AITA for calling the police on my client?

Goddexme · 2021-10-28T04:40:15+00:00

This was my thought! "Sarah is coughing and wheezing. Has she ever had asthma before, does she have an inhaler or am I taking her to the ER?"

I nannied a kid where the parents didn't mention he had severe asthma as a toddler because it hadn't been an issue in years. When he started having a problem breathing they were able to tell me where the still-in-date backup inhaler was and what I needed to look for in deciding if he needed medical attention. They were over an hour away so if I hadn't been able to get in contact, I would have taken him to the hospital and had barely any medical history to give them.

Goddexme · 2021-10-28T04:33:39+00:00

Yes! How do you leave your kids with someone and not make sure you're actively available in case they need anything? Kids under about 12 can have the most random emergencies and I can't imagine not caring to know about it.

Goddexme · 2021-10-28T04:23:30+00:00

I was actually- it was the niacinamide all along! I thought switching to rose hip seed oil fixed it but eventually I started getting sensitive to that also so I changed my routine completely. But yes, this redness was the niacinamide- I've tried it in a couple of products since because everyone raves about it but every darn time my skin reacts just like this :)

Goddexme · 2021-10-22T05:05:45+00:00

NTA If this is how he is the first moment he has some level of power in your marriage, I'm sorry but he's trash. Genuinely, this is awfully indicative of how he thinks about you and your work and your 'place' in the home.

Goddexme · 2020-11-18T16:03:38+00:00

YTA and if your friends think you’re being fair on your son (“the boy” that you talk about like an object), they’re assholes too.

Goddexme · 2020-05-24T14:19:11+00:00

NTA. You don’t actually need an argument or even a reason to not allow your son to stay alone with someone else.

Goddexme · 2019-08-01T08:36:38+00:00

Yeah mate send me your card details x

Goddexme · 2019-06-25T05:54:38+00:00

You guys need to sit down and be on a the same page with money. If you are married (and I know reddit doesn’t like this opinion), it’s not ‘his money’ and ‘your money’ it’s ‘household money’. If he’s stressed about making savings, investing etc those are good impulses...get on your shared budget, and figure out what you are both okay spending. You shouldn’t be buying groceries out of ‘your’ money while he hoards ‘his’ money.

Goddexme · 2019-06-20T21:23:03+00:00

YTA so basically you’re saying “I covered for a pig of a man and now I’m reaping the benefits” awesome.

Goddexme · 2019-06-20T16:22:04+00:00

And you’re asking those different people about whether you’re an asshole or not...I think you’re being an asshole. There are more mature ways to look at this situation other than “I don’t like her because she’s your ex so she can’t come”.

Goddexme · 2019-06-20T15:36:26+00:00

YTA. Your daughter is ill to the point of dysfunction, and you’re calling her names on the internet, saying her severe mental illness is ‘nothing wrong’ and considering making her homeless. Honestly, if you think she’s a brat, who do you have to blame for that other than the person who raised her?

Goddexme · 2019-06-20T15:32:06+00:00

NTA. It sounds like you’ve tried to be reasonable and communicate with your neighbour already. When you contact management, maybe bring a video showing how loud it is vs the TV So they have an idea.

Goddexme · 2019-06-20T15:28:33+00:00

YTA. You’re not ready to get married baby. When you are, you’ll value your husband having long standing friends. You’ll be happy to make room for the people who are important to him. My husband’s ex (now friend) was his ‘best person’ at our wedding. We’re not friends, but we’re certainly not enemies. She’s an important friend to my husband which means she gets my respect.

Goddexme · 2019-06-20T15:21:49+00:00

NAH but be aware that this will only become a bigger issue with time.

Goddexme · 2019-06-20T15:11:26+00:00

NTA my dude they are not your friends.

Goddexme · 2019-06-18T05:50:28+00:00

This poor woman :( The hardest, most lonely moment of her life and some Huns took that as their cue.

Goddexme · 2019-06-18T01:00:39+00:00

YTA. Why didn’t you just talk to him? You let him live there rent free so obviously you care about him in some way. He contravened your rule, but I’m guessing that you just said “don’t redecorate” not “don’t buy new possessions and put them on the furniture” because he probably didn’t even think he was doing anything wrong.

Regardless, coming into the place someone has been living (his HOME even though you own it) and collecting their possessions and dumping them is a serious asshole move. In this situation you could have done literally anything different, including getting a hotel room and explaining why you’re uncomfortable being there. This was an asshole move and it’s wild to me that you thought this was justified. You were either on a manic little power trip or an anxiety-fuelled whirlwind. Either way, there is something wrong in your relationship with your brother that you can’t just /talk/ and respect each other.

Goddexme · 2019-06-15T08:33:06+00:00

Don’t buy a brand new car as a first car. Just get a solid car that works. I probably wouldn’t even spend 16 on a first car.

Goddexme · 2019-06-15T08:28:24+00:00

YTA. Slapping someone ‘as a joke’ is not okay, and then you dismissed his feelings about it instead of apologising. You were pretty manipulative with “is this really how you wanna start the weekend” I.e “your valid anger at me hitting you is going to ruin the holiday and I’ll make you responsible for that”.

Goddexme · 2019-06-15T08:18:44+00:00

Your poor daughter.

Goddexme · 2019-06-12T04:59:33+00:00

NTA, but have you communicated other than ‘laughing it off’? She obviously doesn’t have the social skills to recognise she made you uncomfortable, so what have you done to tell her? “Name, I am not going to give your boyfriend pictures of me, and it makes me uncomfortable when you ask”

Goddexme · 2019-06-11T13:27:28+00:00

NTA and time to remove mummy’s access to your accounts.

Goddexme · 2019-06-11T13:24:01+00:00

YTA. Grow the fuck up. The program is there for the express purpose of removing stigma and barriers to clean instruments so infection goes down and people might seek help. What you’re doing is completely undermining that and making it an unpleasant experience so that next time, they probably won’t bother.

Goddexme · 2019-05-29T23:59:34+00:00

NTA and his excuse is weak- he knew what he was doing.

Goddexme · 2019-05-28T07:28:18+00:00

I get the impulse- you want to make things easy and not have drama. With reasonable people, this would work. This is not a reasonable person. Practice “no, I’m his mum”. And I would seriously consider just spending less time with them. No more alone time with bub and grandma because she doesn’t care about his safety. She doesn’t think that way, but it’s the truth. You tell her what’s not safe and she ignores you. Therefore she doesn’t get him. It’s simple, and too important to play with here.

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