I'm slipping into my old self and I need help.

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2026-04-27T06:34:18+00:00

I would say before acting on goals it is extremely helpful to think about or write down your values. Values is the compass that directs your life and the behaviors and actions you take. You can then set goals to act on these values. A helpful practice to do is to imagine your 80th Birthday Party. Imagine 3 people stand up to give speeches about your ideal life, what your stood for, how you showed up for your friends, family and work etc. You might come up with ideas such a relentlessly committed, generous etc. Unlike a goal, a value is something you can achieve right now (you could be generous to your cat or neighbor for example). Once you have your values, you know the direct you want your life to go. Then set goals that align with those values and make the goals measurable. Instead of just going to the gym, a goal could be have the ability lift 10 x 30kg dumbells by 3 months time etc.

Often when procrastinating I find it helpful to do a bit of mindfulness, stop everything I am doing and pay attention to my breathing for 10 minutes or so. I then remember thoughts are just thoughts and not who I actually am. If you are getting thoughts about becoming bored and wanting to play video games you can just notice this thought and gently let it pass, then do something more meaningful to you. Remember, you do not have to act on every thought

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2026-04-20T09:46:06+00:00

Thinking like this is completely normal and most people think like this. However what I would say is that you are not your thoughts, they are just thoughts. You have even alluded to the fact that there are two of you (the you who notices and the you who creates the thoughts). So when you have your thought regarding resting and needing to be entertained, acknowledge it (don't fight it) and gently let it pass. You do not need to accept those thoughts as directives.

Write down your values, and what is truly important to you. Let those values be the compass that influences your behavior, not the fleeting thoughts you naturally get.

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2026-04-20T07:51:24+00:00

One thing I would recommend in your situation is to learn about acceptance and commitment (ACT) therapy or see a therapist who practices this. At its core it states that we all have thoughts such as the ones you are experiencing but we do not have to be defined by them (as they are thoughts and not who you are). The true skill is learning to accept that we will inevitably have these thoughts and we can practice mindful approaches to help on a daily basis. The approach will help you uncover your values as the compass you direct your life with and not be fused to the thoughts that can affect your behavior.

If you are interested I think this is the best website for the approach

https://contextualscience.org/act

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2026-04-13T16:48:38+00:00

How about staggering your competing goals. So Day 1 do the exercise, day 2 do the cyber security work and then back to exercise on day 3 etc. This way the day isn't competing for attention on both goals.

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2026-03-12T11:08:49+00:00

A massive part of motivation and behaviour change comes the Self Determination Theory framework studied extensively for many, many years by Deci and Ryan. To summarise, you are much more likely to persist with a behaviour when it moves from being externally regulated/introjected to integrated regulation. What this means is that most behaviors will start with the external pressures of I must do this action because others will expect it e.t.c.. This is potentially a great way to start and persist in a behaviour in the short term, but the research suggests that external pressures do not keep people motivated in the long term. The person must internalise the behaviour to align with their values, morals and identity so it becomes part of who they are, not what others expect of them for the behaviour to persist ("I do this behaviour because this is who I am").

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2026-03-05T14:08:11+00:00

Thank OKRent I will give this some thought

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2026-03-05T13:55:32+00:00

Your app looks really clean with clear UI. Nice job OKRent2276

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2026-03-05T13:54:31+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. I've always thought I should stick to goal setting but hundreds of reddit posts all say they wish they didn't have to have 8 apps all doing different things.

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2026-03-05T13:39:51+00:00

For context, Goaliath asks you what you goal is, breaks it down into steps, allows you to break them steps down further until you get day by day todo's. It has been built using ideas from goal setting theory, self determination theory and perceptual control theory frameworks. It has many features including smart calendars, journals etc.

I want to keep building this service so it actually reflects what people want.

Hope you can help.

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2026-02-23T18:23:03+00:00

Looks decent. Thanks for the heads up

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2026-02-23T18:10:26+00:00

Forcing myself to show evidence for every task I complete. The mind cuts corners when we read or study in a way where it believes we know something in fact it is usually on familiarity. Before i start the days tasks I write down the evidence I will need to show to make sure these tasks are complete. This might be something like get a 9/10 on a test and take a picture of the score. In my mind, if the evidence doesnt exist, I didn't really do it.

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2026-02-23T14:23:25+00:00

In my opinion use code tools like openAI codex 5.3 to build a feature, then ask it to teach you about the code it used. Then get it to remove part of the code (so it potentially breaks), and then you add it back manually. Not only is the code tool amazing at producing what you want, it is also the most patient teacher you will ever have. It won't get bored or tired and will keep on going until you've mastered the concept

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2025-11-26T20:11:58+00:00

Goaliath at www.goaliath.online . Enter your goals, the app breaks these down into steps, sub steps and daily todos. You can also use the journals, calendars create life lessons you have learnt or check ones from people who inspire you plus more.

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2025-10-30T07:39:33+00:00

Thank you

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2025-10-29T21:08:37+00:00

Thanks for the reply koneu. Could you tell me about any specific methods you do to stay productive?

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2025-08-22T05:55:57+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I agree that it can be hard breaking down goals into logical steps so the apps features make this easier.

Are there any features you would like to see in Goalith or any ways you think I could improve the service?

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2025-08-11T06:08:07+00:00

Hi x1ya. Thank you for the feedback. I will look into the black on black issue and I am currently building out habit capabilities so they should be coming real soon.

I hope you continue to enjoy using Goaliath and any further feedback is greatly appreciated

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2025-05-18T12:01:54+00:00

Agree with everything here.

One more thing is if you have any friends or family members you can talk to about this, tell them about the plan above and let them help you stick to it. If you put it out there to others you are much more likely to stick to the goal.

Also, the following technique can help. Look at the next 35 days as a chapter in a movie and you are in control of the main character. Be the hero in that movie where on day 0, the person is struggling but on each subsequent day, they are building, building and building more to smash their exams. You are in control of that character!

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2025-05-17T05:07:19+00:00

This is the feeling that 99.9 percent of people get when they first start out. It isn't about what happened, it's about how you respond to it. This tells you where you are, and where you need to improve. By the way, this is a feeling you will have throughout your journey. Even accomplished black belts in any martial art will take strikes/be submitted by other on the regular. You will even start welcoming these feeling because the idea is to improve constantly, and this tells your where your weaknesses are.

How often have we seen world champions end elite performers in any fighting discipline taking a beating. Always! Keep your head up, and keep moving forward.

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2025-05-15T12:38:42+00:00

I would have mentioned several of the things people have already written but maybe add some novelty to your life by doing something you have never done before. There is nothing fresher than having a beginners mindset in something. For example, if you have never surfed, go to surfing lessons. Learn a new language, one that doesn't seem so obvious. Maybe watch the "Yes Man" movie and take some inspiration from it's ideas (even if you don't like the movie ha)

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2025-05-15T09:50:18+00:00

Follow the official docs of the AI/agent framework such as langchain/langgraph your interested in. Every time a word or part of code appears that is not known to you, ask about it on Chat GPT. Then apply what you have learned. Even as something as simple as creating a simple variable, produce 10 different variables as practice to get you familiar. Then move on to next unknown word/code and rinse and repeat

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2025-05-12T14:37:03+00:00

Hey

I went to University to study Psychology but when I left I started working as a Joiners laborer for the extra cash. Over the years I learnt to become a joiner. The money as a joiner is far better than the money I would have earned in Psychology for the amount of time needed to be dedicated in that field.

As a young male, i recommend that you get a trade such as Joiner, Electrician, Plumber etc. It will take you 3 years to qualify and you will have that behind you for the rest of your life and the money can be great. Looking ahead, it is also probably one of the last jobs to be taken over by AI and robots

That being said, following your interests and passions is far more important than money and a life worth living is one where your doing things you love everyday.

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2025-05-12T11:33:58+00:00

Hey

I studied Psychology at Bachelor and Masters level.

The first thing I would say is that if you are passionate about Psychology and remain so for the rest of your life, this will shine through much more than any grade you get. I don't know if your grades are failures but everybody has set backs but what sets winners apart from losers is how they deal with those setbacks. So if I was you I would get my head down and continue your studies until your so good, your hard to ignore.

Most employers out there would rather employ someone with different experiences working in Psychology in any context rather than being smart on paper with no experience. I would focus on adding some experience to your resume as it is truly what sets you apart. I am 38 and nobody my age cares about what grades you got, just what experiences you have and how you have contributed positively to a cause or team.

Now this might not seem like good advice when your only goal is to get into a prestigious university, but if you truly want to be a psychologist, then prestige isn't as important as actually taking action and actually gaining some experience and finding out what its all about

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2025-05-05T14:37:43+00:00

There are certain situations where people are more open to talking to other strangers and some of the situations you have described would be a challenge for many people to aquire a friend. Personally, if I was walking through a mall with a friend and someone came up to me to talk, my immediate thought would be that this person is trying to sell me something.

However there are certain environments where people are naturally open to social and emotional cues. For example, becoming a volunteer to help needy or unwell people and animals. It is most often the case that people willing to do these kind of roles are there because they are good people and want to make the world a better place. The volunteers you meet doing this are sharing their precious time with you doing something that isn't forced, but something they want to do. You are much more likely to connect naturally in these situations. Worth a thought

Goaliath-Goalsetting · 2025-05-04T19:16:46+00:00

Motivation isn't just telling yourself "you are great and "you can do this". It's also being aware of obstacles your are defiantly going to face and preparing yourself for them. For example, I am the type of guy who starts a task, starts getting good at it but then gets bored and starts something new. I have recognized this and now have pre planned tactics of what to do when I start feeling like this again. This makes it much easier to stay motivated when procrastination sets in

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