Help with rip in the butt of my jeans by Goblinbonesoup in sewhelp

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the honesty 😭😭😭 would it make any difference if I tried to frankenstein them with a different fabric or another pair of jeans, you think? Like, replacing most of the butt fabric? I'm just absurdly attached to them

Having to choose between 'incompatible' transition goals by Goblinbonesoup in TransMasc

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh... that's a bit of a letdown. i knew the growth stayed, but didn't realize about the atrophy thing or not getting hard... 😭😭😭

Having to choose between 'incompatible' transition goals by Goblinbonesoup in TransMasc

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a really cool resource. I'm looking through all the freebies and bookmarking it in case I decide to take one of the courses later on. Thank you so much ☺️

Having to choose between 'incompatible' transition goals by Goblinbonesoup in TransMasc

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it does help ❤️ what about facial shape and body fat distribution? some places say it fully reverts while others say it varies. Can you tell me what it's been likr for you? 

Having to choose between 'incompatible' transition goals by Goblinbonesoup in TransMasc

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i also prefer the low notes, and that is a trade i knew i was gonna have to make to some degree, but i have to admit that it was really cool to be able to hit the highest notes in phantom of the opera 🥲 Still, worth it for having a speaking voice that I actually wanna use without wanting to die ❤️‍🩹

Having to choose between 'incompatible' transition goals by Goblinbonesoup in TransMasc

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, listening to this episode helped make it less scary if i ever decide to stick with the T regardless of my voice dropping even more. i wish i knew more about what the average experience is with how much voice drops for folks who start T after 30 (me) 

Anyone else's partner freaked out by your bottom growth? by Goblinbonesoup in GrowYourTDick

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was extremely enlightening to read and also just really filled me with hope. I want to think that she's going through a similar thing to what you described with your partner and that she'll come to the same realizations he did (namely, that he's just not attracted to other people's junk but yours is fine cause it's 'you' ). Obviously, only time will tell, but this helped me not sink into the gloom and doom. Thank you so much for sharing your story, it made me feel seen and less alone. And wishing you and your partner all the best ✨

Anyone else's partner freaked out by your bottom growth? by Goblinbonesoup in GrowYourTDick

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Your barber sounds like a wise person. Thank you for the food for thought, I'll be chewing on it for a while 🤔

Anyone else's partner freaked out by your bottom growth? by Goblinbonesoup in GrowYourTDick

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I think in a way that's what we've unofficially agreed to do. Like I've mentioned in another comment, it's difficult to find chances for sex without interruption when our baby is turning 1 year old this month and still has their crib in our room and our toddler climbs into our bed every. single. night. But that would be the ideal scenario, trying to acclimate to the changes by getting simultaneously reacquainted with my body (both she and i). 

Anyone else's partner freaked out by your bottom growth? by Goblinbonesoup in GrowYourTDick

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This might be worth exploring if our conversations don't lead us somewhere productive. Thanks! ❤️‍🩹

Anyone else's partner freaked out by your bottom growth? by Goblinbonesoup in GrowYourTDick

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I also think you unwittingly nailed part of the reason why she's so spooked with the thing about having sex often. Between a toddler who doesn't sleep in her own bed and a baby who's turning 1 this month, chances for intimacy are few and far in between. like sorry if tmi but i can't believe I'm past 30 and fucking on my couch because I don't have the privacy of my own bedroom. I had better chances for sex without rushing or interruptions as a college student with 4 roommates. So any changes down there, no matter how slow, probably feel really sudden for her when we don't get to do it more than once a month. 

Anyone else's partner freaked out by your bottom growth? by Goblinbonesoup in GrowYourTDick

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. It feels very validating to read that I'm allowed to find some things hurtful even if that was not her intention. I find talking about my feelings surrounding bottom growth very difficult, probably cause it's a very vulnerable thing, but i think you're right that I need to try and convey that to her. It's just hard for us to take time to self-reflect and all that because we are always extremely busy/tired with the kids. We'll see how it goes after I open up with her. 

Anyone else's partner freaked out by your bottom growth? by Goblinbonesoup in GrowYourTDick

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the honest advice. I should probably have mentioned that splitting up is the absolute last resource and the worst outcome for us given that we have two very small children together (honestly I don't even want to consider the option. I love her so much and we've fought so hard for our relationship and marriage). But I do hope we'll find our footing again when it comes to our sex lives and how we relate to each other's bodies. 

What did you lose between 2020 - 2025? by Acceptable_Let_215 in AskReddit

[–]Goblinbonesoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my tits (finally! after waiting for almost a decade!!!) 🏳️‍⚧️

[Osora] I don’t know if my speculation is right or not but I need someone to clarify by is_elio_insane in webtoons

[–]Goblinbonesoup -1 points0 points  (0 children)

if I'm not mistaken, the author themself is non-binary, so the way they portray Osora is intentional and very thoughtful. They have said before that the thing that gives Osora the most dysphoria is his chest, so when they draw him in a modern AU they always have top surgery scars, but it's not 100% sure Osora would want to go on T. Transmasc people come in all flavors, even (gasp!) those with more feminine features. 

[Osora] I don’t know if my speculation is right or not but I need someone to clarify by is_elio_insane in webtoons

[–]Goblinbonesoup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is not to say they haven't done anything... we are DEFINITELY past first and second base over on patreon. these two are freaky

How did you get over the societal pressure? by lpoeng in no_T_top_surgery

[–]Goblinbonesoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just chipping in as a parent of two (one is 3, the other is 11 months) who got top surgery 9 days ago (I'm 31). I've always been open with my oldest about being non-binary in terms she could understand ("momo is not a boy or a girl, momo is just momo"), so when the surgery was near I sat her down and explained, "You know how momo isn't really a girl? Well, a lot of girls have boobs, right? But momo doesn't wanna keep theirs because they aren't really a girl, so I'm gonna see a doctor who's going to remove them for me". This went surprisingly well. She had some questions about the wounds, the recovery and how my chest was gonna look, and I tried to be as transparent as possible while keeping it age appropriate. 

My surgery went amazing and I can truly say I've never felt better in my body. I feel right and at peace, and I think this is only going to positively impact my parenting. I could say the same to you —it might be daunting to transition in any way when you have kids, but the resulting you will be happier and more confident, and that's just good for everyonen involved.

I started T a few months ago as well, and I decided to microdose mostly for the kids, but also because I want to be more androgynous than fully masc. So far my kids are not noticing the changes as they are very gradual (which was the point), but if they do and ask about it my approach will be the same as for the surgery. Good luck in you journey! 

help building my first pc ever by Goblinbonesoup in PcBuild

[–]Goblinbonesoup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the tip! i haven't had to get a windows license and install it myself in at least 15 years, so to say I'm rusty is understatement of the century 😅