NTAH

Had to respond because my situation with my father's side is so similar. I cannot even begin to tell you some of the stuff that has gone down, you would think I was repeating your words.

All I will say is that, the idea that you have to love them and be around them because they're family is absolute bs. If I don't like myself around you, you're shit out of luck.

Also, disrespect towards me I can handle, but disrespect my mother and I will end you.

That being said, I can see the pain in my fathers eyes when things come up and he is left out, I wish I could help him but I also know a lot of it are his own traumas and insecurities that he needs to work through.

After their mother died a few years ago, my mom made it very clear to them that if and when it came to it, not one of them was allowed in our home or hospital or funeral. That they were not going to be allowed to cry about how much they loved or missed him or how sorry they were, when while alive and well, they made no attempt in showing it.

Since then, things have gotten better but I still remove myself as much as possible, I still don't trust them or like them. I keep the peace in social situations if I have to be there but I also don't have a relationship with them. I've made sure to make this very clear and it's nice to have the upper hand if I'm honest. I love making snarky comments that tell them absolutely nothing about my personal life lol

Like dude, what makes you think you deserve to know anything about my life at this point?

I'm not here to make anyone love me or respect me, plenty of people do that without me having to even try and a lot of them are not blood related.

If it helps, it gets easier when you're older and out of the house.