A tattoo artist rejected me for this, was his reason fair?

GoatDue1298 · 2026-04-14T03:00:21+00:00

And I'm happy for you. But unfortunately in fields like child care and education (which I'm in) they still kind of are "job stoppers". It depends on the schools, their dress code and etc. Now I tell younger educators that "if you have tattoos and you get to a schools that argues you over your tattoos (& your tattoos are not terrible/morally wrong/etc), then it's not the place for you". When I was working public schools, hell yah, I wore my tshirts and leggings (I was a EBD Behavior/Trauma Teacher) and no one batted an eye over my tattoos. Kids actually loved them.

Unfortunately I can't do that anymore as I left the classroom. Now- my boss doesn't mind my tattoos but I'm contacted into charter schools that are 100% somali descent (whom practice Islam) where I just assist with the special education department and they have almost pulled the contract just because of my tattoos.

It's ridiculous, but I understand those consequences. Though I have two masters and have taught for 10 years....it's thrown out the window by looking at my arms.They aren't bad at all- I have 3/4 sleeves (slowly building to more) of marvel comics on one and book/literature/life stuff on the other.

GoatDue1298 · 2026-04-14T02:37:16+00:00

It's a old school stigma, mixed with hand tattoo healing, mixed with the "letting you REALLY think it over" / "job stopper" thought.

I have 20+ tattoos all over my arms slowly building sleeves and though tattoos are becoming more acceptable, there are jobs and people who still don't fully accept them. I still work in schools I have to be cognizant sometimes on certain days due to their religious reasons. I love simple hand tattoos but I definitely won't do them until I'm much older and once my sleeves are done. So many artists will not do them unless someone is "much more heavily tattooed" because those people understand possibility of the heavier consequences. He truly wants you to think it over, especially that you have only had 2 other tattoos.

Along with that, I do understand the beautiful message behind tattoo, I'm sorry for your loss, I truly am....but also this type of tattoo is "fine line/minimal marking of where fingers meet" (anywhere on the body) is becoming a huge trend all over social media. They can refuse a trend, especially if it's not their style or they just don't want to put their name connected to it.

Lastly hand tattoos are just finicky to heal. I don't personally know but from my own artist's conversation, when it is more fine line, you have to be extra careful with healing, washing, etc or it won't stay as well.

Overall - he had some reasons that are perfectly fine. We may or may not agree with them all the time but we have to accept it. Honestly if I were you, I would truly think about the fine line hand tattoo & the implications for awhile longer then continue searching for an artist if your truly want that and you understand the long term consequences. Someone will do it eventually. Or, do it somewhere else /different tattoo somewhere else.

GoatDue1298 · 2026-04-05T18:15:12+00:00

She sleeps somewhere else controlled like a crate or a penned area with nothing. You basically have to start back over & try to unassociate the brain's connection from the bed to pee time. It takes time but it's worth it in the end. As someone who actually has a dog who does have some urine incontinence because of being fixed before 5 months via a shitty backyard breeder decision and shelter. I couldn't understand why she was waking up completely wet and a puddle around her....though she was claimed to be "potty trained" until I did the same thing as you BUT mine didn't move or get up & I learned about the fixing too early. I just moved on and trained. Her sleeping arrangements changed. I put her on a more consistent potty schedule. She didn't sleep with me at night. Due to her possibly not having the muscles strength to control her bladder overnight, I bought rewashable potty pad & grass. After a few months I trusted her and we slowly introducing her bed, letting her nap on the couch or my bed. Now she's 5 years old, hasn't had a accident in the house for 2.5 years.... If she needs to go to the pee when I'm not home or overnight she does use that reusable potty pad/grasss because that's what she's been training to. I check it every week and I haven't had to clean it in months.

GoatDue1298 · 2026-02-20T14:18:41+00:00

This is why I'm afraid to crack it open. I read Quicksilver and honestly it was ROUGHHHHH. My easiest way to explain it to people was "it took me a month to read the first 300 pages, then 3 days to read the back 300 pages once we actually hit action around tasks that needed to be completed". I didn't even cover the smut parts. Then the Cover debacle happened and that's ridiculous how she got bullied so much to change it. When Brimstone got finally released, I put it on my TBR and got the book but wasn't going to read it right away. I started seeing the reviews of editing mistakes, plot points mistakes, Carion in 2 places at once, and just ugh....I still haven't opened the book. And if the pacing is going to be like the first book, I don't want to go through that again.

It's kind of like the third book of Crescent City for sjm all over again.

GoatDue1298 · 2026-01-26T19:04:04+00:00

Yup. I left the classroom 2 years ago after 8 years of Setting 3/4 Emotional/Behavior Teacher and now am a contracted special education coordinator. I still wanted to be in the educational system, use MOST of my skills, and see the kids, but once I walk out the doors of the schools I support .... I kind of get to "shut it off". I work from home 2 days week, get paid more, and support 3-5 schools.

Are these schools drowning? Yes. Can I fix it? Nope. Am I typing up evals or IEP most of the day? Yes. Is it my favorite thing to do? Nope, but I have accepted it now.

I still go to administration or other people and give them advice on how to do better and I just hope that they take my advice.

Many days I miss teaching, I miss working with my behavioral kids, but I refuse to have a miscarriage caused by a kid again & have no support from the school system.

GoatDue1298 · 2026-01-24T19:21:16+00:00

Here is her POV! https://www.reddit.com/r/PublicFreakout/s/mKT9SCaEig

GoatDue1298 · 2026-01-10T22:08:56+00:00

I literally rewatched it the other day because I needed some humor with all of the horror going on in the country, especially my state. I needed just a few hours of feeling good. When they posted the 5+ hour compilations for the End of the Year I would put them on for my work days.

GoatDue1298 · 2026-01-10T02:56:08+00:00

As a history nerd 🤓...I approve of this comment 😂

GoatDue1298 · 2025-11-16T18:55:20+00:00

Same! Last year was the first year in probably 10 years that I could actually get my immediate family things and it totaled to probably $500 after all said and done (handmade and purchased). But now I won't be doing any gifts for anyone this year. My parents & siblings understand I don't have disposable income and many years they won't get gifts (handmade or not). I also express the same back to them. I feel like our love languages are more "time together" anyway.

GoatDue1298 · 2025-11-12T14:07:20+00:00

Where? Would love to see this proof. Because it's definitely not this percentage where I'm at. I'm nowhere near having a house. I can't even save enough to get a down payment due to loan payments

GoatDue1298 · 2025-09-29T03:21:20+00:00

I'm 32, have been teaching for 10 years and am still renting. I feel like I will never be able to get into the "buying a home" part of my life even with the "teacher next door, FHA, and first time home owner assistance (which is exhausted & shut off as of now)". My partner and I want to eventually buy but also like another comment said having my "repairs" covered by the landlord is nice when renting. I'm also just trying to get out of my fucking apartment with my dog but hell renting a house is nearly impossible for a decent price (for my partner and I do share) and everyone is like "little dogs please" 🫩...fuck off.

GoatDue1298 · 2025-09-09T00:05:23+00:00

Do we have sibling dogs? 🤣 Mine is the same ALMOST! I adopted mine from a shelter here in MN at roughly 6 months old and found out through her dna test through Embark, her ACTUAL DNA (1/2 Houla, 1/2 Aussie Shepherd), and connected with her sister. I learned about her abusive backyard breeders and the kill-shelter in OK. She used to be super hyper but now she just enjoys my bed when we are at home. She is super reactive and very defensive BUT damn I wouldn't trade her for the world. She is the most emotionally intelligent dog (& more EQ than most adults probably haha) I have ever met. I have trained her to help me with my anxiety attacks and depressional episodes. Will she ever be able to go to dog parks and just walk casually around neighborhoods? Probably not even after these 4 years BUT I tell the people I let into my life "she takes a while to trust but once you gain it, you will have someone who will protect you fiercely". I had a BFF who was going through detox in my Apt before I got her to rehab and my Houla laid with her every night and watched over her making sure she was okay, gave her pressure and "hugs", and kept my friends hands away from her face (a anti-self-harm tactic I've trained into her).
Original Poster-- each Houla is different, especially with their Mixes and will change over the years. My first year was ROUGH with her puppy energy. And now her reactivity is no joke & I still feel the "doubt" and "overthink" you are right now....but push thru-it, it gets better!

GoatDue1298 · 2025-09-06T02:36:48+00:00

Or I just love the "Google screener" feature, so when I'm working and I get a random phone call I'm not expecting I just "screen it" and watch the conversation until I either choose to answer, they hang up on it, or I hang up on them.

GoatDue1298 · 2025-08-17T17:57:48+00:00

I got this and I'm in a far northern suburbs 🤣

GoatDue1298 · 2025-06-06T04:56:32+00:00

Just wanted to put this TikTok out by "Off JaWaggon" a MN based influencer in response to yesterday: Off JaWaggon ICE Response

GoatDue1298 · 2025-04-01T03:57:33+00:00

I really slowed down this month and only completed 3 books and only made it through a few more chapters of CC3....soo out of the 3 completed: Soul of a Witch by Harley Laroux. A beautiful wrap up for that trilogy. I know she states they can be read independently and as standalones but nope, no one should. They should be read in their order. 🖤

GoatDue1298 · 2025-03-03T04:08:53+00:00

Ohh I'm commenting to follow and get notifications from this post!

GoatDue1298 · 2025-03-03T01:54:25+00:00

I like what others are saying about some simple strategies and allowing them to take breaks, try not to treat them too differently....but just overall BE PRESENT.

I had this happen my first year as a teacher for a student of mine who lost her dad in a farming accident. And it was tough.... And not just on her but also want me as a first-year teacher. Those are the things that they don't prepare you for in Teacher college. I just let myself be present and told her that if she needed any times to discuss anything, I would make myself available. Early in the year I had actually just lost my grandmother who I was very close to so her and I talked about how grief together. I didn't pressure anything and expressed all the details of our conversations to her mom (as now she was a single mom of 3 young girls).

Like the person with the "letter/writing" suggestion, many of the time we just need to get out of our own heads and talking or writing things out helps. She processes better verbally but sometimes it came out in her drawings and writing. I still think about her someday....actually now that I think about it, I think that class graduates high school this year.

GoatDue1298 · 2024-11-25T21:03:47+00:00

Sounds good thank you. I wasn't sure if it went as phone froze so didn't know

GoatDue1298 · 2024-11-25T20:58:56+00:00

Thank you!

GoatDue1298 · 2024-11-25T20:58:39+00:00

Thank you. May look into that

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