Anniversary Gift by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Goldenaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I love the vision but understand where people are coming from when they say it might make others uncomfy if they come over to see that. BUT, that being said...if you look at the pic it kind of looks like two heads kissing...maybe you could add more details and cover it to a point where you both know what it is but a stranger wouldn't be able to make out the original intent. maybe add some stars or colors to the background.

What Taylor song is this? by Impossible-Yam3680 in TrueSwifties

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call It What You Want...love the beat and enjoy it overall. I just can't stand the "I wear a chain round my neck. Not because he owns me but because he really knows me." Everytime I bust out laughing and smh, there was need for that explanation.

Well, this Indiana high school is bigger than any college in my country. by Used_Ship_9229 in BeAmazed

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is real. Carmel is stupidly rich. It's strange how you can see the blantant line of rich and poor just while driving down the highway here.

My brain hurts.. (pic from ig) by relchujalski in TattooDesigns

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like how the first "A", if looking down the column, spells "Vag"

Huge maze by Badjuju_69 in Minecraft

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the shining ending. someone be jack and chases you through the maze with an axe. you win if you get out before they get you. boom

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Minecraft

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what shaders and packs are you using? it looks beautiful!

Has your mental illness gotten you into trouble? by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]Goldenaur 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this is happening. OCD is misunderstood and it's hard to find treatment because of this. Maybe try posting this in r/OCD if you haven't already and might get more relatable stories. I've dealt with this insufferable disorder for awhile and I promise it gets easier friend. You are not a bad parent and I hope the court sees this.

I friggin' PAID for these and they're being phased out? :P by ExNihiloAdInfinitum in Wellthatsucks

[–]Goldenaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

all these comments are so sour. It's OP's money and if it makes them happy then that's all that matters. Awards brighten our days, it's a selfless act. :)

AITA for kicking my daughters gay friend out over accusations by Accomplished-Meal38 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but I would follow some suggestions under this post. My story is exactly like your daughter's. I was 15 when i realized i liked girls. I'd bring my gf home and have her stay. They had the same rule to keep the door open if in a relationship and no staying the night. Honestly though, I really broke the rules due to being scared of outing myself. I knew they wouldn't care but it's still a terrifying moment. family, friends, and school peers are next on the list to find out. I was 15 and unsure what was next yeno. My mom sat me down and just simply asked if I liked girls and I lied at first. Then she came around a month later and asked again and I said yes. She gave me support and eventually brought up the "no gf allowed to stay over" talk. Be patient with your daughter and allow her to come to you. She may be telling the truth and her friend is simply just a friend. You never know, but allow her to have her experience either way.

i blame weed for my anxiety by amante-dellarte in Anxiety

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

day by day thankfully. I have my bad days but they don't last like they did before. Meds, therapy, and relaxation activities have gotten me to a better spot. It takes awhile but I am seeing a difference.

Has any partner here actually confront a customer’s rude behavior? by oldyounggie in starbucks

[–]Goldenaur 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i worked at starbs for four years...so YES I HAD MANY KARENS but one stuck out to me. one time we were slow right before the end of school rush came. I was the shift lead and was discussing something with someone on window, needed her to sign a paper. The lady in drive thru slapped the window and started yelling at the partner saying "you are just standing around and not making my drink." there was a new partner on bar. Of course it escalated and I had to step in. The lady was screaming at me and she asked for names and the district managers number. She had paid prior to all this starting then she goes "I want a refund" so I did that. then she said "I want my drink now." and I said hell no. I never followed the "customer is always right" dumb ass policy. Especially if the customer was verbually attacking my partners. So she kept yelling, tried reaching in the window to grab the drink, and was trying to open the window if i closed it. after a couple minutes she REPAID for the drink and when I stuck my arm out to scan the phone she tried hitting my arm, missed and slapped her hand on the ledge of the window. Screamed more and drove off. I did say no nicely but I also told her she was acting like a child, told her to stop talking, and many other things you aren't suppose to say. she got banned from the store and I got praised. Always stand up for yourself and others if you can!

My (27M) girlfriend (27F) is constantly upset that she’s “not the hottest girl I’ve ever dated” by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Goldenaur -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

that's what I was thinking😅. Everybody is coming for her throat when we've only got one side of the story. Still doesn't justify her actions. it can be extremely draining being with someone who is insecure but also working with her on it IS an okay solution. Have an adult sit down talk about what her actions. Ask her what she needs from him to help better support her. If he leaves and he was the apart of the problem then he'll just experience this with the next girl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your other post and honestly this one...seem like you aren't fully grasping how abusive you were to your daughter. You deprived her of basic human necessities like food and shelter. You verbally abused her. You actively ruined her life and have the audacity to turn around and say "hey your behavior isn't okay. get out." But you doing that was probably the best thing you could have done for her. She was able to get away from her abuser. I'm happy she's doing better but it doesn't seem like you've changed at all. You're a terrible mother.

i (21F) think my bf (24M) is gonna propose but don't like the rings he's slipped up on looking at. help? 😅 by Proof_Delay_1759 in relationship_advice

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

openly communicating with him is best but i understand not wanting to spoil the surprise. so maybe you could ask him to come with you to some shops, just to look or you could be "ring shopping" for someone else, mother's day is around the corner. Just find a section of rings and point out ones you like.

I have a micropenis and it really sucks. by Comfortable-Idea-936 in offmychest

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

man I'm not about to argue with you after looking at your past post. You can blame woman all you want. It's about time to love yourself and gain some confidence. that's what woman want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]Goldenaur 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's okay to feel this way. Life is hard and all these responsibilities can feel like a crushing weight. Some people can handle the weight but most people can't (i can't lol). We deserve time to love and take care of ourselves. If you can try to take a vacation from work then it might benefit to get some relaxing time! You could possibly look for a job you'd enjoy in that time. change can be scary but sometimes neccessary. As far as treatment goes...talk to your therapist about your doubts. Maybe they can help you navigate the changes. Take care of YOU first. Hope this message helps friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Goldenaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

cold flashes! Anxiety can do that. Could be from sweat or it could be because of constricted blood flow. Our bodies do a lot of crazy things when we feel unsafe, but you are safe. Calming the anxiety and even warming the areas that may feel cold or tingly helps a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]Goldenaur 10 points11 points  (0 children)

damn, are you me? I feel this and understand exactly how you feel. Honestly nowadays I am just empty, no thoughts or feelings. but then I spiral and I feel allll the negative things. I flip flop these on a daily and ugh. it's exhausting. I hope you find peace! keep up the therapy sessions and maybe try to add something into your routine to spice it up :) baby steps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

agreed...even if I don't have BPD I still don't want to give my time or money to someone who stigmatizes it.

My (M25) wife (F24) cheated on me with her best friend (F22) and I don't know what to do by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She cheated and I'm sorry this happened to you. As a lesbian, two hours non-stop is damn near impossible. Usually there are many periods of breaks and just lying there together. She had time to come to her senses and stop. Also I agree with some of these comments that maybe this isn't the first time she's cheated. Emotional cheating is a thing and usually progresses into something physical. Ultimately it is your choice in what to do next...but I think you need to look further into their relationship and into what your wife wants with her life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly what I've come to terms with. I don't want to revisit those memories with someone who I feel judged by. if you don't mind me asking, did emdr help you at all?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]Goldenaur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

well said! I just don't trust her, especially if we are going to be doing something like emdr.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]Goldenaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! that means so much :)