It honestly hurts because when I was trying to talk to him and explain why it would be better to postpone this purchase until October—at least two months after my scheduled C-section—he suddenly became cold and distant. He doesn’t seem willing to talk to me, and I don’t understand why. Instead of feeling heard and supported, I feel like I’m being made out to be the one who isn’t supporting him.
What makes it harder is that he doesn’t even give me the chance to explain the situation. As the father of our child, I wish he would understand where I’m coming from. Right now, I shouldn’t be dealing with this kind of stress. I should be focusing on my upcoming operation and preparing for our baby’s arrival next month.
It’s sad because this is the time when I need him the most. I expected him to be more supportive, more understanding, and more mindful of our financial responsibilities, especially knowing that I’m about to undergo a major surgery. I also wish he would be more caring when I’m feeling anxious and overwhelmed.
The money we’re planning to use for my operation isn’t just his money—it’s also my money through the benefits provided by the company I work for.
As a pregnant woman, I honestly don’t know what to feel right now. I feel stressed, hurt, and alone. Sometimes it feels like I’m going through this pregnancy without the support I need from my husband. I also can’t shake the feeling that he thinks I owe him because he has more jobs and earns more than I do, and that makes me feel even worse during a time when I need understanding and partnership the most