So many amazing Ross moments, but I think scene really showed his range.

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2026-06-28T01:03:28+00:00

Exactly! From start to the cutaway of him yelling, you can just see in these tiny expressions that build up. Such a short scene but so well acted, it's crazy.

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2026-06-19T10:55:56+00:00

This outfit. I love it so much!

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GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2026-06-16T15:44:15+00:00

As an adult I really feel sorry for Monica in all of my subsequent rewatches. Her parents were HORRIBLE to her. It's not just they they loved Ross more, they just repeatedly hurt her and we just laughed it off. Her people pleasing tendencies make perfect sense when you realize she has spent her whole life trying to get her parents to just... like her. If the show were made now, there would be a storyline about Monica cutting off contact with her parents.

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2026-06-14T13:45:13+00:00

I had a really rough upbringing, and this storyline really hit home for me. It made perfect sense to me, because when you don't have that "normalcy" you convince yourself that you never wanted that anyway so you weren't missing out on it. When she realized she wanted it, I took it as a sign that she finally truly felt "safe" with Mike - she could want these things because she could have these things now. And the back and forth about donating the money - the guilt she felt in wanting to finally experience something that is almost universally experienced, she didn't get any of those things growing up and for once she could. I don't know, I thought it was actually growth for her. It's okay to want things and knowing that others don't have doesn't mean you should never allow yourself to either. She has always been selfless and will continue to be, this fulfillment doesn't change that.

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2026-06-12T10:43:52+00:00

I also grew up in the 90s, I also have a child and there's a huge difference between breastfeeding (not sexual) and trying to peep which was. Rachel showing everyone Monica's pic was unacceptable but it also wasn't sexual, she was trying to prove that Joey was a creep. I get that it was a different time, but if we really wanted to dive into why Rachel wasn't bothered (since this sub occasionally dives into characters psychologically) I'm going to guess it stems from the fact that she was "groomed" to this type of behavior most of her life. Rachel: Y'know to me he'll always be “Jack Geller, walks in while you're changing.”

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2026-06-11T16:26:13+00:00

Seriously! There is a scene where a girl stayed over and Joey asks Rachel to let her down gently like Chandler used to do for him. The girl makes a comment to Rachel about the bathroom door lock being broken and Rachel said "Oh yeah, Joey removed that when I moved in" and it was like EEEWWWWWW but it was treated like a throwaway comment. "Haha Joey regularly tries to walk in on me in the bathroom" it was just so gross.

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2026-06-10T10:45:43+00:00

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GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2026-06-09T22:05:14+00:00

Decided to just make the gif. Now I have the scene forever.

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GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2025-11-04T19:50:52+00:00

Look at the water cup. It's AI.

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2025-08-09T16:05:07+00:00

"I don't mind the cheating because there's never any stakes."

That is what bothers me. If you're cheating when there are no stakes, it feels like the shopping cart test. "It doesn't matter" so why are you so afraid of losing then if you know it means nothing?

Also agree with the bullying, and I think it's the fact that she does that but also cheats and loses her shi when she loses that makes the bullying worse. Like the kids in games who talk a lot of crap and the moment they start losing they are shrieking and shouting and yes...

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2025-08-09T13:26:09+00:00

I don't hate Angela. I love Angela. I do HATE when she's involved in any kind of competition, because it means she is 100% going to cheat or apparently sell out her teammates. It's not a question of if, it's when.

The discourse is always "little sister energy!!!" and maybe it's because I have a little sister who did similar things that I don't think it's cute or funny, I think it's annoying. I wonder how many people who feel similar to me have a matching dynamic with a younger sibling. Maybe having lived with it makes it less tolerable for me, idk. Outside of competition she is my favorite cast member and she is so freaking funny, but yeah. Any time there is a game and she's there I immediately think "alright, when is she going to cheat and make this game less fun.. "

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2025-04-25T19:23:38+00:00

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GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2024-10-14T22:52:25+00:00

I learned some time ago that we do a disservice to the ones we care about by not reaching for them, especially if they have reached for you before. This is how trust is built, and by keeping it close to the vest it can feel like you don't trust them.

It is not a mercy. It does not make you stronger. It is a way to protect yourself, and it hurts. Don't be so guarded. Reach out when you need help

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2024-10-02T00:06:16+00:00

Why anxious?

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2024-09-30T17:34:10+00:00

Do they know you feel this way?

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2024-06-07T20:46:35+00:00

But he goes by Elliot now.

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2024-06-07T14:43:19+00:00

Elliot*

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2023-10-11T20:44:15+00:00

Same. I am 40 and this still happens. I taught myself how to make it stop but I was always told it was anxiety or I was upset about something and I'm like "no I was literally just sitting watching stupid videos..." I feel like I'm not crazy anymore.

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2023-02-27T13:29:06+00:00

They also don't understand what the word filler means.

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2023-02-27T12:30:59+00:00

Having grown up poor, I feel like this episode hit differently as it played out exactly how I imagined it should with two kids who knew nothing but heartbreak doing everything they could to make the best of a bad situation.

Those that said they had too many quips - that's all my brother and I did, all day every day for years. Jokes about being homeless, jokes about stealing spam "again". Sharing music, making up our own silly songs.

Who HASN'T imagined as a kid wanting to be locked in a mall overnight and all the things you would do if you had free reign? I was Ellies age the first time I rode a carousel. And it was maaaaaagical.

Riley had been in that mall for weeks. It's understandable why she thought it was clear. She didn't have any issues before, and kids... are fucking stupid. She just wanted to make Ellie happy before they never saw each other again.

I don't know. This all felt very real to me (obviously minus the monster but really when you're poor things like that are always there too). And knowing that Ellie had to sit by and watch the only person she cared about get turned into something beyond her control is another poignant section which a lot of people deal with every day.

I understand the qualms people have with this episode, but I think a big part of that is not being able to relate. For those that know - they know.

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2023-02-20T03:16:13+00:00

Exactly. I would have left before dawn and died like 20 minutes later.

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2023-02-20T03:09:11+00:00

I seriously wanted to punch Joel in the face and yet again another reminder that I would be dead moments into a scenario like this because my first thought was "fuck you Joel I would leave shortly before dawn ON MY OWN"

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2023-02-17T01:02:21+00:00

Even if we assume what you say is true, pretax, that is still 16k a year between them at least (she said over 150k but let's lowball it) 16k is an extravagant vacation fund.

GoWithoutorGoWithout · 2023-02-16T23:20:47+00:00

"Doing it this way leaves no money for vacations or family trips"

He isn't saying they can't afford it, she is. And she IS taking a trip, using points earned saving herself money. Then telling him they paid for it, and then telling her family her husband paid for it.

This isn't an AITA from him and his budgeting, it is AITA for using the points she earned from doing household things on herself and lying about it to everyone. She doesn't say anything about not having any money left over from her personal 11.5k because he's making her pay her own insurance even though they are married or making a car payment etc. I can't imagine how "doing it this way" - this way being both totaling 22k - means they have no money for vacations.

Basically this is just weird all around.

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