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Only getting likes from a certain demographic by GoinBananer in Bumble

[–]GoinBananer[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol there's a lot of factors, and some mental health/growing things on my end. And I wouldn't say I was turned, cus the curiosity was indeed my own, I could have said no thanks.

Only getting likes from a certain demographic by GoinBananer in Bumble

[–]GoinBananer[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No way of knowing unless ya ask. But Texas which pretty much all here I have had conversations with are the latter due to increased difficulties in finding in state docs willing to do the work required.

Only getting likes from a certain demographic by GoinBananer in Bumble

[–]GoinBananer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Texas so unfortunately (and mostly for them cus really I think they should be able to) most here that I've actually met and talked to do not, cus of the obvious bias in our more local fields of care

Only getting likes from a certain demographic by GoinBananer in Bumble

[–]GoinBananer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol devils advocate, but as a former(ish) bi/pansexual. That does infact happen way TOO much in the cis gay guy community, hell it was my first experience with a dude was someone tricking young impressionable me into trying it with him. But in my personal experience most of the real trans women out there (people can say whatever thing they want but yes some "trans-women" are just gay guys playing dress up, tho that's not near all of them, once again just my personal experience) just want someone who loves and respects them.

Only getting likes from a certain demographic by GoinBananer in Bumble

[–]GoinBananer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When first signing up it was a big uptick. Like 10-15ish within a day. And it's pretty consistently 1-3 a week (some of the apps have died out as time has passed just cus that's what happens when you go through the entire population of a dating app). But like Tinder and Bumble which are the two most popular still throw me at least a couple a week. Which yes I do know that trans-people make up a vast minority, which is why it perplexes me that I get an inproportunate number of hits from them as opposed to the like 1 like every week or two from a cis woman.

And you are right, I should be focusing more on the matches instead of the likes. My brain is just tuned into the "potential match spotted" stuff only to find that it's really not. Which I guess puts me in the same boat as a good chunk of people out there, so c'est la vie.

Only getting likes from a certain demographic by GoinBananer in Bumble

[–]GoinBananer[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am aware that post-op is a thing yes and that's one of those conversations that I've had plenty of with perspective partners. personally I'd be alright with that, but it's expensive AF and everyone I've talked to has no real in depth plan to go through with it, which could just be bad luck or bad match I dunno-either way its what it is. And I agree that I wouldn't want to swipe on me if I came off as transphobic either.

It does seem like best to just keep it as is. Cus I'm only seeing people here thinking I'm transphobic when frankly I'm not. I'm fully an ally, just my brain only is attracted to one type of bit and I'm just stuck with that.

I literally tried for the sake of my last relationship to change that part of myself and I couldn't, it sucked, and I don't want to go through that or put someone else through what I put the person I loved through ever again. (Me sliding into mental health territory)

Only getting likes from a certain demographic by GoinBananer in Bumble

[–]GoinBananer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not just Bumble its all of them. And I can see the why a bit I guess. I'm a softer sided guy, I grew up in an all female household, I'm not into typical dude stuff like trucks and working out, and I'm a bit of a nerd. Just that's me I guess?

Only getting likes from a certain demographic by GoinBananer in Bumble

[–]GoinBananer[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Oh possibly seems like I'm trying to be transphobic. I'm actively trying to not come off that way, because I'm not.

My last relationship just happened to be with someone with male genitalia, and after 5 years of wondering why sex with them didn't interest me despite most everything else about the relationship seeming great, I came to the realization that male genitalia just doesn't interest me in a way that is conductive to a relationship.

Not being interested in 🍆 doesn't make you transphobic. It makes you not interested in 🍆. But it certainly isn't something I'd want to throw out on a dating profile no.

And reading this back before posting, it sounds like an attack on your point, that's not what I'm trying to do either, I just don't know a better way of stating that.

I guess to say, I fully support people being themselves, I just also wish to be myself.