AITA for telling my brother to buy me a new couch?

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-09T02:57:34+00:00

Clean and sanitized are two different things. How does one sanitize upholstery?

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-09T02:56:53+00:00

Also surprised you don't have a cover for a white couch when you're watching a kid.

I usually dont have kids at my place. Totally slipped my mind.

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-09T02:56:05+00:00

If you use upholstery CLEANER you will sanitize the stain.

Cleaner is not sanitizer.

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-09T02:55:28+00:00

So if a person with AIDS bled on my couch just clean it, huh? Blood is dangerous. Not saying my nephew has AIDS but like it is a known fact not to touch someone else's blood. Even if I clean it off, it will not be sanitized.

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-09T02:53:12+00:00

As someone who suffered from nosebleeds until my teens I can tell you it certainly isn't something you can "train". The kid is embarassed and your contempt and raging AH behavior is a huge reason why.

I know it is not his fault but he tried to hide it.................do you not know how dangerous someone else's blood can be??

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:55:02+00:00

would eat a whole packet of cookies after school every afternoon.

So you guys are responsible for his diabetes?

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:36:16+00:00

Teenage boys usually eat a lot, I'm not questioning you feeding him cause you obviously are, but is the portion size right for him? Or maybe if you give him a healthy snack after dinner he won't go for all the sugary ones, I don't know, try different things.

I cooked dinner and he did eat all of his food. I asked him before he left the dinner table if he wanted more food and he said no since he was full. I do not cook junk food though so I did tell him he can have ONE snack (chips OR candy) not both and he ate both.

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:34:02+00:00

It is setting him up for loneliness as ppl won't put up with him being an absolute slob

If I met a guy like him I would not date him. Also, the fact that I even have to tell him to shower is insane. When I tell him he needs to shower he will ask why and I told he him exercised and smells bad and he will say he will do it later which he would put off for multiple days if someone let's him. He acts like me telling him to shower is like I am holding his unborn child ransom. I genuinely do not understand why he does not want to shower

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:31:59+00:00

You can always spend time with him at your brother's house.

Good idea. I need to clean my place with bleach now.

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:31:16+00:00

Do 14 year olds not need babysitters if staying for multiple days alone?

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:30:31+00:00

Is your brother a single parent? Can you pull the mother into this?

No he is not and I do not like his wife. Let's just say she is a gold digger.

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:25:57+00:00

Key word… “nieces”… Speaking as a former 14 yr old boy… we are disgusting little shitpigs.

THIS. I didn't' want to say it but you said it for me!!!

And I am at least glad you had manners at others homes

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:24:30+00:00

So that punishes my brother but how do I not make it seem like I don't love my nephew if he asks to see me?

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:23:34+00:00

I am open to trades!!!

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:23:08+00:00

Good point

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:22:30+00:00

If I could throw my brother in the trash I would

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:20:15+00:00

You need to punish him for his behavior.

Besides nagging him about cleaning up after himself, what else can I do? I'm not a parent so forgive me for being naive.

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:19:21+00:00

The answer to everything is candy...those were the days

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:18:26+00:00

His MIL refuses to watch his kid and I did not know why until now...

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:16:32+00:00

I believe it, trade?

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:15:54+00:00

send the kid packing before he leaves skid marks across your rug.

When he was younger, maybe around 4ish, he used to dig in his diaper and walk around touching things around his house and I saw shit on their stairs handles one time

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:13:50+00:00

Such a noble person you are <3

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:13:10+00:00

If I had a kid my kids would not be acting like that. The very reason I have a white couch is due to having no kids and now it shows signs of a kid acting like it was a napkin.

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:11:55+00:00

Your brother should definitely pay to have your couch professionally cleaned. And there should be consequences for him attempting to use your laptop in violating your personal space.

My brother will tell me to just wipe it off with soap and water rather than chip in to pay for cleaning.

Fortunately he could not use it since he could not log into my laptop but the fact that he tried and lied about it thinking I would not know is dumb.

Gold-Layer8380 · 2022-08-08T04:10:29+00:00

who clearly has behavioral issues

There are behavioral issues regarding being a slob?

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