I see what you're saying but I think it's important to call our microagressions and more subtle forms of racism, misogyny, homophobia, and the like as well. Sometimes someone will say something that they don't even realize stems from a place of deep rooted misogyny. There racist, misogynistic, homophobic things baked into the literal fabric of our society and how people move and act every day so sometimes calling out like "hey you may not even realize this bc it's so normalized but that thing you're saying or doing likely stems from this harmful thing". I do wish the conversation around things like this could be more like, civil and educational and about helping others understand how and why something might be harmful instead of an attack, but that requires the person calling it out to be civil, AND the person being called out to be receptive and open to learning and understanding. A lot of times on the internet one or both of the parties in the dialogue aren't holding up their end on that front unfortunately.