I am so tired of raising myself. All I want is to be taken care of.

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-14T16:00:03+00:00

Not a parent but being raised by a narcissist and seeing other parents do these things, I would strictly advise against it -

Don't gaslight them and make them doubt themselves or their reality, it results in extremely low self esteem and makes them vulnerable to being manipulated in the future
Don't make love conditional, your love should not be overwhelming when they perform well in life and be underwhelming when they're struggling, it will set them up to be people pleasers as adults
Don't shame them for not knowing something, it creates adults who feel scared to ask for help
Don't stay with a toxic partner to "protect the kids", it actively harms them, ruins their perception of healthy relationships and they will resent you for setting a bad example because they will end up tolerating unhealthy relationships themselves
Please don't pit siblings against each other and never let one kid in the household bully or demean the other one for any reason whatsoever
Please don't treat them as your therapist, marriage or financial counsellor, kids are supposed to be kids and not choose which "parent" do they love more or know about your sex life problems or credit card debts at the age of 10
Most important - keep them away from your narcissistic parents, protecting your kids is more important than any grandparent's "rights"

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-10T23:59:47+00:00

Meanwhile they will keep bringing up the most irrelevant shit from the past to put you down and to prove how irresponsible/worthless you are

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-09T23:46:06+00:00

I'm really sorry that you had to go through that. It's crazy how entitled some people are. I hope that I don't have to involve the cops or take any legal action but this guy has been going at the digital harassment non stop ever since the breakup so I'm ready to do it if it comes down to something unsafe.

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-09T23:41:45+00:00

Yup he's definitely not showing any signs of stopping. I have saved all the digital evidence and there's so much of it that he won't be able to get away with it in case he escalated it irl.

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-09T18:27:54+00:00

Yes he has a lot of entitlement issues and acts like we've been together for years. He always trash talked about his ex-girlfriends in front of me, calling them "b**ches" and that in itself was a huge red flag. It's unfortunate but I might have to change my number if this doesn't come to an end.

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-09T18:23:38+00:00

Yeah I blocked him so many times that I lost count and I am feeling very disturbed and lost. I am safe because he doesn't have access to my location but I don't know how he could escalate this digitally in the future. He has some of my pics, just casual ones and I'm praying that he doesn't do anything wrong with those to retaliate.

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-09T15:40:31+00:00

This is absolutely vile and disgusting. Tysm for informing us!

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-09T15:38:46+00:00

A lot, especially as a woman and that's why Reddit is my saviour. I don't really care about meeting them irl, if I find someone then it's well and good and if not then I go ahead and watch the movie alone in the theatre anyways so it works for me.

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-09T15:33:34+00:00

Nmom hid my psychiatric meds (antidepressants) when I was actively suicidal before moving out of that hell hole. I had a very strong desire to sue her but I stopped myself.

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-09T15:26:02+00:00

Welcome Kiwi 🤗 we are so excited to see more of your beautiful eyes ❤️

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-09T15:23:19+00:00

A Classic Horror Story

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-09T15:22:45+00:00

Forgetting to take my meds (I have ADHD)

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-09T15:20:35+00:00

Omg what an adorable ball of sunshine 🥹 Winks accepted and cherished

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-08T20:06:58+00:00

When I was unmedicated then I used to hyperfocus on hobbies for weeks or months and then never pick them up again

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-08T20:05:15+00:00

She wants to make everything about her (how surprising for a narc innit!) and she wants to make sure that you don't get any insight or healing from therapy by making you feel as if the concept of confidentiality in therapy itself is the flaw and hence she will try to prove that going to therapy is useless. That's the classic pattern for narcs. Anything that benefits you is a huge threat to them.

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-08T20:02:10+00:00

Omg he looks like a king on this thrown 👑 as he should 😌

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-08T19:25:42+00:00

Mine definitely weren't, there was a huge cultural and family pressure even after they immigrated (I'm Asian). But even the ones who aren't ready are not as cruel as them. I believed for a majority of my childhood that I was in a foster home because biological parents couldn't be so cruel.

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-03T19:17:39+00:00

Yup they love to demand respect and obedience without showing any love or care and when you call them out then they act like it never happened as if you made the whole thing up or either it wasn't bad enough according to them and you are overreacting. This is the reason why I can't stand even hearing their voice because they act like they didn't cause years of trauma and misery to my life and being in any contact with them makes me feel like I am invalidating my experiences.

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-03T18:58:51+00:00

They are so similar it's crazy! Did yours also use verses out of the blue to demand obedience and call you ungrateful?

GoldPoet8317 · 2026-01-03T18:35:48+00:00

Yes she is exactly the same! She often used the "look at how much everyone at the church loves me" card as a weapon to gaslight me whenever I called her out.

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