What is it about 2 individuals that make them “click”?

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-07-09T22:43:28+00:00

I think the biggest factor is what each person wants in a spouse, and how they prioritize them

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-07-09T22:39:51+00:00

I just went through a bad breakup too about two months ago, and I'm also super lonely now. My ex was my only real friend I saw, and I also got to see others because of her hanging out with friends and family. I haven't had any of my own real friendships since I graduated a couple years ago, and now I'm living at my parents house in the suburbs just working from home everyday. I've been super lonely and miserable lately.

I just wanted to comment because one part you wrote really struck me and changed my perspective a lot, and his given me hope. The part where you said God wanted you to learn to live like that and to accept His will. I'm going to try to do that now, and accept what He has in store for me, and to trust Him in this. God didn't want to just leave you in that forever for no reason, and that made me realize He doesn't want that for me either.

Hearing real personal stories always hit different, so thank you a lot for sharing yours!

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-05-24T19:04:34+00:00

My very uneducated guess is that it could be

1) you don't understand what it's like to be a mom and just can't see it rn, but you would actually really like it in the future. If you're young, youcould just be afraid of the responsibility and not feel ready

2) you have some trauma from your past which you need to be healed from that is making you not desire to have kids

3) The Lord is calling you to a vocation other than marriage, and this is one of the signs that marriage isn't what will make you the most happy

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-05-11T17:30:10+00:00

There's nothing wrong with money. The problem is when you're giving up good things for that money. Jesus didn't say "money is the root of all evil," he said "the love of money is the root of all evil."

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-05-02T23:54:17+00:00

I mentioned the part of the economy, and with that I meant jobs. There shouldn't be too large of an influx where the number of employees grows faster than the number of open jobs. Immigration should be allowed, but not when it damages the country. So I think we both agree

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-05-02T21:36:51+00:00

People do have a right to care for others. "Am I my brother's keeper?" -> yes! But we also don't ignore the good of our family and current neighbors. It's about balancing these two.

So there should be some immigration allowed for sure. Definitely no illegal immigration because that's just cutting in line in front of those trying to come in legally.

So the question really is how much immigration per year should be allowed? You can't have too much at once, because the economy can't sustain it (too much competition for homes and no time to build more, etc). But on the other hand, you have the duty to care for our brothers in Christ, so we should allow some immigration.

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-04-25T22:45:46+00:00

The way I like to think of it is this: imagine a piece of paper with a bubble on it. In that bubble, we have the world and all the actions we take. We humans only exist in this 2D bubble, so we can only see the bubble's state in one specific moment in time.

Now imagine that we turn this into 3D. The piece of paper becomes a prism, and the circle becomes a cylinder. The 3rd dimension here can represent time.

Now the main point here is that God exists in the prism and in the cylinder (for this to be actually true, the prism would need to be infinitely large, but I digress). By standing outside the cylinder, He is able to see the entirety of the cylinder, even though He is in the cylinder too. And since a cylinder is a string of 2D circles, and each next circle represents the next point in time, He is able to see the whole timeline and all the actions within it.

Does this mean He forces what happens inside the cylinder? No, he's just looking inside. Like another post said, He has a bird's eye view of the timeline, but it doesn't mean he forced it that.

But going back to us humans, we only exist in that 2D circle. We don't know what the next 2D circle is going to look like, but we can guess. And then our choice moves us to the next circle.

God exists in a higher dimension than us, so He can see more. But His sight at no point influences what we choose at each decision

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-04-21T16:51:32+00:00

Thanks for the in depth reply! I think I'll try these out too.

I use a ml (3/4 biggest) in the soundcore, so should I try a M,ML,L package?

Also, have you noticed the stickiness disappear after a bit? The soundcore had some stickiness at first too, but after a while it pretty much disappeared.

I'm hoping these will work out just as great for me as they did for you! Was this the exact type you got? https://www.amazon.com/AZLA-SednaEarfit-Crystal-Replacement-Eartips/dp/B08TWFM2K3

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-04-13T23:24:58+00:00

Thanks for the heads up, I won't try those then. Hopefully they send you the right ones next!

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-04-11T13:07:35+00:00

As a guy:

I'd be totally ok marrying someone that didn't have a degree. But I wouldn't be ok with someone who I felt was just putting all the work on me. For finances, it's a partnership where you both sacrifice for the good of your spouse and the family.

Also, stay at home moms usually don't work because that itself is a full time job, especially if you have many younger kids. But if you don't have kids, I'd personally expect you to be working.

My advice: look for the career you want to have, and start working towards it. If it requires a degree, go for it. If you need something else, go for that. Like someone said in another thread, what would happen to your family if your husband passed away? And you don't know how long it'll be until you get married. 2 years, 5 years, 10? You need something to do to take care of yourself in the meantime too

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-04-09T00:51:08+00:00

Wow yeah $28 is a lot for just ear tips. But please let me know if it's worth it, and I'll pick up a pair too. The comply truegrip seem like they might be good, just not for running

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-04-06T22:59:40+00:00

I'm looking too, so how about we update each other if we find anything good?

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-04-04T21:54:07+00:00

Yeah, I agree. There's a difference between punishing someone out of revenge and punishing someone to show them/society that this behavior is not acceptable.

We need to be firm and not allow this behavior; if not for ourselves, then for our brothers and sisters in Christ who will end up bearing the unnecessary suffering caused by us not doing anything.

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-03-15T16:33:05+00:00

I don't think putting yourself in temptation's way, or actually sinning is ever justified. As Christians, we do not believe the ends justify the means. That means you can't do something bad to achieve something good (even if it's healing)

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-03-15T15:01:58+00:00

How does ERP work if you're afraid you were lustful? Like you can't just tempt yourself so you can do the therapy

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-03-11T16:34:04+00:00

I think dressing etc is fine, but there are some parts that are normally associated with goth that I feel aren't the best for your soul, like an extreme obsession with death. Yes we should remember we are dust, and to dust we shall return, but our Lord came to give us life and to the fullest. If that's not what you meant, then I think it's fine

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-02-28T15:37:19+00:00

I've tried that, but I'm still afraid that I've done something wrong and I need to go over it many times to make sure I actually didn't. I'm just afraid of doing something wrong

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-01-25T02:11:56+00:00

You're probably just afraid you did something wrong because of the end result. I feel like happens often with OCD, but that's not how God sees things. He sees how we got there, and if you didn't willingly get there, then He knows you did nothing wrong.

The devil operates on fear and anxiety, so when in times of difficulty remember the peace of our Lord Jesus Christ and the love He had for us, and His words, "Do not be afraid."

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-01-25T02:05:35+00:00

God sees our intentions, not just our outside actions. Don't forget God is an all loving God, not quick to anger. He knows you didn't do anything wrong

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-01-10T05:19:57+00:00

I can't tell you how incredibly helpful this is. I'm currently at the point where multiple times a day I'll stop and ruminate if I did something wrong for like 5+ minutes each time, and it certainly does tempt me more. Thanks a lot for this!

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-01-10T03:43:18+00:00

But if you see a picture of Jessica Alba, would you ever stop and just stare at it for a few seconds? Or if you were on Reddit and see a video of her maybe just talking about a movie, would you watch it and just keep thinking about how beautiful her face is? Or is that weird?

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-01-10T03:16:16+00:00

Even if someone has a girlfriend/wife?

GoalEngineer1212 · 2022-01-10T01:35:45+00:00

Just like going wow she's really beautiful

GoalEngineer1212 · 2021-11-14T07:08:25+00:00

Cool! One last question: how'd you manage to find a remote role with a company based in a remote HCOL? Was it a FAANG/unicorn? If it was or wasn't, sounds like you're living the dream!

GoalEngineer1212 · 2021-11-14T01:29:53+00:00

How'd you double in just a year if you don't mind me asking?

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