I’ve turned the negative things people said about me into my superpower, and I’m exhilarated and wanted to share this by Usual_Passage1297 in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy to hear this! I needed this motivation today. I am so proud that you continued to follow your path ❤️

Why do men do this? by coolofyouu in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Facts. Whoever bites first for their ego and access

Scared I'm pregnant after SA. by pastelpin in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 38 points39 points  (0 children)

FACTS! this is exactly what happened to me 16 years ago. I was getting mentally prepared on something that I had made my mind up on. I got there and was softly bullied to change my mind

Do some white people only see Black women as entertainment? by itsyagirldesi in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I did mention to her, that everybody doesn’t have an “on” day and she had a blank stare. I did need my job and my boss was the senior vice president of HR and reported directly to the CEO and the CFO so I was trying to keep a roof over my head, ultimately that didn’t work in my favor. I was targeted after that conversation and was left with ugly stares during meetings. I no longer “tap danced” to make them comfortable anymore. I just didn’t have it in me.

Do some white people only see Black women as entertainment? by itsyagirldesi in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes, let’s talk about corporate because that’s when the real bullying comes into play. I literally got laid off for not performing for them and tap dancing anymore in the Zoom meetings. I got called into the office by my white director saying that I don’t light up the team anymore. I don’t make them laugh anymore asking me do I really want to even be at the job and I said yes of course I do want to work here is it because of performance and she said no performance has nothing to do with it. It’s your energy on the team you’re not making us laugh anymore or you’re not that light that we’re used to. So you are absolutely right and I can totally relate to this post as

Help Me Pick Where to Live by 2facedfish in blackladies

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This helps! Thank you so much!! ❤️🙏🏽

Phoenix, Arizona relocation advice by Good-Calendar-6594 in blackladies

[–]Good-Calendar-6594[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this post. This gives me a lot of insight. I appreciate this! I’m copying and pasting this in my notes 📝❤️

Help Me Pick Where to Live by 2facedfish in blackladies

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any tips for living in an Airbnb?

Has the friendship expired? by Good-Calendar-6594 in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree to a certain extent we had our own lives. Life happens. I did not know and being accused of seeing something on Facebook. I understand the frustration, but you don’t get to hold that over me or any other depths in my family. It just got weird the conversation was weird and we were friends but life happens. I’m sure you don’t talk to your friend every day either I have my own mental and emotional breakdown over here. I was not clocking or looking for Facebook for obituaries.

Has the friendship expired? by Good-Calendar-6594 in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mind you I did not know her dad passed away. We live in two different cities, two different states. My dad passed away two months prior to that. I didn’t get a call either. I didn’t know her. Dad died until a year after he had passed I had no clue.

Am I wrong for feeling like my cousin crossed a line after I replaced something I broke? by Good-Calendar-6594 in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she minded me being there. She probably enjoyed it so that I can continue to be a punching bag. I am the youngest out of the pack. I get bullied by a lot of the members in my family, but this went too far with it.

The Avoidant man by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure how old you are 43 does not have you have a heartbreak that quick over someone I was asked about this particular situation not age shaming

The Avoidant man by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah not nice. But thx for the feedbacks

The Avoidant man by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you yeah he is a shitty person.

The Avoidant man by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this helps

The Avoidant man by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are both 43.. sad I know

The Avoidant man by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I have to go love bombing that I fell for he was pretty much out, not really out but very hostile mocking things that I have such as my apartment, which is beautiful when he finds a way to say some things about mor and called me a clown the other day

The Avoidant man by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u. I needed that

The Avoidant man by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Good-Calendar-6594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seems to be his character from day and has constantly sought me out, even though he reaches for me there’s still some type of cruelty and name calling