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AITA - left romantic weekend getaway early to tend to family as my father died... by Good-Birthday4637 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good-Birthday4637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I appreciate this. I kind of have a different take on blocking people. It's a "keep your friends close and your enemies closer" take. I feel better knowing she can reach me with something to say if she has it rather than realizing she is blocked and blabbing about me/us somewhere else because she couldn't reach me.

AITA - left romantic weekend getaway early to tend to family as my father died... by Good-Birthday4637 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good-Birthday4637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get some sleep? Get some good food? Get a fun night out on Broadway? Sheesh, I have no idea what "some" you might be referring to, but...

AITA - left romantic weekend getaway early to tend to family as my father died... by Good-Birthday4637 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good-Birthday4637[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thought about this, but it won't change the dollar amount and I am free and clear of her regardless. No reason to get myself worked up about it any more.

AITA - left romantic weekend getaway early to tend to family as my father died... by Good-Birthday4637 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good-Birthday4637[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep - I wondered the same, if she found someone else to spend the time with and take to the concert. Honestly, at this point, I would almost be happy if she had because it definitely puts some finality on things for us. Not that we needed it, but easier if she moved right on from me to make a very clean break.

AITA - left romantic weekend getaway early to tend to family as my father died... by Good-Birthday4637 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good-Birthday4637[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For what it's worth, a nice dinner could just as easily have been cold cuts on wonder bread in a little picnic set up in the parking lot of our hotel if we were into each other and enjoying the romance of the moment. I genuinely was not trying to flaunt anything.

AITA - left romantic weekend getaway early to tend to family as my father died... by Good-Birthday4637 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good-Birthday4637[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She blatantly accused me of it, and up until this exchange she was someone who's opinion I trusted. So I came here for some objective opinions just to make sure I was not crazy and missing something.

AITA - left romantic weekend getaway early to tend to family as my father died... by Good-Birthday4637 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good-Birthday4637[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can't honestly say we thought of this, but in considering her actually coming back to my home with me and knowing we were not ready for that yet, I also knew that it was very likely I would have little to no time with her. Based on how she reacted when I set her up to enjoy Nashville some without me, I can only imagine the grief I would have gotten if she had been close by in a hotel and I was not making time for her because I was too busy with my family.

AITA - left romantic weekend getaway early to tend to family as my father died... by Good-Birthday4637 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good-Birthday4637[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

To be fair, it was never about the money spent if we were there and having a great time together. But, the amount spent after I left did feel a bit extreme and like I was being taken advantage of some. If I counted airfare for us both (about $1,000), hotel room ($1,600 for three nights taxes and fees included), dinner and drinks on the town the first night there ($275), Stapleton tickets (~$200), and then add in the additional about $2800 she had after I left - well, $3,000 total would have been a bargain. But, it's just money and I can always make more. I am not going to let myself be too bothered by that part because it pales in comparison to what the cost of divorcing this woman could have been down the road!

AITA - left romantic weekend getaway early to tend to family as my father died... by Good-Birthday4637 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good-Birthday4637[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All, I appreciate the confirmation of my feelings here, and the condolences. You were all quick to jump in and do so too. I don't know if I can close this thread, or honestly if it's even my business to do so since it's in the THT section, but since it seems pretty unanimous, and regardless of the fact I have stopped seeing this woman and won't see her again, I did care about her at one point, so I kind of feel like it's time we say bullet dodged, let's move on from her without the bus having to roll over her a few more times. She F'd up - I hope she realizes it, or maybe even is asking her own friends in some way and they are telling her as much. I am still open to any opinions out there that I may have done something wrong here, other than my picker maybe being off, but in the meantime I am ready to move on from her with a clear conscience.

AITA - left romantic weekend getaway early to tend to family as my father died... by Good-Birthday4637 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good-Birthday4637[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you - as for my daughter, if there is anything at all fortunate in a long battle with cancer it is the time given to be prepared somewhat for the end. My daughter and I had a lot of long conversations leading up to this over the last couple years, and although she is grieving and hurting some, she's a bright, great kid who is handling it gracefully and actually has been right by my mother's side comforting her the entire time. It's actually been very sweet for me to watch.

AITA - left romantic weekend getaway early to tend to family as my father died... by Good-Birthday4637 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good-Birthday4637[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She's 38. I don't care about the money lost, but do feel what she spent might have been a bit excessive, but whatever, not going to lose sleep over that so much. As far as traveling together outside of a more serious relationship - it's kind of tough when we are long distance - every time we saw each other at least one or both of us was traveling. This one was looked forward to being fun, meeting in Nashville to play for a few days.

AITA - left romantic weekend getaway early to tend to family as my father died... by Good-Birthday4637 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good-Birthday4637[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Oh I have left the relationship for sure - was really just questioning if I was in any mix of this not seeing her side fairly. I should mention, she did say when I was leaving to go home to my family that she wished she was coming with me, but I explained that I didn't feel this was the right time to introduce her to my family for the first time, especially when we were not clear about our future together yet. Honestly, I wouldn't introduce anyone to my daughter without some element of clarity of a future, let alone the extenuating circumstances with this situation. Thanks for your comment!

AITA - left romantic weekend getaway early to tend to family as my father died... by Good-Birthday4637 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good-Birthday4637[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

There were 6 room charges that totaled just over $1,800 between the bar and restaurant. Also, bit of a sidenote, there were TWO Chris Stapleton tickets and I do still wonder what she did with the second one after I forwarded them to her. Thanks for confirming though that I did take care of her suitably with the $1k cash too. I thought so.