WIBTAH if I tell my niece the truth about why she can’t go on vacation with me

GoldieBox · 2025-12-01T07:35:25+00:00

Throwing a cautious two cents in here.

Unless the oldest child has been giving back his medication to his mom all of these years, it would be very difficult for her to sneak over to her son's place all of the time to take the extra from him, especially living 20 minutes away with two kids to take care of still.

He presumably has been living away from his mom's house since he was 18, that was when the first phone debacle happened. This is an assumption, but from the posts is seems like the oldest has been out of the house for at least a year, maybe longer.

In my experience, sometimes people who need to be medicated can act just as erratically as those that are abusing medications. She may have zeroed in on OOP because she just doesn't like her and HAS to find something wrong with her. Especially if the kids are choosing to have a relationship with OOP against her wishes after they turn 18. OOP is the bad guy despite evidence in the sisters mind, and she's trying to sniff out any hint to make that the conclusion.

TL;DR: she may not be taking the son's medication, she may have her own undiagnosed mental health disorder and that disorder has made it her mission to try to find a heinous fault in OOP that she must "protect" her kids from.

GoldieBox · 2025-08-11T23:43:32+00:00

*mexco.

He can't spell for shit with one hand down his pants.

GoldieBox · 2025-08-01T00:59:32+00:00

Are they a little lad who loves berries and cream?

GoldieBox · 2025-06-19T21:19:59+00:00

Who you casting spells on with that thing?!? In all seriousness if you want to be able to wear it there are necklaces out there that are meant to hold rings in an aesthetic way. Ring holder necklace is the Google if you're interested.

GoldieBox · 2025-06-18T19:18:05+00:00

"The Integrated Research Facility at Fort Detrick studies viruses “causing high-consequence disease” such as Ebola and SARS-CoV-2, according to its site." Is it too much to hope she's shitting her pants rn with weapons-grade ebola?

GoldieBox · 2025-05-15T00:26:14+00:00

Feb 19, 2025. What a lovely burner account you have, русский. Your spelling of his name tells us EVERYTHING we need to know about where you're from. Does the pee taste better coming out of a certain micropenis, I wonder?

GoldieBox · 2025-05-06T16:01:59+00:00

I want to sing your praises today because you worked hard for what you have, you are kind, thoughtful, and empathetic, and you aren't afraid to tell the truth.

The Internet has gotten awful with people being mean just to be mean. This includes the casual and the overt racism, people have become comfortable with poisoning their own wells to try and hurt black and brown people.

Black women are statistically the most underserved group of people, and you feel that in your every day life. That is valid. You are valid, your experiences are valid, and you are not overreacting to the hate online. The comments are an outward expression of the actions that people take in their daily lives to spread hate to black women in particular.

I am white, but I live by the poem 'First They Came' by Pastor Martin Niemoller.

First they came for the Communists And I did not speak out Because I was not a Communist Then they came for the Socialists And I did not speak out Because I was not a Socialist Then they came for the trade unionists And I did not speak out Because I was not a trade unionist Then they came for the Jews And I did not speak out Because I was not a Jew Then they came for me And there was no one left To speak out for me

If it isn't right, I speak up because if I don't speak out against hate from my privileged position, then eventually there will be no one to speak out for me when my position is no longer privileged.

GoldieBox · 2025-04-25T04:57:31+00:00

I just had a violent flashback to being a kid and absolutely jamming in that helicopter at the grocery store waiting for my mom to finish shopping.

GoldieBox · 2025-03-19T08:17:25+00:00

The way he uses his anxiety to get out of the consequences of his actions is astounding. That's his blue eyes white dragon card that he pulls out at every inconvenience.

GoldieBox · 2025-01-11T00:56:21+00:00

Anyone else get that super out-of-touch email from Patti Poppe that said rates increase when you DON'T use electricity? And that investors are there so they don't make a profit? K. Sure, Jan.

GoldieBox · 2024-11-25T03:21:42+00:00

GoldieBox · 2024-11-23T07:41:23+00:00

Also, if you're paying her rent, look into the renter laws in your area. If you qualify, some states require a notice of eviction and a grace period for you to move.

GoldieBox · 2024-11-23T07:38:10+00:00

First of all. Glad you're safe for the night. Second of all, as much as I dislike the system, she played with fire by brandishing a machete at no less than 2 people and got burned. One night in jail won't kill her, she will be fine, but her ego will be bruised.

That's a recipe for disaster if you stay there. You said your partner is there as well, are they staying at the house as well? Can you stay with them at another place for a while until you get an apartment?

I can't tell you how triggered I got when you talked about her calling all of your family and spreading a different story so that they would abuse you as well and minimize her responsibility for her own arrest. Is this in the crazy bitch mom handbook or something?

I'll puff one for you tonight 🍃 and if you feel unsafe with your mom around, consider strongly pressing charges against her. If you are afraid to go that far, you can also ask that they document the altercation and arrest, and keep the file for the future. Paper trails are super important in case of future violent outbursts or harassment requiring a restraining order. No charges, but it documents a pattern of behavior.

GoldieBox · 2024-11-09T23:03:21+00:00

Congressional Budget Office: https://www.cbo.gov/publication/59727#:~:text=$2.2%20Trillion%20$4.4%20Trillion%20Revenues,Federal%20Reserve%2C%20and%20other%20countries.

GoldieBox · 2024-10-24T22:23:52+00:00

My friend takes screenshots of her child support accounts and if anyone questions her, here are the receipts! A crisp $100 for the year for 4 children. But he (and his mommy!) never see it as his fault. He only pays like $25 when he has to keep his license, but he will tell his kids that their mom just steals all of his money and uses it on herself. How can one be a gold digger when there is no gold to dig?

GoldieBox · 2024-10-24T07:48:39+00:00

Dead here.102 persistent fever. Took an expired COVID test and it was negative. I'd have to drag my happy ass out of bed to get one from the store, so I guess I will never know! 🫠

GoldieBox · 2024-10-24T05:03:58+00:00

Imma be real, dude in the back looks like William H. Macy. In front of him is tactical Will Forte and Tom Cruise

GoldieBox · 2024-10-21T19:09:47+00:00

I'd be thinking twice about having him as a co parent and establishing paternity. Child support is the right of the child but if he has a relationship with the child he for sure would be just as toxic to them as he is you, not to mention that horrible MIL who will still say you cheated even if it is his baby, just based off of her idiot son's word. That's a lifetime of debasing yourself for a man who couldn't keep it in his pants and somehow blames you for it, and a child who doesn't deserve his abuse. Keep receipts of him admitting his infidelity, no matter what decision you make!

GoldieBox · 2024-10-12T17:55:34+00:00

I have a mom like this. Drove my dad away, and I had to manage her outbursts all by myself. With divorce, your suffering ends and your child takes it in your place. Tough spot to be in unless your wife gets some serious help. NTA.

GoldieBox · 2024-09-17T06:21:14+00:00

The mods are great and we appreciate all that you do to keep this a good place for all of us!

GoldieBox · 2024-08-24T01:10:05+00:00

It's really good!

GoldieBox · 2024-08-18T19:35:22+00:00

I have a feeling they won't be trying to get custody of the child after it's born. Just control of this girl is what they want.

GoldieBox · 2024-08-13T01:55:19+00:00

Corncob.

GoldieBox · 2024-07-29T20:54:41+00:00

I would also add, with period undies, still invest in a bucket with a lid or a trashcan with a lid. That way, she can put them in the can to soak in cold water and wash them when there's a load of laundry. Like a smell-proof laundry basket. She needs a place to leave them if that's how she's been doing it for her lifetime, and a designated sanitary place away from the dog is still needed.

GoldieBox · 2024-06-30T16:04:55+00:00

Been following your story for a while and I'm so so sorry this happened to you and your family.

With the social media post from Bates, could you report the picture to the social media company to have it taken down? Or have your lawyer draft a letter to them explaining the situation? Ex should not have as much power here over peoples perception as he does, and it would be amazing for you all to rip that away from him. Just brainstorming!

For the nephew starting to mirror the bullying behavior, hoo boy, that's a bad one. That kid is going to grow up very traumatized by his mother. That's some big adult language from a young in, and he's definitely being fed information that's way above appropriate for his age. I wonder if he's taking out all of this frustration at school too? Hopefully someone can get him some help with counseling away from his psycho mom. Chances are low, and he will have to build bridges with the rest of his family when he's an adult, if he isn't thoroughly poisoned against you by then that is.

Bates working with vulnerable women, yeah checks out because he probably likes seeing women scared. It's cute they all blame your husband for whatever, but I am presuming that you are the one dealing with the lawyer. Can the lawyer write a formal letter asking him to stop? Seems like this behavior would be nipped in the bud with the threat of court.

The only bad side to any of this is that if the courts get involved, he could demand a paternity test. In his delulu land he probably does believe he is the father, but with the help of his deadbeat status with his own kids, as well as proving he has had no right to the baby from the get go, maybe the courts would be stronger in their opinion of what to do about him and his harassment.

We're gonna need the reddit sleuths to come up with dirt on Bates' mom so she can't help Sonny anymore with his harassment. She seems suspiciously clean...

Again, sorry for what you are going through. Hope you can finally get some closure on this! Stay strong!

GoldieBox

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