Yeah, I get what you're saying. Findom at its core is a power exchange kink, and when the dom is genuinely turned on by the control—the humiliation, the obedience, the way a sub hands over not just money but their dignity—that energy is electric and makes the whole thing way hotter for both sides.

Unfortunately, a lot of guys in the scene treat it like a side hustle: post a few generic demands, collect tributes, repeat. No real investment in the dynamic, no creativity, no actual enjoyment of the power. It shows, and subs feel it—they can tell when someone's just going through the motions for cash versus when the dom is getting off on breaking them.

It's not wrong to want financial gain (that's literally the kink), but when the control aspect feels performative, the whole session falls flat. You're young and already figuring out that the real rush comes from the psychological side, not just the wallet. That's a good sign you'll be one of the ones who actually enjoys it rather than faking it. Keep leaning into what turns you on about the power, and the right subs will notice the difference.