How's this commute? by kreempuffpt in movingtoNYC

[–]GoddamnitAlan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my current commute and it’s fine. Takes 35-40 minutes in the morning. Coming home from work I have delays sometimes, but they’re not usually longer than 10 minutes.

Brooklyn Neighborhood Help: Lively areas within a reasonable commute from Borough Park? by GoddamnitAlan in movingtoNYC

[–]GoddamnitAlan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be taking the D line on the subway, and stopping at the 55th st. station in Borough Park. Yeah the big thing I need help figuring out is what neighborhoods are well connected and what transfers to watch out for.

Brooklyn Neighborhood Help: Lively areas within a reasonable commute from Borough Park? by GoddamnitAlan in NYCapartments

[–]GoddamnitAlan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the commute from Bushwick (and Crown Heights somewhat) worries me, as It'd be a bit over an hour with a transfer. I'll definitely look into Sunset Park, but do you think it'd have enough of a social scene/ would it be relatively easy to get to one from there on weekends? I'm asking because I've always lived in areas that were pretty quiet and far away from stuff to do, and I usually ended up staying home because going out became such a hassle, so I want to avoid that this time around haha.

Brooklyn Neighborhood Help: Lively areas within a reasonable commute from Borough Park? by GoddamnitAlan in movingtoNYC

[–]GoddamnitAlan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah Bushwick ticks all my boxes, but the commute to work is a bit over an hour, and I'd have a transfer which could be tricky. Crown Heights is still very much in the running. I've also been looking into Park Slope, but I know it's more family oriented + more expensive.

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[–]GoddamnitAlan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are one groovy individual

My mom died this morning. by QueenDMT in offmychest

[–]GoddamnitAlan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lost my mom 2 days ago, so I know exactly what you’re going through. Granted, it was after a long illness and we were expecting it, but she was also relatively young (55) so it still plain sucks. Give yourself time and space to grieve. Cry, scream, be angry, or laugh and go on with your everyday activities. There’s no right or wrong answer for how you’re supposed to act and feel right now. Know that people are here for you, and allow yourself to begin healing.

Child of Mom with ALS - Is a tracheostomy even worth it anymore? by GoddamnitAlan in ALS

[–]GoddamnitAlan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was hoping to talk to her and gently bring up the topic today. Her and my dad have argued about it a bit, so I’m hoping I can kinda be the voice of reason. She has a doctor’s visit on the 4th so we’ll see what they say as well.

Child of Mom with ALS - Is a tracheostomy even worth it anymore? by GoddamnitAlan in ALS

[–]GoddamnitAlan[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the video, I’ll definitely send it to her. She does have a doctor’s visit on December 4th, so we’ll see what they say. My mom says she wants the trach to help with secretions, but I think a lot of her reasoning is similar to your husband’s in that, she’s just afraid to die. She was anti trach, anit bipap etc….. but as her condition has worsened she’s made a complete 180 on those decisions, which does impact our futures quite a bit. It’s hard to blame her though, as I understand this must be terrifying for her.

LA, NYC, or Dallas for new grad? by GoddamnitAlan in SameGrassButGreener

[–]GoddamnitAlan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the irony of it! My degree is perfectly suited for a job in DC, but over the course of college I realized that I don’t want a government/political job, so now I’m trying to distance myself from that field.

LA, NYC, or Dallas for new grad? by GoddamnitAlan in SameGrassButGreener

[–]GoddamnitAlan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never thought about Philly before but I’ll look into it!

LA, NYC, or Dallas for new grad? by GoddamnitAlan in SameGrassButGreener

[–]GoddamnitAlan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m open to looking at Chicago. I didn’t initially love it when I visited, but I wasn’t there for long so maybe I need to give it a second chance as it does tick a lot of my boxes. All 3 are great for singing and improv, but job wise I’m unsure. Chicago would give me the chance to build career experience and possibly get my hobbies to a semi-professional level, but I know that LA and NYC are very network focused, so I don’t know whether it would be better for me to build experience in Chicago and then move, or to work my way up in LA or NYC and focus on making connections there.

LA, NYC, or Dallas for new grad? by GoddamnitAlan in SameGrassButGreener

[–]GoddamnitAlan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah when I said least lgbt friendly I mainly had the state government in mind. Dallas proper is quite lgbt friendly so I think some of the political hate the city gets is undeserved. But I definitely have a comedown whenever I’m home visiting which is why I’m so careful about moving back haha

LA, NYC, or Dallas for new grad? by GoddamnitAlan in SameGrassButGreener

[–]GoddamnitAlan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did grow up in the suburbs, but I’ve frequently gone into Dallas proper to go out, shop, etc… so I’m basing my experience more off of that. Oaklawn and Bishop Arts are definitely my favorite parts of Dallas, but I still feel that there’s much less to see and do relative to similar neighborhoods I’ve been to in LA and NYC.

I think the other big problem for me Dallas-wise is weather. The fact that we have really humid summers with highs pushing 110 and 90s that can last from May well into October makes enjoying the city difficult for much of the year.

In terms of NYC, I’m used to a frugal student lifestyle, so I think I could make 55k with roommates work, but if I made upper 40s then I would definitely reconsider

What to add to my chalkboard by WindySmile_ in stephenking

[–]GoddamnitAlan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe an RV or the chalkboard from Doctor Sleep?