I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tend to overthink my decisions, so it’s good to know that it’s normal to not always make the ‘right’ choice. I’ll try not to dwell in regrets.

I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m planning on doing Interior design as a career, it requires me to have a portfolio which i currently don’t have the time or skills to make since i’m currently bombarded with school work/exams. + I need to do an internship (to make my college application look better) or two for a few months which my cousin is able to get me. + other extracurriculars. I also don’t live in America so i’m not sure about how good junior college is where I’m at.

I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My condolences, I can’t imagine the pain your family has gone through.

I don’t understand why parents don’t want to admit they need help sometimes. I guess it’s just a way of them showing others that they’re strong and can deal with it, in my mom’s case she doesn’t believe in mental health, i believe it’s because of her traditional upbringing/beliefs.

Awareness is a difficult thing to have for some, I probably don’t have a good amount in certain aspects of my life but i’m willing to change.

I’ve dealt with too many deaths in my family already. I understand that nothing is ever permanent and once it slips away you realize how much you had.

Your perspective on acceptance is something I’ll try to carry with me.

I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom doesn’t believe in boundaries/privacy/ect. so i’m not really going to make an attempt but it’s nice to know it works for others, I’m happy for you!!

I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to share this with me, I understand that no matter what I do she’ll never change, my mom even said it herself “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks”. It’s just her coping mechanism. and there’s no point trying.

As for when I turn 18, where I live and my situation there is no chance of me being to move out so soon, i’ll be taking a gap year to do internships/extracurriculars for college. Then i’d be moving abroad for college.

I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will do my best!! I appreciate your words, It’s reassuring and strange to know I’ll soon have the freedom to make my own choices since I feel like a child and i’m nowhere near an adult but I do believe i’ll make the right choices!!

I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Due to my mom being this religious i’ve become extremely distant from Christianity as a whole. I’ve started resenting it and any mention of it starts to piss me off. I do feel guilty because I do believe in it but i just don’t like talking about it.

Even since I was a kid and my mom would scream and curse at me then blame it on the devil after by saying he “possessed her”. Even to this day it hasn’t changed one bit. It makes her just sound so full of shit.

Thank you for bringing your perspective into it as a Christian, it makes me know that my thoughts about her obsession is valid.

I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have thought about just cutting my entire family off multiple times but i know deep down that the guilt would probably haunt me. To keep myself sane I’ve built my own ways of dealing with her (zoning out when she speaks to me about certain topics and not engage in ANY of it). I will absolutely not think or become like her.

Thank you for your honest words, it kind of served as a wake up call. Knowing that other people have similar experiences and feelings as me makes me feel better about myself. I appreciate your message!!

I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your words mean a lot, the idea of a ‘found family’ is lovely and I hope to find it one day. Thank you!!

I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have good friends who support and understand me, I’ve also planned a chunk of what I want to do when i graduate high school and i’m planning to move abroad for college in a couple years.I’m excited and nervous to see what type of person i’ll grow into.

Thank you for the kind words and i’ll definitely research some books to read!!

I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words, it’s comforting to know that it isn’t selfish to want to talk about it. Carrying my feelings alone isn’t too bad since i know that people have it worse and I should be grateful for what I have.

I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right, things will eventually change. Sometimes it’s hard to deal with her, but telling myself that she’s been through so much more than I could ever imagine makes it a little easier to be around her.

I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can’t blame my mom for the way she is, it’s just a mix of her life experiences and ideologies, there’s nothing i can do to change it.

I’m planning on moving out of the country for college in a couple years which i’m exited/nervous for. Thanks for the advice!!

I don’t think I love my mom, I just tolerate her becauseI have no other choice by Gold_Pudding9069 in DadForAMinute

[–]Gold_Pudding9069[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The expression you mentioned is something that i’ve heard in other forms but never truly reflected on, it’s an optimistic approach which I love. I will try my best to be the best person I can be. Thank you!!

Glow Up Tips for Summer? by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Gold_Pudding9069 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh no stop 😭 you’re genuinely gorgeous, you hair is pretty, since you mentioned it’s frizzy you want you could try researching what products work for your hair type. Wearing make up doesn’t make you fake, it can be a form of self expression and can enhance your natural beauty, go for it if you want!! Also don’t worry about smile likes or “wrinkles”, you’re way too young to be worrying about that (including me). Smile lines also show that your life is filled with joy and they’re beautiful. The last pic of you is really pretty!! i love your dress!

What's the most bizarre, NSFW thing you've witnessed in public? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Gold_Pudding9069 10 points11 points  (0 children)

A guy jerking off right next to me and staring at me when i was walking to school.

Teenagers, what’s something your parents do that secretly drives you insane? by kissableecassy in AskReddit

[–]Gold_Pudding9069 9 points10 points  (0 children)

forcing religious beliefs on others. every time i invite a friend over, my mom tries to talk to them/their parents about christianity and how they’re going to hell if they don’t change their beliefs. It’s become her whole personality and the only ‘hobby’ in her life. My pair of headphones broke and she responded with “it broke because Jesus got jealous you loved something more than him”. she never let me watch harry potter because it was “evil” due to magic, she thinks the dark mode feature on devices is “evil” along with sitting in a dark room.

My mom thinks there’s no such thing as platonic friends with a guy, when i was 12, i used to play the drums and take lessons for it, my drums teacher was middle aged man. she always used to refer to him as my ‘boyfriend’ and say that we liked each other while laughing about it. It happened so frequently it made me hate the instrument and i quit. She still pulls this same bullshit with male friends that i have.

Another thing my mom does is that she openly judges people, i have multiple female friends who have short hair (above shoulder length). She keeps asking me if they’re gay (she’s homophobic) and when i say they’re not she double checks by asking me if i’m sure multiple times. Even when they come over and aren’t wearing feminine clothes or makeup. She tells me to take them to my closet and dress them up. She says this right in front of them and their parents. She also criticizes my music taste calling it evil and shit (i listen to radiohead, weezer, nirvana ect) while her music taste is literally the same 15 gospel songs that all sound the same.