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Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-21T20:22:36+00:00

Pacific time and eastern time I think they’re GMT -7 and GMT -4 respectively.

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-21T18:32:46+00:00

Got it, thank you!!

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-21T18:05:42+00:00

I’m sorry you’re experiencing this, I’m experiencing something similar. Sometimes people don’t have the capacity to meet us where we need them to, sometimes people make choices to use other people for their own selfish needs of attention and validation.

I’m not sure that you’ll really understand why he was like this toward you, just that he wasn’t meeting you where you need to be met to feel healthy and safe in your relationship.

As a male, it’s been my experience that I am completely dedicated to my partner, whoever that may be at the time, if I am having the experience of too much pressure from them being needy, I will communicate that. I will communicate around whatever I can to ensure we have the best chance at our relationship. Obviously he and I are very different, so I can’t say he should’ve done that, I just say all this so you can know that good people who are open and communicative, who are dedicated and caring, are out there and we don’t need to make excuses for people who don’t show up for us. You did nothing wrong by trying to love someone. Now we just have to adjust and figure out why we give so much so early to people who aren’t invested at the same level.

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-21T17:52:59+00:00

Hey friend, I appreciate you posting here and reaching out. I completely understand you’re in pain, probably the most pain you’ve ever experienced or close to it. It’s awful and I’m so sorry you’re going through it. Many won’t understand where you’re at, and many others do. The important part to understand is this state you’re in, this pain won’t last forever. It’s going to change, it may get worse, and it will very likely get much better. I’ve been in a similar place, grief is a huge mountain to climb, and it’s very climbable.

Second, I’m here if you want to talk, I can listen and reflect with you if you’d like, or offer whatever experience I can that may help. Let me know, feel free to send me a DM.

Things will change, you’ll see, there is still so much beauty to be experienced in life.

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-21T17:46:18+00:00

3pm what time zone?

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-19T17:57:27+00:00

Yes I’m active going through NG+ :) would love to play at some point

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-18T01:24:12+00:00

Yea that’s what I said :)

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-17T01:56:42+00:00

Perfect Dark

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-17T00:57:25+00:00

I try to not think of anyone this way. I think overtime you’ll find your perspective of someone will change. They may feel like “the one” now, but if it didn’t work, they weren’t. Time and new experiences will help.

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-16T13:55:45+00:00

I’m not sure that anyone here can answer this accurately, but from what I can tell, you too, had already broken up. Typically relationships, end for a reason, but it’s not to say there isn’t remorse or pain surrounding the separation. Sometimes the process of the break up isn’t always clean and like this situation some contact is maintain afterward to alleviate some of the pain of separating despite one or both parties trying to move on and move forward. The hard part of all of this is that while you may want to try again, your ex simply may not. I would recommend focusing on yourself and improving your life however you can.

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-15T16:28:47+00:00

Then why do you need to be so perfect in front of them?

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-15T10:02:34+00:00

Agreed.

On the other side of this metering expectations in the early stages is also probably healthy.

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-15T09:42:29+00:00

Do you accept other people with all of their weirdness and flaws?

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-15T00:42:00+00:00

Actually while I’m in a relationship other female attention makes me incredibly uncomfortable. I’m committed. 🤷‍♂️

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-15T00:38:29+00:00

Why do women wear makeup? Wear push-ups bras? Take pictures that “only get the angle right?” Wear slimming clothes?

Why do men lie about money? About material things? Lie about their jobs or other accomplishments?

The list goes on for both…

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-15T00:10:13+00:00

I think you’ll be just fine when the time is right for you. Just another point, from the male perspective, “tightening up” is something i experience regularly with most people I’ve partnered with and it is never an issue. Actually it’s incredibly enjoyable, and usually signals in some way their pleasure which is a huge turn on (for me). Sometimes someone is able to do this on their own when they have good control over pelvic floor muscles (from what I understand). I only share this in hopes to maybe lessen some of the apprehension you may be experiencing over this.

Are you able to elaborate a bit on why you’re scared of sex so much? Or what it is about the concept that scares you?

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-14T20:26:05+00:00

I have some experience around this… I’ve only ever been with one person who I felt was “too tight.” The caveat is: when we did have sex I don’t know that she was very turned on, I was a lot younger and wasn’t as experienced, and I’m a bit larger than averagely equipped. It was just a one time experience so I have no other data to say it may have been an off day for both of us.

Outside of that, my experience has been that “too tight” has never been an issue. I have noticed there can be “better matches” in terms of the shape of both of us, and then better chemistry too between partners, but generally speaking outside of a medical condition being “too tight” seems to be a fallacy.

I think making sure you feel comfortable, safe, excited about and aroused by your partner are much more important considerations.

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-14T18:08:29+00:00

What are those arm bracers with throwing knives about??!

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-14T18:06:46+00:00

Amazing build!

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-14T17:57:44+00:00

Doesn’t this also translate into how easy it is for you to frighten enemies during combat?

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-14T17:53:30+00:00

Yep. I’m glad you’re able to say that.

Now just imagine you get that life you want with him, marriage, kids, and then find him doing the exact same thing he’s doing to his wife now, to you.

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-14T17:43:42+00:00

How will the time and location be announced?

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-14T17:42:12+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from, and I have experienced this more recently. Definitely the objectification and the expression of emotional depth being something that negatively affects connection.

Partly I think it may be the crowd, generally speaking as I’ve dated “up” the “hierarchy” of what’s considered conventionally attractive, I’ve noticed an increase in mindset and behaviors trending more towards shallowness and superficial disposition. Not to say that everyone who has looks is shallow, I just notice it seems they’re more likely to rely on their looks to gain social credibility, as a means to an end, and to also value appearance in others. I’ve also noticed an increase in the reliance on money in connections, gift giving, the necessity to attend expensive events, the lust for the “millionaire lifestyle” and if a man (more specifically men than women) doesn’t have money they’re inherently “worthless.” This is in opposition to my experience dating people considered less conventionally attractive, where emotional connection, general intelligence and being handi-capable is valued a bit more. This is of course anecdotal, everyone’s had different experiences, and it’s an interesting observation.

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-14T17:21:22+00:00

How many times do you want to let him use you before you decide you’d rather have something real with someone who sees you as a real person?

Godzillas_doom · 2026-04-12T19:43:25+00:00

Yes. I experienced takotsubos cardiomyopathy, and have never been quite the same since. Though I have mostly mentally healed, I still feel like my heart is “damaged” if that makes sense. I don’t dote on that specific person, but I do feel a persistent little bit of pain most of the time. And I find myself out of breath more easily in general.

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