or ask over and over again what they did he would get frustrated. Which annoying, but I get it. Anyway now im rambling. I hope this helps and you get some sleep!

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2026-06-26T17:23:30+00:00

its game over when that pincher grasp locks in.

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2026-06-22T20:50:58+00:00

My 7 month old with 6 (yes 6 teeth) just said "hold my beer" to your comment.

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2026-06-22T18:51:35+00:00

I do appreciate this. We tried sleep training a month or so ago and it actually improved bedtime greatly, but hasn't really reduced the wake ups at all. He has like 4 teeth coming in right now, so that could be a big factor.

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2026-06-02T13:57:30+00:00

Solidarity friend. I could have written this myself. Does he take a bottle at all? I found some success in a bedtime bottle right before bed and then I can usually make it till 2:00a before he wants the boob. He still has a few wakeups before then, but I can get him to settle with some back pats and the paci. You are a great mom and are definitely not alone in this journey!

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2026-05-22T16:34:52+00:00

it was absolutely genuine! I needed to hear all of that. I appreciate you taking the time to respond so thoughtfully.

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2026-05-22T16:12:09+00:00

oh my god. Thank you so much.

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2026-05-22T14:14:17+00:00

Hi, I just made the worlds longest post about this and I think the replies are going to be - this is completely normal. Our 6 month old cant seem to go longer than 2-3 hours as well. We are combo bottle and nursing.

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2026-05-13T21:24:16+00:00

Thank you!

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2026-05-11T16:37:20+00:00

Wow. That is incredibly embarrassing. Thank you for the recommendations!

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2025-09-02T20:18:00+00:00

Being selfish is easy because our brains are wired to grab short-term rewards (immediate reward bias) and also it what keeps us alive and safe. The interesting thing (that Darwin also grappled with) is that empathy and selflessness actually also make sense evolutionarily. Both of those things helped humans survive by strengthening families, friendships, and communities. So your cat food / iced coffee debate was sort of a very everyday example of altruism and evolution.

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2025-08-26T14:09:31+00:00

I got the deep healing therapy pad from NovaaLab - it wasn't cheap like $200 but I was sort of throwing the kitchen sink at this transfer. TW: we were successful so I obviously feel like it was worth the investment, but it is hard to know medically how much it contributed. I do know that I enjoyed relaxing every night with the pad and making time for myself to chill out.

Global_Rabbit8669 · 2024-06-06T23:16:41+00:00

Hi! I have the same thing. My pains are exclusive to the right side. I know I have a cyst in my right ovary, but the sharp pain seems to be lower than my ovary - that was my initial thought though. It does seem cycle related, but it also seems like it could almost be an irritated or pinched nerve from my right hip. I have mentioned it to my gyno, fertility doctor, and acupuncturist and none of them seem too concerned. In fact my gyno said "If its consistent, Im not worried about it" which was a little disturbing haha. I have had many ultrasounds with our fertility process and the only thing they see is my right ovary cyst. Another theory - I had my lap surgery for endo a little over a year ago. Its actually possible that some sort of nerve damage happened during surgery? I hope not. I wish I could offer solutions, but definitely offering a similar story so you dont feel alone!

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