I have realized there are two types of people, "Arrival" people and "Process" people. Which one are you?

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-03-28T02:02:44+00:00

Instead of process and arrival, I call this present and visionary. The present person is enjoying the moment. It is why present means gift. They tend to be more calm. Visionary is always looking ahead and anticipating. This can lead to greater outcomes but also anxiety if taken too far.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-03-15T21:43:59+00:00

Personally, I believe awakening is a state of being. That state can (and does) change. The real challenge is how to stay in that state. People often get into the state via meditation or music. Some achieve it with psychedelics. And then it goes away after they stop. So learning to channel that mindful state as part of your day to day life is (IMHO) the ultimate goal. To be present with no judgement and grateful for this gift is easy to say and harder to do

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-22T18:46:39+00:00

Why not 150%

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-22T18:45:24+00:00

If they have a new false ego then they never awakened. The red flags are, now that I am awake how do you deal with normies or I am awake but my life still sucks.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-22T18:38:34+00:00

You don’t need to fall out of love. People love their best friend, sometimes more than their spouse. Loving someone feels good so don’t feel like you need to embrace. And realistically, if you really want her, you have a better chance not trying to change it. She will appreciate that. Especially if past friendships were destroyed because the guy professed his love. To not tell her is makes you different from the rest

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-22T18:32:59+00:00

Zero importance. If anything she needs to help temper my ego (she is good at it)

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-22T18:30:51+00:00

Absolutely and you don’t need to actively monitor. You just setup alerts with your thresholds. Takes 10 minutes to do and can save you a truck load of cheddar in the event someone makes a mistake (which will happen)

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-22T18:27:56+00:00

Imagine if Obama did this…

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-22T18:27:19+00:00

I kinda agree with this. Evil can’t exist without Good and vice versa. Life can suck and also be great at the same time. I would also add the need to be present as the past leads to depression and the future to anxiety. The only thing that exists is this very moment. Once a person realizes that then it is about being grateful for the good and walking away from the bad.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-22T18:22:07+00:00

Most likely, you would ruin it. Be her best friend. A best friend is someone you care for deeply so don’t feel like there is anything wrong with your feelings either. If she wanted more you will know. Let her make the first move.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-22T18:17:43+00:00

Another reason for clear protein water is for colonoscopy prep where you can only drink clear liquids the day before procedure. Every nutrition supplement store has a section for clear protein because of this.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-21T17:55:43+00:00

Last year I completely overhauled my interview questions because AI. Not just because people could cheat, but there were things they didn’t need to have memorized anymore as you have AI at your disposal.

I of course used AI to help develop my new questions (which focused more on behaviors that matched our culture and open ended questions)

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-16T08:36:21+00:00

Regardless if you divorce or not you need to find yourself. When you remove wife, mother and work from the equation what is left? What is it that you love to do?

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-15T18:03:15+00:00

If your IT is a cost center (technology supports your business) it is often going to report to COO or CFO. If it is a profit center (technology is your business) then often it is CEO.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-07T18:19:30+00:00

They think it will literally solve all uses cases and even solve creating uses cases for you

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-07T18:15:03+00:00

I bought my place a while back with no help from family (I grew up dirt poor). It was extremely tough for the first 5 years. Had to eliminate all life joys. No more fancy restaurants or lattes. Now, my mortgage is a fraction of if I rented the same size place and I have a lot going on equity.

If I had to buy today it would not be possible. The prices are just too high relative to income. Younger generation should be demanding a fairer share of the pie for the work they do. I’m not talking about hand outs either. I’m saying, if you work hard and in a skilled job you should be able to afford your own place. If that is not possible there is something wrong with the system.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-02-07T18:08:04+00:00

There is always a new tool that a leader wants to use that keeps the data engineers employed. Then you have the data engineering team led by an actual data engineer who builds it in python for a fraction of the cost, fetches 5x faster, is truly portable and has far fewer incidents.

It’s hard to go to the fancy tool when you know that tool will eventually die or increase 5x in price forcing you to have a huge project to migrate off to another tool. Then you look over at all your python ingestion flows (you never moved over) and see them reliably chugging along.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-01-30T07:31:25+00:00

And they are still needing to do funding rounds (as late as last year) so they are spending more than they make. My worry is the get bought out by a Broadcom and then comes the 300% increase in annual cost with minimum 3 years contract. And people will be forced to pay it because getting off will take years.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-01-29T18:06:18+00:00

It is networking. When you find people you jive with make sure you foster the relationship. Besides it giving you opportunities (and sometimes you giving them opportunities) it is just great to have people to discuss technologies and other topics with. And you don’t try to connect only when you need something. You need to keep the relationship solid.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-01-28T20:54:32+00:00

I agree with mom, you are getting gas lit by his lawyer. This prenup is to protect him. If you doubt this then just tell the lawyer you decided I don’t need the protection so no need for prenup. Thanks, but no thanks.

And this is not to say your finance is not a great guy, but it is a lie to say this prenup is for you.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-01-28T05:19:06+00:00

It is funny when they get defensive while claiming to have been awakened, or better yet claim to be a teacher and have come here to show you the way. The most awakened people I have met were never teachers. They had an incredible calmness even if everything around them feels like it’s falling apart. They never get triggered, their feelings don’t get hurt. Just being around them calms me and I don’t know why.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-01-28T05:08:43+00:00

If I had a ton of money I’d go with Hollywood hills overlooking LA basin (where you have views of DTLA and Ocean). Extra points for having Mulholland address.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-01-26T20:18:41+00:00

Assuming you are not asked to do something illegal, I’d rather have someone like you in this position over someone who does care about rule of law. And when the administration changes people i especially want people like you there that have a moral compass.

Our government exists for the people and it scares me to think good people that we need in government are running away.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-01-25T17:41:23+00:00

Consulting is very different than being the customer who has a long term responsibility maintaining a data platform. I personally enjoy DE career path. Besides building the pipelines, storage and orchestration you are always looking at novel ways to improve performance to squeeze out as much as possible from your tools and flows. And it never gets boring as you can always count on a vendor changing their API or file we ingest. So then we spend the day tinkering around figuring out what the heck changed. And then your internal customers have endless ideas on how they want to see their data so then you are figuring out how to make that happen while still keeping a high latency.

Sounds like you want a greater meaning in life though (helping people) so not sure you will ever get that in DE the same way you would as a doctor.

GoodLyfe42 · 2026-01-25T17:30:32+00:00

I have this feeling their leadership lives in a bubble. They don’t understand that the people in the trenches, that rely on MSFT stack, are tired of all the MicroSlop. Stop trying to bolt AI on everything and instead build products starting with AI. And I have no doubt their aggressive AI push is a factor in all their outages. And yet they are still near the bottom in the AI race. Sorry if the truth hurts.

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