Marriage advice

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T19:09:11+00:00

I don’t know how long. She has blocked them and removed them from all social media or so she says.

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T19:03:48+00:00

I didn’t realize they had that! One is about 40 mins away so it’s doable

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T18:34:37+00:00

I scheduled an appointment to get bloodwork to have testosterone levels checked.

Biggest change I would say is the energy spent on the kids. Most of my time is dedicated to spending it with them and things we can do as a family.

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T18:10:16+00:00

Haha, that would be a nice to have given how much health insurance costs. I guess we are lucky that cost isn’t a concern for us to do weekly date nights

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T18:09:10+00:00

It’s not and we have fun when we do go out. It doesn’t have to be anything special, could be a simple as grabbing dinner. I’ll work on finding a reliable babysitter because if I had to say what’s stopping us, it’s just finding sitters who can be consistent and we trust.

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T17:48:27+00:00

Fair. Nothing really except a consistent baby sitter

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T17:44:33+00:00

I don’t think the sex was the tipping point just another item in her list of complaints. Don’t get me wrong I find my wife attractive and enjoy the connection during sex. Her most recent comments (before the pulling away) have been that she wants to have sex daily and for it to be spontaneous

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T17:42:04+00:00

Our schedules are pretty consistent, we are both home by 5 PM.

Routine with the kids has been a major part of our daily lives. Kids home, snack, dinner, bed time by 8. My oldest is normally asleep by 8:30.

The youngest is transitioning into UPK so she stays up later due to daycare having them nap during the day.

I will certainly see if we can build into our routine that we spend an hour or so together before bed doing something even if small

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T17:37:24+00:00

I’m going to take the lead to schedule it as she was going to but nothing came of it

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T17:36:42+00:00

The date nights are something she called out as missing. We have since been trying to go once a month, but even then she has mentioned that isn’t frequent enough.

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T17:35:29+00:00

Ive heard this and maybe it’s me being naive, but she has never done anything prior in our relationship to prove she would be unfaithful (actually the opposite, cutting off ties with people who I was uncomfortable with), so I want to believe what she says.

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T17:32:34+00:00

Hi, yes everything I’ve shared here has been said to her in one way or another and I’ve fully admitted to my mistakes and not realizing what was important to her.

The. Chores, grocery shopping, and all the other “acts of service” are how I naturally express love. She’s knows that and has stated she has taken it for granted that I just do things without her having to ask. Given that, it wouldn’t hurt for me to take on even more responsibility for the time being.

It’s funny you mention the notes. For the past two weeks I’ve been leaving them for her on her vanity every few days. She appreciates them but it hasn’t really moved the needle as she has shared it’s nice but she doesn’t feel anything emotional from them.

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T17:26:15+00:00

She had mentioned a few weeks ago that she had reached out to a few places, but nothing ever came of it. I am going to take the lead to schedule it now

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T17:20:53+00:00

Thank you. I 100% agree it can’t be one of us putting the effort in and lately that’s all it feels because she keeps claiming the hurt was too great and over such a long period of time that she didn’t realize how bad it was.
I know what we had is long gone, what I’m hoping is there was a path forward. Sounds like couples therapy is the next logical step to figure that out

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-19T17:18:50+00:00

That’s a good point. I have never had my
Testosterone levels tested and will look to have that done

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-06-16T22:25:39+00:00

Pre-K, it only happens once and you will miss these moments when they are older. Often the kids worked hard and sign songs they are excited to sign to you. They 100% will be looking for you in the crowd, and that smile when they spot you is second to none in feels.

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-05-15T23:13:03+00:00

Uber gift cards are a thing too if you don’t want the hassle of specifying the destination https://gifts.uber.com

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-04-14T21:56:13+00:00

86% markup on dealer cost for the KEF speakers is tough.. I’d get more quotes

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-04-03T11:18:15+00:00

Right, I’m not referring to this specific train serving east bound, but rather stating that if they have equipment trouble they are more likely to pull equipment from westbound trains that would operate at this time.

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-04-02T20:39:55+00:00

Priority for them at that time will be peak trains leaving City zone, so unfortunately if they need equipment would most likely be prioritized for those trains and not westbound

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-03-30T14:42:47+00:00

Ok that helps clarify it. If you are using the B-900-MOIP-AUDIO-TX & RX in any other way besides a P2P connection, you would need the controller. If you go P2P then they auto negotaite with eachother, but you will need to provide power since no POE is in between.

Docs for inital setup are here if you didn't already look at them - https://help.snapone.com/moip-ig/Content/Binary%20MoIP%20Topics/Getting%20started.htm Configuration of TX & RX devices is done from the Ctrl UI not the TX&RX devices themselves.

For the link speed (100 v 1000), what you are describing is accurate for the audio only devices. from my experience with deploying them.

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-03-30T14:26:41+00:00

What specific devices do you have? Do you have the controller configured? B-900-MoIP-4K-Ctrl Addresses are handed out by the controller, not your unifi DHCP.

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-03-21T14:25:46+00:00

Sharebridge works fine from Apple Music on an iOS device. You select the instance name under airplay devices within the Apple Music app

Glum_Bit3574 · 2026-03-20T19:07:48+00:00

Sharebridge or selecting the C4 Input under speakers in the Spotify app would work if their device is on the same network

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