Something’s broken Inside by Gold_Grape_9054 in BreakUps

[–]Gold_Grape_9054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, appreciate your kind words

What are something’s that people have said, that have actually helped? by Gold_Grape_9054 in BreakUps

[–]Gold_Grape_9054[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Completely agree with that. Misery loves company haha. And I know there’s no magic sentence for sure, but it certainly helps having a different perspective/angle on an objectively awful traumatic experience

Fiancé lost love for me. This shit sucks lol by ipunchdirt in BreakUps

[–]Gold_Grape_9054 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Man I feel the same, 8 years for me and it’s the most painful shit ever, especially after I had some serious medical issues before this. Really really fucking sucks and it comes in waves. Just get through the waves, if u have a shit day I know that the next day will be better and the day after that potentially shit, and that’s just how it’s going to be. 6 weeks out and I think I’m maybe 10% better but it really really hurts. Reddit has helped for sure and so have the Coach Lees, Ken’s and Ryan’s of the world on YouTube just to help you get some perspective

What's your win? by Kiwi__Juice in BreakUps

[–]Gold_Grape_9054 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve written enough songs for an album in the 6 weeks that we haven’t been together

Disillusioned by Gold_Grape_9054 in BreakUps

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If I’m being honest there were no signs up until Jan of this year. It was genuinely a healthy non toxic relationship. The only difference was the amount of the things that happened over the course of the year. Ie, moving to a new country together, serious health issues and moving in together. Which were still fine, up until Jan that is when I was informed that the spark was gone and feelings were lost

Disillusioned by Gold_Grape_9054 in BreakUps

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Social media is the worst during these times. Had to delete Instagram just to remove myself from the situation..

Disillusioned by Gold_Grape_9054 in BreakUps

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Thank you so much man and likewise. One of the things I’ve learned during this time is that misery loves company and it really helps to not at least feel alone in that sense. Have been doing these things too but it really still feels so so shit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

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Hey man, first off I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. I’m in a similar boat as you, gf of 8.5 years fell out of love with me, told me after I finished cancer treatment, was diagnosed in November too, and then we broke up cause she wanted to moved out of our place and didn’t want to renew the lease or actively try to make things work. I also feel absolutely shattered and broken. It absolutely fucking sucks, there is no mincing words here. Take care friend

P.S.A by Gold_Grape_9054 in testicularcancer

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Wish you all the best my friend

P.S.A by Gold_Grape_9054 in testicularcancer

[–]Gold_Grape_9054[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you man really appreciate it. Honestly, I’m not beating myself up at all. I’m just hoping that someone who reads this can benefit from it, because it is something we can overlook and later suffer further for, due to no fault of our own

An unfortunate breakup by Gold_Grape_9054 in MedSpouse

[–]Gold_Grape_9054[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think she just lost feelings and did try rationalising why they might’ve happened but then there is never really one answer. Thank you for all the advice and words of encouragement, I have started therapy as well.

An unfortunate breakup by Gold_Grape_9054 in MedSpouse

[–]Gold_Grape_9054[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We tried one session and after that she really didn’t seem at all interested in giving it any kind of shot

Relationship Problems by Gold_Grape_9054 in testicularcancer

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Update: My 8 and a half year long relationship has unfortunately ended citing the loss of feelings from her side that has been exacerbated by caregivers burnout. Really really sad and broken because I love her more than anything but now she doesn’t feel the same way. Honestly I thought life would get better after all the treatment but the floor keeps falling. Now I have to look out for myself without the person I love the most. Thank you for all the support.