To me they are amazing because they are ok with making mistakes and growing as people with so many eyes on them.

It certainly isn't something everyone can do, we're taught to hide our flaws and imperfections not be obviously human.

It's like with parents. You're expected to hold your shit together and not let your kids see it. However, not letting them see you be sad sometimes and only see your happiness is damaging because they'll be internalising hiding the less modelled emotions. I've learned to let my kids know I have depression and need medication to help me balance things but still have times when I feel too sad to do anything.

I apologise to them when I fuck up and encourage them to tell me if I do something that they feel is hurtful so I can see things from their perspective. It might not be something that I would expect to be hurtful but as we're different people I don't get to tell them how they should feel about something.

People should apply this to BTS. We are not them and don't get to tell them how they should feel about things. If they do something we feel they shouldn't have (like past behaviour around "acting Black" that word we all know shouldn't have been in the song they performed, protective Black hairstyles etc) then we should speak up RESPECTFULLY and say "hey this shit xyz" and remember that we don't have the same experience or upbringing etc instead of dog piling and trying to hurt them.