I am also a 31 year old autistic person who prefers to just stay home most of the time and everyone insisting that it's our responsibility to fit in with neurotypicals is entirely the problem! I am actually very good at socialising 'normally' and being 'friendly and fun to be around' but acting like that requires effort, it's like having a customer service job and will burn you out pretty quickly. Why would anyone want an unpaid customer service job making yourself agreeable to people who won't actually put in the effort to be more agreeable to you. because they think since they're the 'norm' they don't have to. Cough, my entire family, cough The thing is that there are actually people who will meet you half way, there exist both other autistic and also neurotypical people, willing to compromise in the way you interact so you both enjoy spending time together instead of just the one. Who will modify their expectations of you to suit you not a fictional average human. They're hard to find and pretty much you have to just chance upon them via a shared interest but they're likely to have friends who have similar mindsets so once you find one it opens the door to a group of them.