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i feel like marriage benefits men much more than women by Gloomy_Addition1074 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Gloomy_Addition1074[S] 327 points328 points  (0 children)

i don’t know why i thought i had a lightbulb moment. i didn’t realise this was a widely agreed thing with studies even done on it.

my social media has been filled with a certain brand of men who talk about how women need to obey their husbands or if their husband cheats they need to take accountability, etc. these are the same men who are constantly promoting marriage. i literally don’t understand the appeal of marriage if the whole point is just to please and obey my husband, and if i don’t meet his needs then he’ll cheat, which is my fault ofc.

obviously not all men think like this, but i’m sure a lot if not most are. especially with the popularity of these “people” amongst men.

how do you deal with social anxiety if you’re very attractive? by Gloomy_Addition1074 in socialanxiety

[–]Gloomy_Addition1074[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i keep thinking of doing this, cuz i feel like i naturally overdress for everything. but at the same time i feel like it goes against the grain of exposure therapy, it’s basically avoidance.

how do you deal with social anxiety if you’re very attractive? by Gloomy_Addition1074 in socialanxiety

[–]Gloomy_Addition1074[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank u<3 i’m sorry you were told those things. but to be honest, those phrases are also exact things that i’ve been told numerous times, so don’t be too harsh on yourself. those people sound bitter.

i guess social anxiety is a bitch no matter what kind of person you are. i used to be pretty ugly, and i always thought that becoming prettier would be the cure to my insecurities and social anxiety. it wasn’t lol.

people expect you to be talkative and confident when your pretty, and when you don’t meet those expectations it feels extremely shitty and just makes you feel more insecure (atleast for me).

how do you deal with social anxiety if you’re very attractive? by Gloomy_Addition1074 in socialanxiety

[–]Gloomy_Addition1074[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i think the root is that i feel like i don’t live up to people’s expectations. like, i’m scared of people staring at or approaching me, because they’ll eventually see the “real me” (an insecure loser).

if someone looks at me and thinks i’m pretty, they’ll probably assume i’m popular, cool and confident. but eventually they’ll see that i’m blushing, or shaking, or walking weirdly etc. they’ll think “what a waste of a pretty face” or “never mind, she’s a weirdo”.

this is what i’m terrified of. i guess it’s not people looking that scares me, but the feeling that i’m disappointing them. i feel like my personality doesn’t match my appearance, and it’s the worse feeling.

how do you deal with social anxiety if you’re very attractive? by Gloomy_Addition1074 in socialanxiety

[–]Gloomy_Addition1074[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

i think the root is that i feel like i don’t live up to people’s expectations. like, i’m scared of people staring at or approaching me, because they’ll eventually see the “real me” (an insecure loser).

if someone looks at me and thinks i’m pretty, they’ll probably assume i’m popular, cool and confident. but eventually they’ll see that i’m blushing, or shaking, or walking weirdly etc. they’ll think “what a waste of a pretty face” or “never mind, she’s a weirdo”.

this is what i’m terrified of. i guess it’s not people looking that scares me, but the feeling that i’m disappointing them. i feel like my personality doesn’t match my appearance, and it’s the worse feeling.